Miscarriage

[MrsD1992]

Hi everyone, I’ve just suffered a miscarriage 3 days ago when I should have been 11 weeks - ultrasound scan showed the pregnancy had stopped at 8 weeks, I have also miscarried 3 years ago. I’m incredibly nervous to get pregnant again but also want to try again immediately as having a baby is all me and my husband want right now. Any advice on how long it could take us/chances of a successful pregnancy next time? Anyone been in the same position? Any advice would be very much appreciated x

I got pregnant first try after 2 or my miscarriages and both went on to be successful pregnancies.

Fingers crossed for you and sorry for your loss. It’s such a hard thing to go through

Sorry no advice but I’m going through the same thing today. I’m almost 9 weeks but baby stopped at 6+4. Waiting for the next steps at EPU appointment tomorrow as I’ve not started bleeding. Sorry you’re going through this too xx

Hi @MrsD1992 I'm really sorry to hear about you loss I had 2 miscarriages in the last 12 months, one at 6 weeks and one at 12 weeks which was only in July. I'm pregnant again now 11 weeks and honestly terrified but I read somewhere its a 7% chance of 2 miscarriages but only a 1% chance of a third so that hope is getting me through it. We seem to be lucky that we do get pregnant quickly and the miscarriages haven't affected that. Just make sure you are mentally ready, it definitely took me longer mentally between the first and second to recover to the idea of having another. But after the second i feel like it just reinforced how much i wanted a baby with my other half. Now I just have all fingers crossed for my scan in 2 weeks. Hopefully you get your rainbow baby soon

@AprilM23 Thank you so much for your comment, I don’t have anyone I know who’s been through it to understand so it’s nice to talk to someone who’s been in a similar situation. I’m really hoping when we try again it’s successful, I don’t think I could cope with a third miscarriage 😔 good luck for your scan! ☺️

@MrsD1992 I'm the same and everyone is well meaning but its so hard to talk to people who haven't experienced it. Its amazing to be able to come on forums and talk to people and also see the success stories that really helps. My last miscarriage they found I had a massive ovarian cyst on the ultrasound and I had that removed in September so I'm hoping that was a contributing factor to the miscarriages and now its gone ill be ok. But that surgery removed half of one of my ovaries and I fell pregnant the month after so I'm hoping its finally meant to be x

I miscarried in my twenties, miscarried in my thirties. Began to accept life was in different path for me than the one I wished. Three years ago I moved to further my career, went on internet date a month after moving with the man that would become my fiance and now sitting here, in my forties with my 4 week old daughter sleeping on my chest and a great man cooking my tea. Miscarriages were hell and there is no guarantees in life but there is always hope. Thoughts are with you

Sorry for your losses. I hope that you have good support and manage to take some time to look after yourself.

No advice but I am also facing the same questions as you. Miscarried two days ago and already feeling nervous at the thought of trying again. Will probably take a short break if anything just to reset our minds.

@MrsD1992 so sorry for your losses xx I've had 2 non consecutive miscarriages and both times have started ttc straight away. Both times I fell pregnant after my first period after the mmc. Wishing you the best of luck xx

Hi @Morituritesalutant sorry you have been through this too. Did it take you long to ovulate after the miscarriages?

I've been reading up on similar stats and percentages as others had mentioned above.

I had a CP in June and then got pregnant again in September but miscarried in October when I should have been 9wks but baby measured 7wks.

I found out I was pregnant again just days ago so only 4-5 weeks and I'm convinced this is also going to end in tears but doing my best to stay positive. Chances of another miscarriage are so low but once you've even through it it's hard to shake.

Sorry for your loss, and best of luck for the future!

Hi @Rumples thank you for your comment. Sorry to hear about your losses, it’s crazy how many people go through these awful things!
Did it take you long to ovulate/conceive afterward your last miscarriage?
Congratulations on this pregnancy - fingers crossed everything is going to be fine I’m sure it will be xx

After each of mine I was recommended to wait a cycle to let the body recover.

