One Step pregnancy test .... please no hate or judgment

[PearlHeart]

I could really use opinions or thoughts please! I just took these 5 tests today..... the top 2 were around 2 pm and the other 3 were just now!

I had a little fun with a good friend who is also single we didn’t use protection but I am now scared it may have split! This was not planned Hence using protection etc! Please no negativity this is not a bragging post or anything, I just need a supportive or friendly ear as I am alone and family are fractured and no female friends to confide in..... I guess what I’m asking is

How accurate are the one step cheapies you buy on eBay/ amazon??

I don’t have regular periods due to pcos and have to take provera every 3/4 months to induce a bleed! My last provera bleed was 1-6 July after stopping my course of provera 10 days prior to this! I have just recently been told by my fertility doctor I won’t get pregnant naturally as he doesn’t believe I am ovulating and that my egg quality is seriously poor so I would be lucky so to speak or unlucky as in his words would not be viable and end in miscarriage again! 😢💔

I tried to add as much detail as possible and will attach some pictures. I'm so sorry for the long thread/ post just could do with some support! 💜💗

@xbambi

Thank you so much for your lovely reply!

I would love to carry on the pregnancy and see what the future holds! I can't see my friend wanting step up.... he has two kids from a previous relationship (all amicable & shared custody) I just can't see him being too happy! But as far as I'm concerned it takes two to tango and yeah we used protection and it failed doesn't mean it all down to me but I feel that could be what's going to happen!

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@SugarSW7

Thank you for your message, I am unfortunately in Edinburgh!

Oh I didn't realise you could self refer, my my proviso losses they only seen me as I was showing signs of miscarriage / bleeding and pain! Otherwise I had to go via the midwife them at the gp. I have been messed around with the whole system and feel let down I don't have much faith in them to be honest!

Oh I'm so so sorry for your losses, it's a heartbreaking thing to go through!

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@xbambi

I will have a little look and see why I can find, I guess I'm just so scared to pay for a scan and this all to be a horrible joke!

Just over a year ago I had 5 positive first response test , 2 clearblue positives and they set me up with midwife booking team got my folder etc and I got to my 12 week scan after pushing for blood to confirm levels etc and they did I wasn't pregnant and that if I was baby had been absorbed by me and there was nothing they could do, just to try again! I felt so crushed and then I almost couldn't believe my next positives I got for fear of something being wrong.

That's how I feel now , I know you can't deny 15 positive tests in total and they are between 15-25ml sensitivity I believe not that I think that helps juts Incase it does!

I complete understand about people getting early scans etc a lot of friends seemed to get them at the drop of a hat , felt like was battling something that will never happen!

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@PearlHeart I really feel for you! I had so much anxiety without being through what you have been through. I had read too much online and so convinced myself it was all too good to be true as although never having had any difficulties my partner and I fell pregnant pretty much first try and so I just thought there’s no way it can be this easy for us when so many others struggle.

I still had the website open for the place I recommend on my laptop so had a quick look and they do have locations in your area and offer a cheaper scan also (£45) if you wanted to know for sure but again I totally understand why that may not be a feasible option or something you want to do.

Perhaps you could call your local hospital pregnancy day unit or early pregnancy unit and see if they can offer you anything. I’ve found them to be really helpful as have been admitted a few times with Hyperemesis and found the doctors at the unit to be wonderful.

I really hope you have more clarity soon and hope all works out in the way you want it to 💖

Hey fellow Scot😊 I’m originally from Edinburgh but living over the bridge right now.

There’s definitely a couple of private scan options in Edinburgh.

Well they’re positive. Hope this one sticks for you. Good luck.

@PearlHeart

Hi ladies

I'm ok thank you today, just kind of carrying on as normal!
I have been helping my neighbour with dementia since 9.30 and still doing so....

Hope you are all well!

I will look at ordering digital tests today, unless I get some time to get to a chemist/ local shop that sells them!

Is there a minimum for an early scan? Some I have seen say 7/8 weeks others are 6/7 weeks.... I don't know how far along I should be at all with not knowing if/ when I ovulated etc!

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I had my early scan at 5 weeks due to previous losses. Thought I was 7 weeks they said I'd gotten my dates wrong but I knew the date of conception due to me and my OH being long distance. Couldn't see anything on the first scan apart from the gestational sac, scanned again 3 weeks later and I was able to see the start of a Baby forming. I did go on to miscarry again a week later.

@xbambi
I totally understand that anxiety and the worry because it happens so quickly that it must not be true kind of thing!
YeH Googling can be a devil sometimes is either convinces you things are so much worse that what they are or lulls you into a false sense of security!

Thank you, that's not a bad price at all! I will deffo look into it and try the local hospital and maybe my consultant who's is the big hospital where I would need to be seen and hopefully get some guidance!

