Putting baby to bed before you

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At what age did everybody start putting their babies to bed in Moses basket/next to me and going back downstairs for the evening with a monitor?

This is a great question !!! I’m watching haha x

6 months here.

About 3 months I would say

4/5 months but we lived in an open-plan flat with the bedroom door open so while we couldn't see DS, it was no different to him being in the same room

My DTs went in to their own beds at 8 weeks having outgrown their next to me crib. Not recommended with current guidance, but I didn’t have space in my room for a bigger bed for them and they were keeping each other awake. I did have the angel care monitors for them and live in a small open plan bungalow so could hear them wherever I was in the house!

Six months for upstairs in their cots but we are lucky enough to have a lobby between our sitting room and dining room where we can place a Moses basket and still see the baby. Before six months I often find they sleep best on me anyway until we go up to bed (I'm a foster mum who specialises in medically complex babies) but as they start to settle more I encourage the use of basket so once they are sleepy I pop them in the basket with some ocean sounds/rain sounds/white noise playing and let them fall asleep themselves, if they become upset then they come back out and we sit in the rocking chair together and I rock them to sleep.

Five weeks. She just couldn’t settle with even low lights/tv/murmured conversation from that age and worked herself up into hysterical screams with overtiredness if we didn’t get her somewhere quiet and dark. At the same age she really struggled to sleep in the day too, so naps moved to buggy with Snoozeshade and white noise.

She’s two in November, and still cannot fall asleep with any kind of distraction!

Around 4-5 months and we moved DS into his own room at 5 and a half months. If we have another I’d be tempted to move into own room sooner - DS started sleeping through the night we moved him into his own room. Definitely think we were keeping each other awake

About 4 months, when she started going to bed early enough to make it worth me trying to ha an evening.

Guidance is that they don't sleep away from you before 6 months, but ( unlike front sleeping) I've not been able to find any actual science to back this up

3 months. And she went into her own room around 4 months. I know it's not recommended but it was that or I would have topped myself (literally) because none of us were getting any sleep.

About 6 months for all 3 of them.

Ummm from first day home from hospital! But this was twenty years ago so I’m sure things have changed since then

The day we came home from maternity hospital. Baby was upstairs, we were downstairs, no baby monitor.

Probably nearer 4/5 months. Before that, they didn't settle for the night until after 9pm and I was usually that knackered I would go upstairs and watch TV or read in bed while they slept.

It wasn't until they reliably went down for the night around 8pm that I went downstairs again.

Also, my eldest outgrew the Moses basket at 11 weeks! Don't bother with a Moses basket.

At 6 months. Until fiveish months he slept in a sleepyhead next to me on the couch and then went up to bed in his moses basket when I did. After then, we bought the moses basket and stand downstairs and kept it in the dining room, which is open plan to the living room so start to get hin used to not being right next to me. From 6 months he slept upstairs in our room with a monitor and into his own room just before 7 months. Planning to do the same with this one.

Maybe 8 weeks? We hit the witching hour phase where he'd yell for 40 mins solid at about 8pm and we were quite slow to realise that it was because he was tired and we needed to start a bedtime routine.

Didn't apply to dd1 because evenings were terrible, you paced the flat for 4-5 hours with her crying when she wasn't feeding (poor neighbours) but Dd2 went down from about 2 weeks however it was a flat so could easily hear

About 4 months, with a video monitor on constantly. She went to bed about 9ish and we went to bed about 10.30.

I think about 6 months, he wasnt in his own room until 8 months because he settled in with us better.

Prior to 6 months we would bring his cot (tutti bambini cozee) into our living room and settle him then we could watch telly whilst he slept. Out living room and bedroom are on the same floor though.

Around 8 weeks, started going down about 6pm and we would have the monitor on and then would feed when we went to bed at about 10/11, it worked really well for us. Moved to his own room at 7 months and had no issues at all

About 2 weeks. Admittedly many nights we were pacing the floor (silent reflux) or DH would go out driving at silly o'clock in the morning (which was interesting for the number of Garda checkpoints he'd hit - they always were understanding though so he wonders how many other parents were doing similar!).

But in general, she would have her dinner, then DH and I would have dinner with her beside us (usually in the sling on my chest to keep her upright, and later in her high chair when she could sit herself). Then we'd do bath and bed for her, and a couple of hours peace for ourselves with the monitor downstairs.

As a strapping 14 year old, now she will occasionally go up at a reasonable hour, occasionally she is the last to bed. But will generally spend an hour watching tv with us until shortly after 9, and then head up.

I forgot to mention, I would usually do a nappy change and dream feed when I went to bed as well. She often barely woke up for those.

I think my little one was about 16 weeks. He was still sleeping in our room (until 6 months). I had him down with me, until another parent mentioned her little one goes down at 8pm. It was a total lightbulb moment. Even if my son was asleep, I always had him in the lounge with me, it was so much nicer putting him to bed. We had the monitor, so knew if He was awake. If possible, I will be doing it earlier this time around xx

Well I’m a total dummy because I thought that’s what you were meant to do from the start 😂 so I’m meant to put the baby to sleep in the same room as me? Even if I’m in the living room watching tv?

6 months. The advise from the lullaby trust to prevent SiDS is for baby to sleep in room with u until then