When did you tell your parents you are pregnant?

[frolicmum]

Did you wait until 12 weeks or did you tell them before?

I waited until 12 weeks just for reassurance that the baby was ok. It was a lovely moment and even more special to share the scan picture with them. Made it more “real” I felt xx

After my 12 week scan both times as my mum is a worrier! And so I wanted to be able to show her the scan picture to reassure her

as soon as i found out. my mum was in the bathroom with me when i found out i was pregnant with my second. we told our close family straight away, and then friends and other people after the first scan.

First time round I told my mum early, but in laws not til after 12 weeks. This time we told all of them at 6 weeks because it was just before lockdown and I wanted to be extra careful/explain why we were essentially doing our own lockdown (as I have to take immune suppressants in the first trimester). Would probably have held off again if we’d known there would be full on lockdown a week later!

Just before 12 weeks with DS1. I was a youngish mum and didn't know how they'd react ( they didn't like my boyfriend!) and they were about to go on a long holiday so thought I'd tell them and let them go away to chew it over

DS2 - I was about 5 weeks. It was just before my wedding and I had awful morning sickness so had no choice but to tell them

I've since lost two through miscarriage. The first I told them at about 8 weeks, the second didn't know at all ( still don't) as I was so convinced I would lose the baby again so DH and I kept it quiet - which I'm glad we did

About 9 weeks as I'd been moaning about bloating and feeling dreadful and DM started worrying I had ovarian cancer. Didn't want her to worry.

8 weeks, as it was Christmas and it’d have been impossible to hide the not drinking! Also we thought it was a lovely ‘gift’ to share on Xmas eve. We had had a private scan that week and seen the heartbeat though so I felt more comfortable sharing.

On the day I found out, I was in shock!

10 weeks first time, 3 weeks second time. If I miscarried or scan was bad news (not until 18 weeks then) I would want my mother's support.

Around 8/9 weeks for both M and MIL, but told them to keep it to themselves until we were ready to tell others.

Before the pee was dry on the stick...

DM and DMIL the day we found out but my dad I told at 12 weeks.

It is a personal choice depending on your relationship with them.

I prefer waiting. I did have a miscarriage early and didn't want anyone annoying me. Just need DH. Other people feel differently.

We’ve been talking about this recently. Husband says he doesn’t mind but I think would probably be quite likely to accidentally mention it. They’d want to know and they’re lovely, but they’ll be very overbearing!

I’m hoping for 12/14 weeks. Also hoping not to let on to friends before that but it’ll depend when it happens and if we can avoid them/situations that will make it obvious.

I don’t have parents and don’t like feeling hounded so I think that’ll make it more enjoyable for me!

At 6 weeks.. and it was the worst thing I did! My parents are really supportive but as soon as I told them they started asking about childcare, my job etc. etc. before I'd even had time to process. I'd definitely wait until later if I'd have known just to have some time to enjoy the idea and make sure everything is ok.

I waited as long as I could - almost 16 weeks. They're majorly overbearing, and I wanted to avoid the onslaught for as long as possible!

Told my parents about a week after we found out, around 6 weeks or so. Also told my sisters and in-laws within a week or so of that. Told no-one else until after the 12 week scan.
My mum guessed the second time when I threw up one evening whilst my parents were round. That was only a couple of days after we found out. Told close family soon after.
The only people that were told prior to the first scan are people I could have coped with knowing if something unfortunate had happened.

I will add that neither my in-laws nor my parents are or have been overbearing

With my first, I was 16 weeks and very ill. Second, it was after the 20 week anomaly scan, 3rd & 4th, after I was term. I had no desire to discuss my pregnancies and they're in the US with no other contact to my life on this side of the Atlantic so I didn't need to worry much about them finding out in other ways.

My spouse told his parents pretty much as soon as possible. I didn't understand it, but it meant a lot to him to tell them and his close friends &, in later pregnancies when social media was around, I was fine with whoever he told but I was in charge of social media until I posted after the birth (far too many times seen when it's obvious the parents-to-be weren't on the same page about what to tell others yet).

I told my mum and MIL at 6 weeks as I was so ill with HG I just had to let them know how poorly I was and why. I also needed a scan then for some bleeding.
I’m now 11 weeks today and my MIL keeps texting me things she wants to buy and things she’s already bought. I’m still so worried incase something goes wrong, I wish I could’ve waited!

My parents found out the day we found out! We told his parents a week after an early scan and told my brother and his family the day of my early scan!

I told them after the 12 week scan.

Previously I had told them shortly after I got my BFP. It's up there with one of the worst moments in my life telling them I'd had a miscarriage a few weeks later. I love them, but I never want to have to go through that again. For future pregnancies, they'll find out after the 12 week scan again.

The day after we found out - was IVF and they knew we would be finding out if it worked around that time so seemed pointless to wait! Was also just as the company was locking down in March... so glad we got to tell them in person rather than text / at the door way without hugging which would have happened if we had waited.

The plan was to tell after the NIPT at 10 weeks. Unfortunately, it came back positive. I've since had another 2 mc's, just prior to 10 weeks, but glad I never told mum at the time. She'd feel like telling wider family and I'm glad I didnt need to explain to everyone what happened each time.

I told my mum immediately. DP was at work and I wanted to tell him in person but I needed to tell someone! She was so touched that she was the first to know so I'm glad I told her. We weren't going to tell anyone else until at least 8 weeks but our house sale fell through the day after we found out and DP ended up telling his parents so they could understand the extra stress and sudden urgency in moving!