I had 2 mc in a row and now nearly 37 weeks pregnant. I won't lie that I have been anxious all the way through..

Good luck trying again

Thankyou! Praying this one works out.

I only had one period in between miscarriage and conceiving again. I'm not sure if I ovulated between miscarriage & period though as I wasn't tracking during that time.

Hopefully you conceive again quickly if that's what you want 🤞.

Only thing I would suggest is to track ovulation as I didn't ovulate until much later than expected so could have missed it if I wasn't tracking xx

Sorry to hear you're going through this @MrsD1992. I had a mc in late July at 6 weeks, tested negative on day 5 of bleeding and stopped by day 7. Period started 28 days later and I was pregnant about a month after that in Sept nearly 20 weeks now.

You say you don't know anyone that has been through this but you'd be surprised. I never knew anyone that mc until I told my neighbor about mine and she told me she suffered 3 losses, two work colleagues told me about theirs, another pregnant friend who I was meeting whilst having the mc told me about hers. They all understood what I was going through as do the ladies in this thread. So please reach out to someone and look after yourself ❤️❤️❤️

I don't track ovulation but I watch my cervical mucus as I find it easier and I have loads of egg white cervical mucus around when I'm due to ovulate. It worked for me with my two kids and mc and current pregnancy.

Another mumnetter posted the reassurance website link here

datayze.com/miscarriage-reassurer

Hey. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I had two easy pregnancies when I was 28/ 30. I then had 4 miscarriages before baby 3 and then 3 more before my current pregnancy (I’m 17 wks now). My 4 miscarriages were all in the space of a year and between (1 chemical others all 6-8 wks). My cycles pinged back straight away each time and I often fell pregnant again 1-2 cycles later. This time has been more difficult we had a missed miscarriage which needed surgical management. I bled for 3 months after this and ended up taking the pill for a couple of months to regulate my cycle. Where I’ve miscarried naturally though I’ve always become pregnant again quickly.

Good luck. I know how hard it is. Every loss I would say I couldn’t go through it again and then somehow I did because I wanted a baby so badly. Even after two losses your chances of carrying a pregnancy to term are still very good

Hi @Mishmased thank you for commenting and also sharing your experience! I took a pregnancy test this morning and it’s still positive so I guess I need to wait a little longer for the hcg to drop. Bleeding has got lighter and lighter so fingers crossed it’s coming to an end 🤞🏼
I’m terrified to get pregnant again after this but we want to try asap! Did you feel nervous being pregnant after MC?

Hi @Moo678 I’m so sorry to hear you have had so many miscarriages that’s awful! 😔 that’s quite positive to hear it didn’t take you long to conceive after the miscarriages - I guess that gives me some hope! Mine was a missed miscarriage too but I had the medication and now 6 days later I would say my bleeding is coming to an end! Do you know if it’s true that you are more fertile after you miscarry?

Thank you for your positive words I do hope I have a good chance after this 🤞🏼

@MrsD1992 I'm a bundle of nerves if I'm honest and this pregnancy has been quite tough. I started bleeding again at 4 weeks and couldn't be seen until 6 weeks. Scan showed a hematoma and bleed continued until 8 weeks but was gone at 12 week scan. So not all bleeding is bad news. I sort of resigned myself to the fact that there is nothing I can do to change the outcome. I take my pregnancy multivitamin and others and hope for the best. In the early days I used to count down the days until 6 weeks (mc at 6 weeks) then weekly and the miscarriage reassurance website was a big help. I'm nearly 20 weeks and still a wreck but the further along I get the more reassured I am. Are you getting bloods tested for hcg levels? My last test was 6 and anything under 5 confirms gestation has ended.
Make sure to look after yourself and try again when you feel ready ❤️