I feel so stupid not wanting to accept it but I think when you have gone through hell and back a number of time it really taints the whole situation!

Thank you so much! Me too, I would love for things to go smoothly but my luck it's like a rollercoaster!

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@Sexnotgender

Hi :) oh that must be nice a bit of a chance across the bridge!

Thank you I will have a snoop around and make some calls!

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@Dreamcatcher34

Thank you, it's so hard to digest!
I wish I could be happy and accept it planning for the future but I'm genuinely scared Especially if it goes wrong as with my last losses my partners shut me out and I had to do hospital trips etc alone! I don't know how I could do it again almost in secret!

I am yet to break it to my friend the outcome, I'm terrified that he's just going to ghost me or treat me badly! Thai was not planned or anything especially using protection. I just am scared of further rejection I guess!

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@Lozz22

Aw I'm so sorry to hear of your losses!

May I ask did you get a private scan at 5 weeks or was it through the hospital! I was promise early scans after my first 2 losses but was told after that that I wasn't getting them and to wait till 12 weeks! Which breaks your heart!

It's such a tough thing especially when you are sure of dates etc and they are off on the scan, I can only imagine how that must have felt going back and there was progress but miscarrying a week later! It almost gives false hope! 😢

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I’m also in Edinburgh, you could call EPU at ERI and talk to them, I’m sure they might be able to squeeze you in for an early scan.
I was scanned early with my 2 previous pregnancies but that was due to small bleeds both times.
Also you could look at Babes in the Womb, they do private scanning in Gorgie/Saughton area and ABC4D they are just off St John’s Road

OP, most hospitals won't scan you at five weeks as there is not often anything to see then. After six weeks, it's usually possible to see everything there to confirm that there is a viable pregnancy, but even then it can take a tiny bit longer. Because of that, even if you have a positive test and pregnancy loss symptoms, they won't scan you until six or seven weeks at EPU.

@Queenbee95

Thank you, I will give them a little call I'm under the care of a fertility/ endocrinologist at the fertility clinic there also! But previously he hasn't been much help if Im completely honest!
The Epu were wonderful with all my losses and the staff are lovely!

They are pretty central then, I will have a wee look and give some place a call!

Thank you for your message

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@Glitterandunicorns
Yeah l not sure how far along I should be?

Last bleed induced by provera was the 1-6 July 2020
I'm not scheduled for another round of medication till October/ November as I have it every 3-4 months! Due to pcos stopping my semi- regular period.

Prior to the bleed in July from provera the last time was 17- 23 February ..... so it was 4 months prior to the June/ July round!

The epu have only even scanned me when having active bleeding / pain etc to confirm
My miscarriages. They haven't ever given me one for any other reason!

They have previously told me on a number of occasions they won't scan me unless I'm showing signs of bleeding/ pain etc and otherwise I have to wait for my 12 week scan to happen and take it from there!

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@PearlHeart no I got it through the hospital. At the time I was having pains in my kidneys and my second loss was due to a kidney infection so they wanted to scan me to be on the safe side. It sort of did give me false hope, but I'm also really glad I did have the experience of having the ultrasound scan done as well. My others I lost early on so didn't get chance of seeing those Babies on the screen. We don't know for definite what caused this one, because I had a sub chronic haematoma near the baby but looking at the formation of the Baby when I passed it, it looks like some chromosomal issues as well. My OH said he isn't sure if he wants me to have an early scan next time. He thinks it's too stressful but to me waiting 12-14 weeks thinking everything is ok then going in for a scan and finding out it isn't is even more stressful

@PearlHeart that's normal that the EPU only scan when there's a problem. They don't scan to confirm pregnancy, even when a patient has a history of losses or other issues.

I think given you don't know your dates, in the first instance, try to make an appointment at a private clinic for a dating scan. (As long as you think you're over seven weeks). Speak to your fertility consultant separately to that process. I can't imagine they'll be able to help you to establish that this pregnancy is viable, especially given that you've found them to not be super supportive in the past.

@Lozz22

Oh I'm so sorry, I can only imagine what that must have been like!

I totally understand being able to see baby on the screen it's a special memory that you didn't have with the other!

I think it's harder when you have been through losses to have to wait in limbo for the 12-14 weeks. I think I knowing earlier in some cases it can settle your anxieties while you wait for the 12 week scan and it also can prepare you if things are not progressing as they should!

I had hoped that they would have kept true to their word of more scans / blood test to monitor levels etc but I feel like every time I'm just given the usual response wait till 12 weeks and either by that time I have miscarried or they discover things haven't progressed etc I juts think it's cruel to make you wait so long in the unknown only to be crushed at your appointment.

