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having children over 40

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Mog · 23/09/2002 17:05

I'm currently pregnant with my second baby at 39. Probably this will be the last one because of my age but has anyone had a second or third over forty? would love to know how it went.

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lilibet · 23/09/2002 17:15

Mog, congrats! I'm not expecting, but just thrilled to see that there is someone the same age as me on here!

SueDonim · 23/09/2002 17:29

Congratulations on your pg, Mog. I had my fourth at 42, so you've time to fit in another one! As to how the pg went, I was horribly sick for the first few months, I felt so ill I wanted to die. Otherwise, it went okay and labour was fine, too, although I had a PPH from which I took quite a long time to recover. Best wishes!

SofiaAmes · 23/09/2002 19:33

Mog, I too am pregnant with my second at 39. If it weren't for the being pregnant part which I have found absolutely miserable both times, I would have more. I have a friend who had her first at 46!

Marina · 23/09/2002 19:38

Congratulations Mog! Can't offer any insights but at 39 hope to be joining you in due course, so I hope you get lots of useful replies.

Lindy · 23/09/2002 19:57

Not quite answering your question, but I had my baby (first & last!) just 2 months before my 43rd birthday.

Congratulations on your news, hope you are keeping well.

janh · 23/09/2002 20:06

Hi, Mog, congratulations! I had my third at 37, and 4th at 42 like Suedonim, and didn't feel as bad with either as I did with my second at 33. (Mind you I still spent much of 6th week - 12th week, with 4th, lying down feeling queasy, so it was a good job 3rd had just started school, but was fine after that and in fact from 6 months on I felt FANTASTIC.)

Don't forget Patricia Hodge too - she had 1st at about 45 and 2nd at about 48 I think.

Lots of luck - keep us posted!

Marina, lots of luck to you too, and you keep us posted too. You have plenty of time but do get rested and recovered - take care.

Enid · 23/09/2002 20:12

My mum had her fourth at 44 and found it an easy and straightforward pg/birth.

Deborahf · 23/09/2002 20:35

Hi Mog - I had my first (ds) at 35½ and my second (dd) at 41. Both pregnancies were easy and the second labour was much easier than the first!! Thinking about another in about a year or two - I'll be about 44

WideWebWitch · 23/09/2002 20:40

This is all so heartening, thanks! (I'm 35, thinking about no 2)

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Scuba · 23/09/2002 22:31

Congrats Mogs and SofiaAmes briliant news I'm really pleased for you.

CAM · 24/09/2002 10:59

Had dd2 at 40, pregnancy and birth good but was so tired for first few months. Unfortunately the lack of sleep gets us oldsters but what we lack in energy we make up for in serenity and patience (yeah right!)Love having a 5 year old now.

Lizzer · 24/09/2002 12:07

Congrats Mog - My mum had my little sister when she was 42 (after having me at 24, my bro at 29!) She was fine, but again really tired towards the end. The labour and delivery was fine, really easy (?!) apparently, with no pain relief as there wasn't time. My sister is very treasured (not saying spoilt!) and at 9 is keeping Mum and Dad busy with the usual school, brownie, sleepover things that she's going through at the moment. That said Mum is dreading her teenage years - she doesn't want to go through what I was like again...nightmare!

CAM · 24/09/2002 12:10

Lizzer, she'll be like I will by then, too tired to care. I'll be "oh go out all night if you want to just don't wake me up when you come in"!!

tigermoth · 24/09/2002 13:59

HI mog, I had my second baby aged 41 years. Very similar pregnancy as my first, when I was 35. Sickness in first trimester, then no huge complications. Only difference, as CAM and others have said, was slightly more tiredness throughout. Also, after the birth, it took me a week or so longer to get back to near normal and a few months to recover my energy.

Lindy · 24/09/2002 19:23

Cam - only so tired for the first few months ? - I'm permanently knackered 18 months later!!!!

Tinker · 24/09/2002 21:06

I am very encouraged by these stories. Will be 38 (ouch) in a few weeks and just recently have been feeling overwhelmingly broody! My granny had her last at 47 so hope it's in the genes.

Clarinet60 · 24/09/2002 22:46

Congrats Mog! I had my first at 35 and my second this year at 38. Let the good times roll!

