Anyone else not wanting to give birth?

[lockdownpregnancy]

Hi ladies.
FTM and 26 weeks so a way to go yet, but I really don't want to give birth! 😫
How stupid is that!
Ive accidentally seen the odd birth clip on tv and I literally cry knowing I've got to do it!
I'm so excited to meet my baby boy but I really really don't want to give birth!
It's fucking traumatising to watch, so what's it like when you're actually going through it!
I know it's really stupid and you're all probably thinking I'm an idiot but just the thought of giving birth is just something I wish to ignore!
I know he's gotta come out one way or another and the anxiety it's giving me is seriously making me contemplate an elective C-Section.
I know some women love it and say how wonderful it is and it's the most natural thing in the world and blah blah blah but I really really don't wanna do it! 😭😭😭
I know I need to get a grip and when the time comes I'm sure I'll just power through it (hopefully) but I just need to know I'm not the only who is fucking terrified over giving birth!
Apologies for the swearing but my mood requires it! 😫😫😫😫

If you’d rather have an elcs then have one. Talk to your midwife about it.
Not your husbands choice although mine did say after last time no more unless they are a elcs. But that was because it ended up an emcs.

For me giving birth was awesome, your body takes over, and when you have your baby in your arms you forget, it is so, so worth it. If you gave me the choice of a smear test or giving birth I would choose the latter! I had a tens machine and drank raspberry leaf tea a couple of weeks before baby was due. Giving birth for me both times was much easier than I expected it would be. Good luck OP, and try not to worry.

Hey OP, congratulations!

I had terrible terrible anxiety about childbirth all throughout my pregnancy, nothing anyone could say would make me feel any more relaxed.

But when I got to the hospital the adrenaline just took over and I didn't even think about what was happening. Your body will take over and you will feel so powerful.

Good luck xxx

Thanks ladies! I've been so busy at work this week I've not really thought too much about it.
My DH is the best! He's been amazing so far but he is very traditional with his ways (his parents are to blame for that!) and believes breast is best and natural birth only.
I on the other hand have other ideas! 😂😂
I'll have a chat with my midwife and see what she says.
Like a pp said it's my choice at the end of the day and I'll be judged for it massively by various members of both families but to be honest it's my body and if they have a problem they can all shove off! It's like I'll be less of a parent if I don't do everything 'as nature intended!'
I'm so thankful for this post as half the things I post on here I wouldn't dream of saying to anyone I know! I'd be judged even more! Haha!!😝😝

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Thanks ladies! I've been so busy at work this week I've not really thought too much about it. My DH is the best! He's been amazing so far but he is very traditional with his ways (his parents are to blame for that!) and believes breast is best and natural birth only. I on the other hand have other ideas! 😂😂 I'll have a chat with my midwife and see what she says. Like a pp said it's my choice at the end of the day and I'll be judged for it massively by various members of both families but to be honest it's my body and if they have a problem they can all shove off! It's like I'll be less of a parent if I don't do everything 'as nature intended!' I'm so thankful for this post as half the things I post on here I wouldn't dream of saying to anyone I know! I'd be judged even more! Haha!!😝😝

Honestly you do what you need to do!

Think back to how many times anyone has ever asked you whether you were born vaginally or by CS and if you were breastfed?! Lol the things that seem so huge when they are babies are so insignificant in later life ❤️

This post is everything that I'm feeling!!!

I love children and actually told my husband I'd be ok without children...all because I'm so terrified of the birth :'(

I'm avoiding reading or thinking about it as my anxiety will just take over my pain and I'm dreading the birth plan.

