What do you wish your partner knew about the realities of pregnancy?

[KElise]

I am interested in what you ladies wish your partners knew or understood better during your pregnancies. For example my partner constantly makes jokes about how often I go to the fridge but he doesn’t understand these cravings! Ladies this is your time to vent!

[Gin4thewin]

The constant pain of SPD from 8 weeks and the sheer agony of rolling over in bed. That im not just moaning it hurts for the sake of it and how exhausting not sleeping because of it is

[Indigogirl88]

How it's hard to feel sexy now. And that I cant shave properly anymore let alone find the energy to do make up or hair, and I'm ftm and have nearly no excuses!

[Babyshine2020]

I don't mean to be so grouchy/bitch - it's not intentional and I don't actually realise in the moment ..

And I know I seem to be sleeping loads (well 11-7 and maybe a nap in the afternoon ) but I can't help it. I'm up to pee loads and I don't plan on napping, but if I stop and sit down for half an hour with nothing todo I will switch off..

[flossiegrippiter]

DH is lovely and very supportive but if I have a moan he tries to problem solve and come up with solutions when all I want him to say is yeah it must be shit for you! I know he's being nice and I'm being unreasonable but it gets on my nerves

[Shefliesonherownwings]

DH has been largely wonderful and understanding for both my pregnancies. However when I was dying on the sofa with nausea with my first, I didn't appreciate his suggestions that getting up and going for a walk or a swim might help. I had to be very firm that I literally could not move my head without retching let alone go for a bloody walk.

This time I've felt much more tired and needed regular naps. He started saying that I should be careful and try to stay awake as I wouldn't sleep at night if I napped. I don't sleep at night anyway! My hips hurt, my hayfever means I can't breathe and I'm up and down on the loo every sodding hour anyway so if I can get an hour or two in the afternoon I'm damn well going to. He leaves me alone now.

[FoxtrotSkarloey]

How fucking tiring it is, and that every millisecond tidying up crap and running around the house because he's left yet another task unfinished is a millisecond less than I could be sitting on the sofa.

To be fair, he's brilliant with toddler DS, but he just doesn't think things through! Did I take DS' nursery bag upstairs last night for shits and giggles? No, it was because DS' clothes were changed at nursery yesterday and new spares needed to be put in the bag. Did it even occur to him to wonder why the bag was upstairs when it isn't normally? No, of course not. He just brought it down this morning with the same contents which was 'being helpful'. And I'm the bad guy when I get grumpy.

FFS. I'm hot and tired and fed up of being the backstop default for making sure everything happens that needs to.

[Sowalk]

Not understanding how sick, tired and sore I feel! The big thing is I get awful hayfever and can't take any of my medication. He loves sitting outside bylut with the insane pollen count I'm trying to hide from it as much as possible. He just doesn't get why and I think he thinks I'm being dramatic! I'm not! I just constantly want to claw my own nose of right now!

[greentreesdream]

Yep the exhaustion and the sickness.

And also I hate saying this because it makes me sound precious but physical contact. Sex makes me feel horrendous as I feel big and as if I’m being crushed. I don’t want my hand held. It’s sweaty and uncomfortable. I don’t want to be hugged and kissed as his stubble is irritating to me. God I sound awful