[quote DixitWinner]@ivegotanemptyfeeling - I was in a similar situation to your DD, expect I was on a treatment dose of fragmin after having clots during pregnancy (so on a much higher dose that your daughter) and needed a section as I’d had two previously.
I was told at 36 weeks “labour isn’t imminent, you need to take the fragmin and go home” despite the fact that I was having mild contractions every 10 minutes (and having been in labour before, that is how mine always started!) The dr talked over me and would not listen to what I was telling her about my own body, even though I was saying clearly “I’ve been in labour before and I know what it feels like.”
I took the fragmin. Three hours later I was 6cm and had to have be rushed in for a general anaesthetic, had huge blood loss and my baby was taken to NICU. I’d been left to labour alone, without pain relief or continuous monitoring, because the dr refused to come back and see me even when I went back in, as she had decided I was not in labour. The midwives had to really fight to get anyone to come to examine me at all.
She put my life at risk and she also did it with an extremely cold and dismissive attitude (and it was that attitude I found hardest to forgive, any dr could make the wrong judgement call I suppose)
I wish so much that I had pushed for an investigation. The haematologist did come and apologise to me afterwards and say that he would never have let them take me to theatre if he was working, as the timing was far too dangerous (it was the weekend so he was not spiking) so I’d like to think there was an internal investigation afterwards.
I was too tired and traumatised at the time to take things any further though. I feel angry on your daughters behalf and it is good she has you to support her in getting this incident properly investigated.
How hard it to actually LISTEN to women who say they are in early labour, if they have experienced it before, and to make decisions taking that into account, rather than “well your cervix is closed”. The same with denying pain relief as “it is too early”.[/quote]
Exactly - they don't listen.
They completely put her off ringing back as her contractions continued all through the Sunday night. This is not acceptable. It lead to an emergency situation.
They were furiously trying to stop her contractions with various pills and potions because she'd had fragmin at 10.30pm the night before after having been told very low chance of labour despite regular contractions being recorded and the cervix being low. They said that they needed at least 24 hrs since the last injection before the birth. They had had all the previous day when she was being checked in triage to stop her contractions - and she should've been told not to have another injection. Surely the baby would have been better off being 'cooked' a little longer in any circumstances. She had had previous precipitous labours. She had massive blood loss due to retained placenta - there were complications during this procedure.
She had a further transfusion last Wednesday - her bloods are now low but sufficient. She was discharged on Friday. She was given a further 42 fragmin injections for home. She was told that it was due to recently having covid that she gave birth so prematurely. Baby has tested negative.
Baby is doing really well. He is very long and skinny. He is in upto 5lb clothes due to his length. He was dressed on Monday for the first time and will be moved to a cot today. He had his first breastfeed yesterday and will be having three breastfeeds today (3 hrly). Mum is having no problems with expressing for the tube feeds (her other son is just 10 months old).
Oh - and she was on the wrong dose of fragmin originally - a much higher dose than needed for her weight. She is now on the correct dose.
She has been regularly checked by midwives and doctors when she's been in the special care unit - she actually looks really ill. So the after care that she's had has been second to none.
Mum and baby will be fine. ☺️
Nana (me) was having kittens 😬
I think it could have been avoided with the correct treatment.
I will urge my daughter to seek some form of debriefing when this is over.