Pregnant after miscarriage - due summer

[notalwaysalondoner]

Hi all,

I wanted to start a thread for those of us due June/July/August who have experienced one or more losses. I think for us our pregnancy experience is a bit different to those who have never had a loss, particularly when we get nervous about getting excited.

I’m 8+3 and due 26 July. I had an anembryonic pregnancy found at 9 weeks in May, which I had surgical management for. I then had a very early miscarriage at 4+5 in September. We’ve had a private scan at 7 weeks where we saw the heartbeat and our little prawn seemed fine, which was such a relief after the horror of the scans where I just had a big blank space in my anembryonic pregnancy. I have another scan booked for Saturday after which I think I’ll tell my parents and in laws as they’ll notice me not drinking at Christmas anyway!

Be great to hear your stories and support each other at this time!

ahh @MumToBeMaz and @PurplePansy05 how lovely to see your scan pics! glad things are going well and congratulations!! hopefully you can relax a bit now :)

i'm feeling way better now - i think my hormones must have been going mental the other day, starting to feel less panicky about every stretch and tug i feel, i'm even starting to feel what i think might be flutters, but it's still super faint so hard to say for sure if it's the baby!

Thank you @northerngal20! I'm feeling utterly rubbish today tbh! Just the usual pregnancy stuff, but it's flattened me!

@notinthestarsigns How was your scan? Are you on the Aug 21 thread as well by any chance, or am I mixing things up? 🙈

Hi @PurplePansy05, thanks for asking. Yes that’s me! Everything looked normal for this stage and we saw the heartbeat. I did really struggle being back there, especially as I had to walk past the door that leads to the bereavement suite where my baby was born and we spent the day with him. Just need to try and keep as calm as I can now for the next few weeks! Sorry you haven’t felt good today, it’s all so exhausting isn’t it? Physically and mentally.

It is. Although I have to say, I felt much worse emotionally in previous pregnancies, I was very much in the grieving phase and so, so worried. Then when two more didn't work out, part of me has just forever expected the bad news so this time round everything is a surprise really. Although I will say I felt stressed having my scans at the EPU (the RMC is based there at my hospital), I had so many bad experiences there that I was really dreading it!

That’s good that you’re feeling better than you have done previously. I keep on trying to tell myself that worrying is not going to have any impact on the outcome but it’s so hard not to worry having been through such a traumatic experience. The 12 week scan will be a really big one for us as that’s when we first found out there might be problems last time x

12 week scan day for me today, and I feel like a nervous wreck now and barely slept last night. All I can think of is the worst happening again so trying to be positive this morning and hoping its 3rd time lucky x

How did it go @AprilM23?

@PurplePansy05 not well at all unfortunately there was no heartbeat and baby stopped growing at 7 weeks we are just so sad right now. 3 in a row we were hoping 3rd time lucky, but hopefully now we can get some answers from the recurrent miscarriage clinic. It just sucks, but we will get there in the end. Hopefully everyone gets much better news than we did xx

I’m so sorry @AprilM23 xxx

Oh I'm so sorry @AprilM23 I'm an RMC patient, this is my fourth pregnancy after three losses. If you have any questions, please fire away. So sorry again, it's a really horrid experience to go through this pain over and over again. Sending you lots of love and strength xxx

Thanks so much @notinthestarsigns and @PurplePansy05 @PurplePansy05 that's good to hear and hopefully everything goes well for your pregnancy. Its weird how each loss gets harder I keep thinking I should be used to this by now. But hopefully just take some time to heal and the RMC clinic can give us some help xx

@AprilM23 Definitely, take as much time as needed and hopefully you'll be on a better path with more support now. It's never easy

Hey ladies, how are you all doing?

I've been struggling the last week or two as my symptoms seem to have eased and obviously after last time I assumed the worst was happening even though I didn't have any bleeding or cramping.

We decided to book a private scan for this morning and it was all in my head. We got to see and hear the heartbeat and saw the baby kicking and waving it's arms around.

This has genuinely been the longest 2 months of my life, I hope it gets easier as time goes on.