Is the baby mine?

[New93]

Recently I found out I’m going to be a dad the only problem is the dates don’t match up... on 3rd November she had her first scan and was told she was 6 weeks. Problem is the last time we had sex was 12th September which would leave a 2 week gap... and to make things worse anytime I bring it up she gets mad and try’s to avoid answering any questions to do with it simply saying it is 100% mine and I don’t have to worry. She doesn’t want me at the scan either which makes it even more strange... my question is am I right on thinking these dates don’t add up as I’m now concerned she has been unfaithful and the child’s not mine because of the 2 week gap. yes once the baby is born the first thing I will do is get a dna test but till then is she correct that I’m worrying over nothing or am I right to worry because of the dates ?

If your last date of intercourse is correct the baby cant be yours. Sorry hun... they wouldn't be wrong by 2-3 weeks. A day or two maybe but not that far out. Hope your doing OK

Spot on. Congratulations. Is the relationship ok now?

Sorry to hear that OP. I also have pregnancies with long ranges/odd dates but, even being generous, she conceived 10+ weeks ago and you last saw her 13 weeks ago. I think she has a lot of questions to answer. Hope you’re doing ok.

Sorry but there’s no way that baby is yours if it’s been dated 6 weeks. Yes there is room for error but not that much!

She has already admitted to being with others but doesn’t know how many or when so definitely don’t think it is mine but will still do a dna test when the child is born just to be certain. And iv already been for an std test aswell which came back negative for everything

It’s almost certainly not your child.

Rightly, once the baby is born a DNA test would be good to confirm.

I'm sorry OP... sorry that you were treated badly on here when asking for advice and sorry you found out she's been very unfaithful... there was lots of good advice on here too... glad you checked things out .. you did the right thing ..

good luck with the dna test when you are able... 🌺

So sorry to hear this op! X

You'll only know once you do a dna test. If she refuses you can ask family court to step in.
Her reaction is a bit strange

@New93

She has already admitted to being with others but doesn’t know how many or when so definitely don’t think it is mine but will still do a dna test when the child is born just to be certain. And iv already been for an std test aswell which came back negative for everything

That’s good. In the meantime, until you get a positive dna result, I would take a step back. Don’t engage with her if she asks for money but do seek legal advice. If she’s been lying to you now it’s possible she may refuse to do the test / let you see the child after the birth if you don’t play by her rules so you may need a court order. Seeking advice now will save you time later

@JanetPudding

6 weeks would mean conception on or around October 6th and her last period starting September 22nd.

⬆️ This. Did you have sex around this time? Also bear in mind that scans can be wrong/inaccurate

Sorry just read the rest of the comments... it doesn’t sound like the baby is yours. Maybe you are the nicest bloke of the bunch and so she would like you to be the daddy - but biologically that doesn’t sound possible.

Yes we had sex on the 12 September

OP when my dates were out of whack it was because the embryo wasn't growing properly and I had a miscarriage at 11 weeks. I wasn't told at the 6 week private scan, just that I was very very early but I had some pain a while later so at another scan weeks later I could see it hadn't grown much at all. Eventually I had a miscarriage.

Please don't treat her badly because of dates and accusations. There could be an innocent explanation.

Are you still in a relationship and do you plan to be a father to the child whether it is yours or not? I would certainly get a DNA test done once the baby arrives then decide how much involvement you want depending on the outcome.

@Jobsharenightmare

OP when my dates were out of whack it was because the embryo wasn't growing properly and I had a miscarriage at 11 weeks. I wasn't told at the 6 week private scan, just that I was very very early but I had some pain a while later so at another scan weeks later I could see it hadn't grown much at all. Eventually I had a miscarriage.

Please don't treat her badly because of dates and accusations. There could be an innocent explanation.

Rtft.

@Jobsharenightmare

OP when my dates were out of whack it was because the embryo wasn't growing properly and I had a miscarriage at 11 weeks. I wasn't told at the 6 week private scan, just that I was very very early but I had some pain a while later so at another scan weeks later I could see it hadn't grown much at all. Eventually I had a miscarriage.

Please don't treat her badly because of dates and accusations. There could be an innocent explanation.

He did say she has admitted to cheating numerous times with multiple people unfortunately :(

@New93

So sorry. Just saw your update. The latest scan would mean a conception date of ~2nd October. No way would a scan at that stage of development be off by 3 weeks (20 days.) I know you already said that she's admitted cheating on you, but you should also understand that if you're sure that 12th September is when you last slept with her, there's no way the baby could be yours

I don't know if this helps at all but currently I am 27 weeks pregnant and 3 days. Thats according to my last period but in reality I am actually 25 weeks and 3 days because I ovulated exactly 2 weeks after my period (and I know for a fact I got pregnant on the day I ovulated) so I can see how you are confused. Like other posters have stated you actually aren't pregnant for 2 weeks of the pregnancy. ( I know very confusing) 🤣

I hope you get it all sorted and you are little ones dad!

Any updates OP 🌺

No unfortunately as we have both now stopped speaking because of it all but I have told her that I’ll still do a dna when the baby is born and will step up and be a dad if the baby is mine

I dont blame you in your decision and neither can she. At least you are doing the right thing and having the test when baby is here. Hope your OK x