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Sorry I don’t really have any additional advice but just wanted to say good luck

Hi OP please don’t read this further if you don’t want an honest opinion.

Your tests aren’t getting any darker. In a viable pregnancy HCG doubles every 2 days. I had a miscarriage at 11 weeks and the tears didn’t get dark until I was 6 weeks which was a sign. In my 2 viable pregnancy’s the tests got darker quickly.

I’m really sorry but the worse thing with my miscarriage was the false hope. I had the midwife appointment etc as a ‘positive is a positive’ but that’s not necessarily true.
I think if you put this on the miscarriage board you would get more people with the same experience.

In my case it was a blighted ovum which would make sense with your eggs not being great quality.

I’m so sorry and I hope I am wrong 💐

@PearlHeart I asked my Drs to check my HCG levels but was fobbed off with the well you've had a positive test (36 to to be precise don't ask! ) so take that as you're pregnant, then I was just told to self refer to the midwife. I was literally testing pretty much every day up until
I miscarried again. That was probably a big mistake though because even though the lines were getting darker and darker and my digitals were coming back with 3+ weeks it wasn't the reassurance that I wanted because technically the Baby we saw on the scan had been dead for 9 weeks. My miscarriage took 5 weeks in total but the thing that confused me most of all was the 15mm of left over tissue that was spotted 4 weeks after I was told the sac had already collapsed I'd passed massive blood clots, clearly although not developed properly had a face and legs but no arms and big gaping hole in the torso area. The only thing I can think of is the second Baby was missed because with me having the SCH it was either hidden behind that or it was mistaken for the SCH

@Postmanbear

No, don't worry. I don't have any hope at all if I'm brutally honest!
Having lost so many over the years I just wait for bleeding or something bad to happen. There's NEVER any happiness or optimism when I get a positive test anymore that's robbed the first los you have and every other time you just wait for it to happen again!

Oh it's horrible I have my most recent maternity notes still at home as it was "a positive is still a positive" situation and I begged for bloods etc and not to have it dragged out and that's what happened got to my 12 week scan and what was visible (left) or pregnancy as the rest had broken down apparently and been reabsorbed. I had no bleeding or pain etc they kept telling me it's all good don't worry I will be surprised this time! After my scan I broke down and cried like a crazy woman on the floor of the hospital I felt so let down and not listened to that this whole thing could have been prevented had my levels been checked etc! Because nobody seen me after that at the hospital about any follow up treatment or anything my gp gave me provera via a phone call nobody physically seen me to hopefully "clean me out if anything wasn't absorbed" so I have been left with maternity folder!

The wonderful or rather horrible thing with me since I don't get periods etc I won't start to bled or anything so will no doubt just be given provera to force a breakthrough bleed with no definitive answers either way. I know as well as anyone if there's any pregnancy tissue etc that provera is not the right thing to help evacuate all tissue or anything but they don't give a damn with me! And I'm pushed from pillar to post fighting for answers!

Thank you for your reply,I worry ladies will think it's insensitive to post with pictures of test etc and no active miscarriage symptoms etc but I maybe wrong mind you!

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@Lozz22

Oh I am so so sorry, they robbed you off! They have a terrible habit of that! It doesn't matter if history etc if you have positive tests it's like they don't want to know!

I think with mine I gave up testing after 6 test as I just knew each time it's not going to work no matter deep down how much I wanted it and hoped for reassurance etc I just switched off to it and didn't even register it.... numbly went through midwife appointments etc and dealt with symptoms till the inevitable happened repeatedly.

It's so hard I think to stop testing after a point especially when you can't get bloods done etc for solid reassurance.... you almost drive yourself crazy!

Omg I'm so so sorry, I can't imagine how difficult that must have been, finding out that baby had passed so many weeks before and then passing a second baby! That's so difficult to pinpoint if it was hidden or mistaken for the sch!

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A little update

No scans or blood tests or anything ..,.. they have basically written me off as they said if tests not getting much darker or really changing much then it's not likely to be a positive outcome!

I'm kind of expected the brush off anyway, I'm not overly surprised!
Having been blocked basically every step of the way with fertility clinic etc and having to battle for bloods or even to be seen!

I think I just need to try be realistic and have to deal with being childless! It seems like there's always something that n my way and goalposts being changed constantly! Plus turning 30 in 7months And being told not to come to my fertility/ endocrinologist at/ after 30 as he can't help me, I'm running out of options and being single is just another set back!

I am not eligible for any ivf / iui or any medical assistance 😢

I'm also not likely to be allowed to adopt or foster

Nobody I know would be a surrogate for me and don't have money to find one privately

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I was just reading through this thread and saw you had posted today, have you done anymore test recently as they should be strong positives now? Xxx