Did my mother in law call me fat? I am almost 31 weeks and she said

[mandy29xx]

“Your getting big, are you sure there not two babies in there” :(
I am almost 31 weeks and first time mum she also makes me nervous asking what kind of birth I want.. fs anyway did she call me fat or just saying my bump has grown ? Anyone else experience this, I feel my bump is normal size to be honest.

People say things. Don't mind them. It's something to fill the space when they've got nothing interesting to talk about.

Its just a stupid thing people say, its hard to know whether she was being a cow or not without knowing what she's like, but I'm sure you look perfect so don't let it bother you. I got it loads and both my bumps/babies were relatively small

Omg I heard that a million times. She was making chit chat. Honestly wait another few weeks and see what you hear then. One random person in a shop stopped to tell me about blois clots.

I don’t think she was calling you fat; more saying your bump has grown. Rude though in my opinion; I snapped back at my mil “well I am having a baby” when she kept commenting on my bump and she stopped after that.

My mum said that to me the other day... I was grumpy until I remembered that at the 20 weeks mark (when I was convinced I had a lovely little bump!) she said ‘gosh, aren’t you still looking lovely and slim?’ and that upset me too!

People can’t win, and they just say the trite stuff that fills the gaps when you’re pregnant. I really wouldn’t worry about it

I wouldn’t read anything in to that to be honest.
And what’s wrong with her asking what kind of birth you want?

People used to say it to me too, I was more worried on the pregnancy where people said I was 'neat' and 'you don't look X months' because I had been told the baby was a bit under (all was fine). It is just chit chat as someone above said

A man at work used to comment on my big bump all the time, til I politely mentioned it was actually measuring small. He stopped after that. He was just making chat but I found it really annoying.

I'm impressed you've made it to 31 weeks with only one "are you sure it's not twins" comment tbh. When you're pregnant everyone comments on your appearance. I really wouldn't take it to heart. Have you had the "oh it must be a girl because they say girls steal your beauty" comment yet? That's always a real kick in the teeth (especially as I have two boys)!

She’s just saying your bump has got big. I think maybe you’re being a tad over sensitive.

People say all sorts of shit to you when you're pregnant. I remember it being so annoying. Especially the endless oh its definitely a boy because of blah blah blah blah. Sounds like just the usual inane chit chat

No she wasn't calling you fat.

I think that was a rude thing to say. Maybe it came out wrong.

My mother in law reacted to the news that I was pregnant by telling me "she did think my face looked chubbier" (I was only 12 weeks so this obviously wasn't down to pregnancy and more likely down to Xmas!)

It's just one of those things the older generation says. Just ignore

My MIL said that a lot to me

She also has a habit of comparing other family members bumps to mine and how skinny they are with a perfect bowling ball shape bump

She also tells me how skinny she was

She talks to me as if I know I am as large as she is

I’m only a size 12 I don’t see me as ginormous so I don’t really understand

I wouldn’t be offended , it’s just some of the older generation or maybe just mil in general !My mil used to say that every single time she saw me. You get bigger ever time you come round what are you having an elephant ?
We went round 2 DAYS after my emcs and My dp made a comment about him putting on weight and she replied I know someone who is Are you sure they’ve not left one in ? 🤣

Oh god, don’t listen!

Mine is the other way. Always commenting how small my bump is “for a big girl” like me

She knows I’m having growth scans as well as the baby had stopped growing. Cow.

Oh and my FIL who said “I thought the baby would be big, you are hefty enough”.

Bastards!

Don't take it to heart. My FIL's first comment everytime he sees me is on the size of my belly atm 😂 I may have cause to kick up a stink if he continues post baby.

agree dont take it to hear, but can I just ask why does she make you nervous asking what kind of birth you want?

heart ❤ nor hear!

@KatnissK I’ve had the beauty comment. Also had “I’m sure it’s a girl because you’re carrying all over”
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Ignore or tell her outright she's being rude. People say all sorts of rubbish to pregnant women and don't engage their brains to think how it might make them feel.

I wouldn't be offended, I've had all sorts of comments like that. People just like to say something I guess!

In my experience, pregnancy turns some people absolutely bonkers. As in, not you, the pregnant person, but people around you. Must be all those hormones

So you get both relatives, and random strangers, saying absolutely mind-boggling things (that would never be deemed acceptable in any other context) with a perfectly straight face.
And then some other people go and excuse them (calling YOU bonkers), probably because they also say stupid, rude shit to pregnant people.

... I write "pregnant people/person" (not mother or woman), just to drive down the fact that a pregnant individual is still human, with their own feelings and boundaries, as an awful lot of creeps seem to treat a pregnant body as public property (commenting on it unprompted, even patting the bump!).
Basically, pregnancy makes some people (including some that would normally never do so) objectify women even more than usual. I guess deep down, it makes people uncomfortable, and unsure what to say and do, and so they say and do stupid shit without engaging their brains.