Successful pregnancy after 40

[Sef89]

Just want to hear positives about getting pregnant in your 40s after a miscarriage. Just positives please I'm already negative.

I'm 43 and 24 wks preg and all healthy and going well. Had a TFMR aged 40 and a MMC aged 41. It did then take me 2 years and actually giving up on the hope of get preg to happily fall pregnant. My best advice is get yourself as healthy as poss, from a fitness, weight and diet perspective. Make sure you are taking supplements. I saw a nutritionist to ensure I was eating the right foods and taking the right supplements. Try not to get obsessed 😬. Good luck.

@Sef89

Littletiger007 was that a hysteroscopy.....

Yes

Orangesandmelons did you have surgery for tfmr..... Then conceived again

@LimpLettice

Yes, only once. Both times! DS2 we'd not dtd very much at all just due to lack of sleep etc. So was a real shock.

No surgery, all 3 were fairly early and passed quite early on their own.

Only once both times for us too. As long as the sperm is healthy it lasts for up to 5 days. I sat with legs up for an hour after, so as to let as much as poss swim upwards and not fall out. (Sorry tmi) 😉

Tempusfugeit Did you have any miscarriages..

I am 35 weeks pregnant at 41 via ivf. The ivf had nothing to do with my age though, I've been having fertility treatments since I was 34 due to PCOS and hardly ovulating. Never had regular cycle in my life. I've had multiple losses and this pregnancy is going really well, despite being older than the previous pregnancies. So not sure what is different now but I think that fertility is a sliding scale and different for each person. All those statistics about fertility at 35 or 40 are just that, statistics to show what is happening on a big scale. Your own situation could be different. I have several family members that got pregnant at 40, 42, 43 and one even at 46 (unplanned that one). So looking at your family history at mothers side might tell you more. Some women get menopause later than others.

@Sef89

Thefoz how long did it take you to conceive.. Did you take supplements.... Have intercourse daily or every other day..... Did you need surgery for miscarriage...

My fertility clinic (best in my country, succes rates of 40% per treatment which is quite high) advised when timing to have sex every other day unless you have a positive ovulation test, than have sex both that day and the next. Having sex every day might not be best for the sperm quality and the sperm should still be alive a day later anyway. Also, don't freak out about the amount that gets discharged after. Just keep lying in bed after his orgasm for 15 minutes, that's long enough for a lot of sperm to travel up your cervix, the rest are just hopeless stragglers and fluids.

I did have surgery because of retained placenta before this pregnancy, if that helps with your anxiety about it. Although having surgery because of a loss does carry a risk, please remember that that risk is very, very small. A lot of women went through the same thing as you, and still conceived later on. Three months is long while you're waiting, but anything up to a year is quite normal actually. That doesn't make your wait easier, I know that (too well) but it's not abnormal. The only thing I woulx advise is go to a fertility clinic after you've been at it for 6 months. An extra check can't hurt.

Hopefully i can get some positives after surgical miscarriage after 40 thanks

I had surgery for the TFMR and conceived a year later. I also had surgery for the MMC.

Thanks orangesandmelons did you try every month..... And did you track anything

My friend had her second set of twins at 47. Her first set were 17!
All got to 38 weeks and all delivered fit and well without intervention.

Sef89 Yes, sadly. One between each successful pregnancy. So grateful for what we have.

Hi - my first two miscarriages were natural with no intervention. I had a d and c with my third as it was molar and wouldnt stop growing.
We had tried on and off for a year and it wasn't happening. I was overweight, DTD at the right kind of time but not enough and I was super stressed with work.
Fell pregnant 15 months from first deciding to try. For the last three months I was taking supplements - ubiquonol and a multi preconception vitamin, I'd lost 8kg, and things had relaxed at work. The weight lost for a big one fore I think. Still not an ideal weight but not obese.
I also found Emma Canon's books and listened to some of her interviews on podcasts. She talks about mentally being positive (thinking fertile) being critical in having a baby.

43 and 32 weeks with a boy. Stay positive ❤️

Kinderwild thanks. So ttc was on and off not tracking or anything....

I bought a clear blue thing and tracked some months but I found it made me anxious tbh. I went back to Zita west's guidance on figuring out your fertile time and also on frequency of DTD. I was a lot more relaxed using that approach.

What was emma cannons approach for frequency im confused on this one too

I had a few miscarriages around 40 and really remember feeling resigned to being too old for another. We Stopped trying at 41 and then unexpectedly got pregnant with dc3 at 44. I have met at least 3 mums with similar stories and all comfortably into their 40s. All the best.

I did manage to have last pregnancy at 40. Was pregnant again a couple of years later but unfortunately the pregnancy had to TFMR as they diagnosed a chromosome issue. Then I had a chemical at 44 but it went nowhere.

Zita west says look at your secretions to figure out your fertile time. The book has a guide. She also says you should do it all the time as sperm can survive for up to 7 days.

Do it all the time or not do it all the time sorry wasn't sure which..... Thanks

Do it!

For technical info, my first miscarriage at 5 weeks passed naturally and I concieved again 2 weeks later. Sadly that was a MMC discovered at 9 weeks and I had surgery at 10 weeks. I conceived my current pregnancy 6 months after the surgery. I also saw a recurrent miscarriage consultant two months after my surgery who found a small fibroid but was happy it didn't interfere with the pregnancys or any future ones. She prescribed progesterone pesseries to take from BFP to 16 weeks.

I used clearblue ovulation tests to find out the days I was ovulating, once I knew the pattern we tried every other day for a week beforehand, the day it predicted ovulation and the day afterward. I took ubiquitol and metafolate during the period we were trying to conceive, as suggested with 'it starts with the egg'.

That was what worked for me but there are some things you just can't control and concieving is one of them unfortunately. I was very down about 4 months after my surgery when I still wasn't pregnant again, but you can only do your best each month and hope. Good luck with everything!

I'm 42 and 25 weeks pregnant with a little girl. I also have a toddler DS.
We didn't temp or track, didn't obsess, didn't buy expensive supplements. I took folic acid and had unprotected sex a lot.....it took 18mths total (DS only took 5mths) but the month we conceived we only had sex once.