Successful pregnancy after 40

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Just want to hear positives about getting pregnant in your 40s after a miscarriage. Just positives please I'm already negative.

I got pregnant at 40 (had DS at 41), following 2 losses. We now have a very healthy and happy 5yo DS.

It’s definitely possible.

Im 48 and have had miscarriages. We’ve just discovered that I am pregnant naturally with twins. One last hurrah!? 🙂

I am 40 and pregnant with twins. It was a huge shock, especially given it took me 4 years and two full rounds of ICSI to have DD. I also had manual removal after DD’s vaginal birth as my placenta failed to deliver- I’d read that could affect fertility.

All things considered the last thing I expected was to conceive twins on the second month of trying naturally.

In terms of preparation- I had been taking a normal multivitamin, fish oil, ubiquinol and high dose vit d for a while before conceiving. I didn’t drink much alcohol, maybe 10-14 units a week? (Obviously nothing since BFP). I didn’t do any ovulation sticks, I just counted back 14 days from my next period due date (I have short, very regular periods) and fortunately we weren’t too exhausted on that day to DTD. So it is definitely possible.

@LittleTiger007 congratulations n your twin pregnancy- that is incredible! How far on are you? Are you feeling ok about it? Yes the way I see it our bodies have definitely given it one last go before menopause!

@TheMagicDeckchair I feel great so far! I’m 12 weeks so it’s early. The sickness has largely passed and I’m feeling good. However it saddens me that my parents and siblings keep talking bad stuff over us. They are convinced that the children will have Down’s syndrome and I won’t be able to cope... etc. 😥 I’m keeping away from that negativity. I’m a teacher and people with downs are lovely so that isn’t bothering me. I am keeping positive. This is my one last chance at being a mummy and I’m running with it.

Congratulations @TheMagicDeckchair on your pregnancy too! We also conceived naturally in the end. If it’s meant to be then it’s meant to be.
I’m old but I think it’s more about attitude. I don’t look or act 48. In fact the dr last year put me forward for ivf because he thought I was in my thirties and didn’t read my birthdate properly! I work with kids. It’s all about attitude and rolling with it!
Good luck to you

I'm 43 and 18 weeks pregnant. All is going well so far. My scan and blood test at 12 weeks was very low risk for all the things they were checking for.

I've already got a 6 year old. She said conceived on the 2nd month of trying when I was 36. We started ttc for number when I was 42. Took 6 months before getting a positive pregnancy test which resulted in a chemical. On my second cycle after that got pregnant with current pregnancy.

I tracked with an app, didn't use ovulation sticks. Dtd around 4 or 5 times when app said "medium" or "high". I got pregnant despite having a bmi of 32.

@LittleTiger007 I’m so sorry that you don’t have more positivity around you. I must admit that I am worried about one or both of the twins having additional needs, but that’s because it would take even more attention away from DD. I think I would feel more excited if I was doing twins first time round, with no existing child to consider- and I had the blind faith and optimism first time around, but now I know how hard the early days are, I’m dreading going back to that x2!

OTOH we are experienced parents and have coping strategies, and we know that phases pass- even though it doesn’t feel like that at the time. Plus my sleep patterns are permanently wrecked from DD not sleeping through until 2.5!

Are you going to have the NIPT tests? I had mine last week (which was when I discovered about the two for one!) and just waiting for results hopefully midweek.

My first pregnancy I fell the 1st time. Then had the mmc. Then it took 8 months to get pregnant again. Then I had an early mc then took 9 months for this time around. Am currently 7+4

I had mc at 38 (9 weeks) and 40 (7 weeks) and then had successful pg at 41, born when I was 42 and low risk screening results etc - was convinced would end in mc again but took it day by day and didn't really accept it until after the 20 week scan

We are not going to have the NIPT tests. Just taking things a week/day at a time and accepting whatever happens.

@Namechanger0800

I had mc at 38 (9 weeks) and 40 (7 weeks) and then had successful pg at 41, born when I was 42 and low risk screening results etc - was convinced would end in mc again but took it day by day and didn't really accept it until after the 20 week scan

Hi namechanger0800, I just found out 10 days ago I’m pregnant after 1 mmc and 1 mc I feel really detached and don’t feel anything. I was pleased to read you accepted it at 20 week scan. I’m very worried my reaction isn’t normal. It’s not just not acknowledging or accepting it. I almost wish I wasn’t pregnant. I feel the joy of pregnancy has been stolen from my previous losses. I honestly cannot imagine myself ever feeling happy about this pregnancy.

I'm 43 (will be 44 when baby arrives) and 25+3. FTM although I had 2 MMC last year. Whenever I make reference to being an older mum, I'm told that I'm not these days!