I really don't know what to do...go with the pain of a vaginal birth or deal with the aftermath of a c section

I was exactly the same with my first and for me as soon as my waters broke the pain started coming, it was light someone flicked a switch from just doing my own thing cooking dinner and wooosh, 3 changes of clothes cause my waters seemed to come in 3 stages not too long after each other but it all became very real very quickly.. but at that point I was like oh my god this is it!! I get to see my baby soon! And it turned quite positive. I called the hospital to let them know they'd gone and I stayed home for another hour/hour and half then I was a wuss and it was 'too painful'. I was in labour for 9 hours total but ended up having to go to theatre and have forceps delivery as his head was at funny angle and needed moving. I was devastated to say the least I'd gone through the motions of having the different low pain relief and then having my natural birth taken away from me after I'd put in so much work to then not feel it. (Some people opt for sections etc which is great I have no problem with that you gotta do what is best for you) but I really was gutted that the birth was taken out of my hands. But I know that's what my boy needed to be safe.
I was so excited when I found out I was pregnant again cause I thought excellent maybe I can have another go to deliver myself.. then found out it's twins this time 😳. So it probably won't happen naturally this way either lol but it is what it is.
It's a scary time but you literally do forget about it, it's easier to be told that than it is to believe it, I know I was like give over that's hurting for ages but it really doesn't. You've got plenty of time and just talk to your midwife, she may be able to help talk through your worries, as it's maybe in the back of your mind a fear of something going wrong that's making you worry more? Only you know. Just take care of yourself, your baby will arrive regardless of if you want them to or not so try and embrace the changes your body is going through and will have to go through to get them here. I was so proud of myself for giving birth regardless of how it ended up being. 😆

I felt the same, currently have a 2 year old and a 2 month old. I highly recommend hypnobirthing even if you just get a book or look up YouTube clips. I didn’t do it with my first but did with my second. I genuinely enjoyed the birth and can’t wait to do it again one day :) it’s so empowering.

Also definitely get a tens machine for early labour, gas & air is amazing. And if you want an epidural ask early and don’t be afraid to nag them!

Honestly giving birth is painful and a bit crazy but I actually enjoyed the experience in an ‘oh this is what it’s like’ kind of way. I’m not a screamer and gave birth virtually in silence (not being brave I’m a close up and say nothing when in pain person) so it was nothing like the screaming on tv/media. Go with the flow, make it clear you’re keen for any analgesia available but I wouldn’t opt for an ELCS off the bat (a lot of places don’t allow them just because you want to) and give it a go!

Oh I'm so glad I read this ! I'm due to be induced on Thursday and I am terrified ! So many lovely positive stories on here .

I've been two weeks overdue with both and had two horrendous lengthy and painful inductions but they've got to come out somehow so you just crack on.

OP I used to be terrified of giving birth but honestly it’s probably the best experience of my life. I felt amazing after and your body does know what to do. It’s not easy but it’s one of the most incredible things I’ve ever experienced.

I know you don’t fancy antenatal classes but I can’t recommend the digital pack from the Positive Birthing Company enough. I promise is not all woo. I found it really helpful to mentally prepare for what was coming. It’s meant I never panicked. I remained surprisingly calm and in control whilst giving birth. It doesn’t promise you an easy birth but I do feel like it helps you to mentally prepare for the twists and turns labour can take.

Equally, if you decide you want a c-section then push for one. You might face resistance but NICE guidelines say that your entitled to one.

How is opting for major abdominal surgery where they cut through layers and layers of skin, muscle and fat any less daunting?! No thank you!

Thank you all for your comments! 🥰🥰🥰
I think natural birth can be worse than an ELCS as I know some women that tore so badly that they couldn't go to the toilet for weeks, couldnt walk for weeks, bled for weeks etc etc. Then I know people who have had ELCS and cruised through their recovery because it's a lot cleaner than your body just being ripped open! I also know ladies that have had amazing births and all was well.
I am very much aware that every person is different and I could seriously suffer if I have ELCS, but then again, I may not!
I'm only 27 weeks so I'm going to chat with MW, as I said before, as my pregnancy progresses and see what's what.
I will do whatever is safest for me and my baby, whether I like it or not. 😭
As you lovely ladies have said, our bodies are built for this, so I will let it just do its thing when the time comes! 💪🏻

Definitely check out the positive birth company pack really good at explaining labour and helps you to feel empowered and ready.