Munchkinsugarpie · 24/09/2002 22:54

Congrats to the pg mumsters! I had my one and only when I'd just turned 41 - thought I'd be the only one at that age, but surprisingly found quite a few older first time mums. Phew - good luck and enjoy it...

Copper · 25/09/2002 09:14

My mother had her fourth child at 43 - easy pregnancy and labour, and the fact of having a younger child (the other 3 were 16, 12 and 7) has kept her much younger and more active than any other of her contemporaries. This is the woman who, at the age of 80, and 18 months after having a mastectomyand radiotherapy, took my kids for a two weeks traditional seaside holiday with swimming, crabbing, barbecues, bonfires, long walks etc. My father is also a miracle for 81, and regularly swims in the sea (for pleasure in the summer). We worked out recently that with children and grandchildren they have had young children in their lives nonstop since 1947. I really hope to be like her.

triplets · 25/09/2002 21:47

Congratulations Mog,
I had my first baby at 27, sadly Matthew died when I was 42, he was my only child. Ater three attempts at IVF I gave birth to TRIPLETS two months off of my 46th birthday! The pregnancy was no worse than when I had carried Matthew, except I was sick for longer, up unto week 17. They were delivered by cesaerean, two boys and a little girl, 4lb 3oz, 4lb 7oz, and 3lb, Thomas, James and Rebecca. They have just started school and I am 50! Yes I get very tired, but I think if I were 20 with triplets I would. The great thing about being an older Mum is that you are much more relaxed about everything, and its true, they keep you young! Good luck and lots of love. xxx

sammac · 25/09/2002 22:33

Well done Mog.
I had no.2 at 40 and had a great pregnancy with no complications. In fact out of 3 at work pregnant at the same time, I had the best health- and they were at least 10 years younger. The only time I had off was when I had an amnio- which was fine.
The only time I felt 'old' was when I was in hospital- the girl next to me was 16 and her mum i.e. the granny- was 34!!!

susieblue · 26/09/2002 21:41

I am pregnant myself with no. 2 at 39 years and was pleased to see Mogs question and all your replies because although I have not yet had no.2 (due January 2003)I feel I could go for a 3rd! I had my first at 36 and the only difference I think I can remember is that I feel a little more tired but then I am running around after a 3 year old boy but I do feel pretty healthy. I have had miscarriage problems in the past and with this pregancy have had nuchal scan (as with the first), amnio (a new experience for me) but feel it is all worth it and having read all your stories about having second/third babies over forty I think I could definitely go for it again! Well after I have had no. 2. I dont deny I have my "off" days but do feel young at heart and a lot of the younger girls I see at the hospital dont believe I am 40 next year. Up with us older mums!

maras · 27/09/2002 11:24

Congratulation Mog!
I had my first at 37, 2nd at (just) 40 - and am now pregnant with my third - due in 10 weeks - I'm now 43. With the first 2 I didn't think anything about being an "older" mother - in fact I felt very young! When I look at photos of when dd was born (no 2) I look so young!! Sadly I seem to have gone down hill at bit in the last couple of years...5 years of broken nights are now taking their toll!! I did have a mental cut-off point of 42 if I was going to have a 3rd (no idea why!) but I knew I couldn't have coped with another quite so soon and then had an early miscarriage so I've missed my deadline by 6 months (!!) and do find that I'm worrying more about things being wrong/ being too old/ will I have enough energy etc...in spite of the fact that this pregnancy has been as trouble free as the others. But this could also be because I have 2 healthy wonderful children already and I wonder if I'm pushing my luck trying for a third.( I did have a CVS after a high nucal fold scan reading - but that showed no problems). So at 39 you're a spring chicken!!! I am finding that I do get more tired than previously - but it's always related to extreme lack of sleep - not a general thing - and whenever (not often!!) I get a chance to catch up on sleep I feel so much better. I worry what I be like when I'm up half the night feeding the baby....I'll keep you posted!!! (if I'm able to string more than a couple of words together without losing track that is!)
It's great to read this thread as I'm always on the look out for mum's who are older than me (even if it's only by a few months!!) ...Hopefully it's not that I'm subconsciously weighing up the odds of going for another later on!! I do intend this one to be my last....had enough doubts about having a third early on...even now I still wonder if we're doing something a bit mad, but mostly I'm at last beginning to feel excited - when I have any time to think about it - that is!!
Copper - you're mother sounds like a real inspiration...

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