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Miscarriage after seeing a heartbeat?

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Dewberry0912 · 15/06/2020 18:55

Hi all,

I’m 11 weeks pregnant (almost at 12). This is my second pregnancy - I miscarried at 5 weeks in Jan if this year. I’ve been really worried during my pregnancy because of this, so booked a private scan last week. It fine, the baby was showing to be bigger than 10 weeks and we saw the heartbeat!

This morning I started bleeding, it’s heavier than spotting and reminds me of the way I started bleeding during my miscarriage earlier this year. I tried to get a referral to the early pregnancy unit near me via my GP. They told me it would be easier for me to go into A&E and get one that way as apparently early pregnancy units aren’t being super responsive due to Covid. So I spent 2.5 hours waiting in A&E, saw and doctor who referred me and said they would call me to organise a scan. A couple of hours after I got back I got a call, basically because my 12 week scan is on Friday this week, they won’t see me before and I have to wait until then. We’ve booked another private scan for Wednesday because I can’t wait until Friday to find out if my baby is ok.

I was wondering if anyone has had any experience with this, miscarrying after seeing a heartbeat. It feels so horrendous, especially after everything being so great last week. I know I don’t know what’s going on yet, I’m trying to stay positive but I’m finding it really difficult.

Thanks in advance :) any advice will be really appreciated xx

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TranielleRadcliffe · 15/06/2020 18:58

I have no advice but just wanted to say I hope you’re ok and it’s not what you think. Flowers

1ce1cebaby · 15/06/2020 19:02

Oh I hope all is ok and the bleeding is the type that lots of women have and have a healthy pregnancy. I miscarried two weeks ago after having seen a heartbeat. Although my scan was 7.5 weeks and miscarried at 11. Given you had a recent scan I really hope it is ok and everything is in your favour. My bleeding was super heavy and full of clots and there was no mistaking what it was. Goodluck for Wednesday and hopefully all
Calms down for you beforehand x

imgardening · 15/06/2020 19:03

I'm very sorry that you're going through this ThanksThanks. Keep positive as you say. Unfortunately, I had a missed miscarriage last year after seeing a heartbeat at a scan.

Lavenderpurple · 15/06/2020 19:15

I think there really is no way of knowing.
I’ve had 2 mc and it’s horrible.
I understand your worry Flowers
Did you have a TV scan as that can cause a bit of bleeding. Always has for me in the past.

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Dewberry0912 · 15/06/2020 19:20

Thank you x

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Dewberry0912 · 15/06/2020 19:27

Sorry for your loss, it’s the worst feeling in the world. I hope you’re getting through as best you can. I’ve had no clots as of yet and only started getting very dull cramps a couple of hours ago, which could just be because it’s still very early stages. I’ll try and distract myself until Wednesday, thank you for your support x

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Dewberry0912 · 15/06/2020 19:28

Very sorry for your loss, I hope you’re doing ok now x

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Iggi999 · 15/06/2020 19:36

Hi Op, sorry about this. I have miscarried after seeing a hb, it's an awful thing as you know that miscarrying is less likely after a hb so it seems so unfair.
When it's happened to me I had a lot of pain, more pain than bleeding really at the start. Doesn't sound like that's what you have, yet?

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Dewberry0912 · 15/06/2020 19:36

It was an ultrasound scan so no reason for it to cause bleeding :( the not knowing is one of the worst parts. I’m very sorry for your losses, it is horrible, the worst x

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pigoons · 15/06/2020 19:37

Hi OP fingers crossed everything is OK on Friday. FWIW I lost a baby at 12+3 weeks after seeing a heartbeat at 6-7 weeks. It turned out the baby had a trisomy that was 'not compatible with life' (midwife's words when all the tests came back) - I hope things turn out better for you.

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Dewberry0912 · 15/06/2020 19:45

I’m sorry for your loss. It is so unfair! I’d just started to feel optimistic about this pregnancy too.

I haven’t had any really bad pain yet, the bleeding was a surprise. It was the same with my last miscarriage, when it started there was no real pain. I had one day when I had to call an ambulance as the pain was excruciating (turned out I needed to pass a particularly big clot) but that was the worst of it. I put it down to it being so early.

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worriedmama1980 · 15/06/2020 19:51

I'm sorry OP, I was exceptionally worried my pregnancy after my miscarriage and I also booked (more than one!) private reassurance scans, by your stage I'd started to relax so it's horrible having this stress.

I miscarried after seeing a heartbeat: I had light but red bleeding at 7 weeks, went to EPU, saw a heartbeat, then a few days later much heavier bleeding, including a clot, went back to EPU (tbh I was sure I'd miscarries) and saw a heartbeat then was booked in for a follow up a week later (this wasn't in the UK) and despite having no bleeding in between I'd had a missed miscarriage in the intervening time.

It was 8 weeks when it happened though, so earlier than you are now. I hope you have a positive outcome.