hi @MrsD1992 so sorry to hear about your losses :( its such a sht time. i so agree with @Mishmased* - its sadly so common so although ppl dont talk about it, its amazing how many ppl u find u know who r going thru similar or have gone thru it.
we had a MMC at 11 weeks in Oct, when i told my boss i also mentioned it to a few ppl at work as i didnt see any reason not to explain my absence, u then find others who have been through their own challenges around getting pregnant etc- it definitely helped me opening up as people then share their stories and helped me realise i wasnt alone and what i was feeling wasnt weird or over the top etc.
now...tentatively saying it....nearly 5 weeks pregnant. anxiety levels thru the roof and sounds awful but finding it hard to be excited about it at the moment. guess its just trying to minimise any sadness and grief should the same thing happen again. but anyway, like others have said, only had 1 period after the miscarriage - and know we were fortunate with this and that cycles had seemingly got back to what they were.
wishing u all the best with TTC and sending you hugs at this time x

Been reading all your comments and have found it reassuring. Thank you all so much I just had a miscarriage at 8+4days on NYE. spotting and light cramping started on 28th. I was sent to hospital for an urgent scan late night but the doctor there only checked to see that it was not an ectopic pregnancy and that my cervix was still closed so didn’t think I was having a miscarriage. She told me to come back today for a thorough scan however I ended up having a miscarriage in the week. It was the most painful and traumatic experience of my life! I’m surprised to learn how many women actually go through it!! Unfortunately I don’t know the reason for my miscarriage because the doctor had not measured anything but should have according to the doctor I saw today. Not knowing what exactly happened is tormenting. I feel so emotionally drained. Felt this was my last chance as I am 44 and my DH is 46. We met 5 years ago when I was 39, bought a house together when I was 41 and fell pregnant straightaway giving birth when I turned 42 to a beautiful girl who is now 2. We really did not want her to grow up on her own but I wanted to get back into work before trying again then Covid happened and I was too scared to fall pregnant because I suffer from asthma. When finally the vaccinations were announced we tried and I fell pregnant Straightaway but it ended up this way. Maybe i am too old and should give up but my desire to give my daughter a sibling overrides the fear. I don’t want to wait a for a cycle due to my age. I would like to try when I next ovulate in approx 10 days time but unsure if it’s the right thing to do. Did anyone else conceive and had a successful pregnancy straight after a miscarriage?

Hi @SamMart glad these messages have helped you! You miscarried only a few days after me then! What a rubbish time for us to have to go through this - after such a shit year aswell! For me and my husband this was the best news of this year and unfortunately ended like this 😞 I was given the medication to bring in the miscarriage - definitely agree with you it was the most traumatic experience for me too wouldn’t wish it on anybody! It’s so common to miscarry and most are just natural causes and unexplained. I loved reading your story about your husband and little girl! Please do not give up as you never know! I am very much the same as you we would like to try and soon as I ovulate - just waiting to stop bleeding and get a negative test. I would also like to hear more success stories straight after a MC but I have already read a few :) although some people say it’s true you’re more fertile after a MC others don’t agree so I’m not sure what to believe on this. X

@leftitlate37 so sorry to hear of your loss, it is so heartbreaking. I suppose the silver lining of my mc is hearing peoples stories because a mc was never on my radar. Opening up to people meant people opened up to me and the support is great. Congrats on this pregnancy, hope it goes well, just take on day at a time and fingers crossed it will be smooth sailing.xxx

@SamMart so sorry for your loss. Please don't give up if this is what you really want. I know people on these boards have gotten pregnant straight after a mc but I had a period before next pregnancy. If you feel comfortable no reason not to. Sending you best wishes.xxx

It is good that you opened this thread. I’m really sorry for your loss too and really hope that your next pregnancy is successful! I know people around me who have miscarried and can now totally relate to their loss. My best friend had 2 miscarriages both a year apart and is now 33 weeks pregnant with everything looking positive so fingers crossed you too. X

Thank you for your kind words and good luck to you too. Based on my last pregnancy, it is normal to be worried all throughout your pregnancy but I can understand how your previous experiences have heightened your worries. The statistics are really good once you reach 12 weeks so keep that in mind and try to enjoy this wonderful experience :-)