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Dewberry0912 · 15/06/2020 19:53

Geez what a way to put it - I’m so sorry for your loss and thank you for your support xx

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Flukz1988 · 15/06/2020 21:00

Hi OP, sorry you're going through this. It's awful. I dont know if this is helpful at all but I had a miscarriage after I had a brown spotting at 7weeks and then went for an ultrasound and saw the heart beat the day after started bright red heavy bleeding and had a confirmed miscarriage. A year later I got pregnant again and went through the exact same situation, the brown spotting at 7weeks then the ultrasound where I saw heartbeat then a day later started with a lot of bright red bleeding. I assumed I had another miscarriage then two weeks later had another ultrasound and baby was still there with a heartbeat. Biggest shock ever. I am now 37weeks pregnant. So i dont know if this helps at all but it could still be ok. I hope it is x

coffeeorwine · 15/06/2020 21:13

I haven’t had a miscarriage but did have a large bleed start after a 12 week scan, I’m currently 26 weeks (same pregnancy). I was convinced I was miscarrying too. Hope it turns out positive for you OP, I’ll be thinking of you.

TranielleRadcliffe · 17/06/2020 10:56

I hope you’re ok OP. I’ll be thinking of you for your scan today. Flowers

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Dewberry0912 · 17/06/2020 11:41

@Flukz1988 & @coffeeorwine thank you both for these posts. They gave me a little bit of hope which I think got me through to today.

I’ve just been for a private scan and baby is fine at the moment, heartbeat is strong and baby is flipping around everywhere. My cervix is closed and apparently no active bleeding. It has become a lot lighter over the last couple of days but I’m still getting some back pain and light cramping. The Sonographer said the baby was fine and there is no chance of miscarriage at the moment. I have my 12 week scan on Friday so hopefully everything will be ok then too. It’s such a weird feeling of being so relieved but I can’t help worrying still. I suppose I better get used to it haha.

Thank you to everyone who took the time to reply - we haven’t told anyone yet due to my last miscarriage. It’s hard not having anyone to speak to who’s actually been pregnant before.

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Dewberry0912 · 17/06/2020 11:42

Thank you so much :) (I sent the long reply before reading this message) x

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TranielleRadcliffe · 17/06/2020 11:53

Oh I’m so pleased to hear that OP! I hope the rest of your pregnancy goes smoothly.

coffeeorwine · 17/06/2020 11:55

Hi Dewberry, glad to hear it is all looking really positive! The fact your baby is on the go and your cervix is closed are great signs. I had back ache and some brown spotting for about 2 weeks after my bleeds, then another random patch of brown spotting then nothing since about 19 weeks, I think some people just experience it in pregnancy but it is awfully worrying so I can appreciate how you must be feeling, especially with your prior loss. Take it easy and although I know I’m saying the impossible, try to remain positive. Good luck X

1ce1cebaby · 17/06/2020 11:56

That’s great news! I hope Friday can give you some peace of mind so you can relax a little and enjoy your lovely news

Babymabel · 17/06/2020 12:17

Hi OP, I work in NHS EPAU as a sonographer. I'm glad everything is ok now. Many women bleed during early pregnancy (and beyond) and go on to have normal pregnancies & healthy babies. The cause of bleeding in early pregnancy is a mystery unfortunately. It's just one of those weird things our bodies do. If you get any pain or fresh red bleeding please call your local EPAU or go into A&E. Our EPAU has been running completly as normal the whole time during lockdown so not sure if your GP was correct in telling you that information.
Please be careful with private scans. They are not regulated and not always up to NHS standards. We've recently seen a woman who was told her single 8 week pregnancy was non viable at a private scan, in EPAU she was scanned and found to have an 11week twin pregnancy that is perfectly healthy.
You can't see the cervix on an ultrasound scan so I have no idea how they were able to tell you your cervix is closed? I'm concerned with some of the wording of the things they have told you especially about no chance of miscarriage. There is no way to tell that. It is much rarer to have a miscarriage at your stage of pregnancy though so that is all really positive.

I hope your scan goes well on Friday and can offer you some more reassurance.

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Dewberry0912 · 17/06/2020 13:06

@Babymabel thank you for taking the time to post this. I will absolutely take all this advice on board. We only went for the private scan because I couldn’t wait to find out whether the baby was ok/had a heartbeat. I would have much preferred to be seen at the EPU, they had said because my 12 week scan is booked for this week I would need to wait. It was a last resort. Really good to know about not being able to see a cervix on an ultrasound and the other bits your highlighted.

Although I feel relieved, I am still worrying about everything and quite nervous for Friday in case something happens. I’m keeping an eye on everything and taking it easy. Hoping for a good outcome on Friday.

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worriedmama1980 · 19/06/2020 23:11

Hi OP, really excellent news about your private scans do hope 12 week scan went well today.

whatsgoingon22 · 21/12/2020 05:16

@Dewberry0912 sorry for bringing this up so many months later but do you mind me asking how you got on?
Thanks x