If you had a MC please may I ask how it started

[Icouldstillbejoseph]

After a year of TTC I got a BFP 5 days ago (I'm 40), 2 previous children 7+ years ago.
I've never had a MC but I feel like I might be heading that way now.

I know there is nothing I can do and the chances weren't exactly in my favour but I wonder if anyone could say if this sounded like a worrying sign.... I've had brown discharge and cramps for the past 2 days. Getting browner and more profuse but not needing to wear a pad or take pain relief yet. Pretty much just how my periods start (I often spot for days before)

Anyone had similar? I'm wondering what to expect next.... wish it would hurry up and start if that's what's going to happen.

I've had no pg symptoms, but I didn't have with my other pregnancies until 6 weeks.

I had a chemical pregnancy in January 2019. I found out I was pregnant at 9dpo and then AF came like normal. I went to the toilet one morning and there she was. I was devastated and just sat in the bathroom and sobbed until DH came and got me. I tested negative 4 days later so it was a very early loss.

🤞everything is ok for you.

Mine started with quite bad cramps around 8pm at night and now I look back they were very like mini contractions, they'd come and then go and then come etc. The next day it felt more like the type of cramps you get as your due on and after I had a wee at about 3 pm the next day when I wiped there was fresh blood and it just got heavier and more painful from them. It's quite painful a miscarriage, of say you'll know if your having one. And there's quite a bit of blood with clots. Sorry if too in info just hoping to help xx

First pregnancy ended in MC. Started as light brown in the morning and by midday it was very heavy - I was 6 weeks

Second pregnancy was plain sailing untill 10 weeks when I had brown spotting again for a few days, but it didn't progress and I now have a 3 year old. I mentioned it to the midwife who said it could be old blood/ implantation bleeding

I hope it all works out okay

Mine was never brown blood, it was red right from the start, I needed a pad pretty quickly, the cramps were worst on around day 4, and the bleeding lasted just over a week.
Sorry that you're going through this x

@Icouldstillbejoseph it's not hard keeping my mouth shut but it's hard trying to smile through it. I can never lie because my face gives the game away so it's a struggle keeping up the pretence; especially with all these tummy cramps.
Having a little respite hugging a hot water bottle while he's out on a bike ride.
How are you feeling?

I had a miscarriage in August last year - I was approximately 7/8 weeks.

It started with period like cramps and some brown blood when I wiped. It then continued to get heavier until it was bright red with clots (sorry TMI). I don't ever remember seeing a large clot i.e baby, but paracetamol, a hot water bottle and a very caring husband got me through it.

I became pregnant again in December after taking a more relaxed approach and I am now almost 26 weeks.

Thanks for asking @MariposaPink - I've had a therapeutic gin and a cuddle and I'm going to bed soon #wild.
I'm just very tired. I hope the cramps ease soon for you

@Icouldstillbejoseph how are you feeling this morning? I hope you were not in too much pain?
My night was ok...surprisingly. I passed just one clot but on a contraction like pain only. As soon as it passed out of me, I just had dull cramps which didn't bother me much. Less bleeding so far this morning. I feel like this is going to be a slow process.
Told hubby at 3am because I slept downstairs so as not to disturb him with my frequent trips to the loo (he's a light sleeper) and he came to find me. He took the news well and I know this because he's now doing my head in with his Coronavirus theories. I can't listen to them on any other day much less while going through this!
I think I'm going to have a drink. I have a feeling I'm going to need to just to get through the day.

@MariposaPink would it be overshare to say my bathroom resembled a scene from Carrie this morning?! Thanks for asking and glad you are on the gin feeling better ish. I decided it would be a good idea to pop some brufen and go for a run. Stupid me. Had to come back as it was leaking through my leggings. Hey ho. Exercise done now so I can happily do nothing for the rest of the day.

@Icouldstillbejoseph Running?! The only running you should be doing is to the drinks cabinet in the living room! Give yourself a minute please. I know you probably just want to move on from it quickly but be mindful to give your body some healing time. Don’t rush it. I know it’s easier said than done. I had a failed ivf round last June, an MMC last November and now this. And I’ll be 43 in December and panicking that my childbearing days are soon over, so I do know the feeling to move on quickly. I didn’t expect to fall pregnant so fast after my MMC particularly because we had been TTC for over a year and fell pregnant (spontaneously) 3 months after failed IVF and then 3 months after MMC. And the fear that surged through me when I got my BFP last month made me hyperventilate and almost pass out because I hadn’t dealt with the trauma of the MMC. So give yourself time...be kind to yourself. Keep calm...drink gin.

I’ve been thinking that I may be lacking in some kind of hormone; perhaps why I’ve not been able to sustain the last 2 pregnancies. I’ve been reading up on progesterone but I was taking it after my IVF embryo transfer (2 good quality embryos) but they didn’t implant so maybe it’s not progesterone that I’m lacking. Then I thought, could it be genetic abnormalities, but again, my IVF embryos were good, however I don’t know if the clinic screened them for abnormalities. I’m going to call them next week and ask what tests they ran on both myself, hubby and our embryo’s. That may be a good (and cheaper) starting point to see if I can help my body in any way. If there is nothing that a pill can fix and this is just down to shit luck then I can’t do this again.
Good news in the family though...hubby’s brother and his wife had their first baby day before yesterday. I’m just glad we didn’t tell anyone that we were early pregnant because it probably would’ve caused some awkwardness among them now which I would’ve hated. It’s a happy time for them and I don’t want my doom and gloom to taint that. Ignorance (for them) is bliss as they say.

@MariposaPink yep I'm approaching 41 and feel the same. Clock is ticking with every month. We had a fertility consultation booked pre covid but cancelled it, obv.
I know my progesterone levels are low. I've had about 7 tests. And I spot a lot before my period which is another sign apparently.
Not sure if I feel the odds are good enough to give IVF a go. I just want them to give me a magic pill to sort my hormones out and then I can just 'be normal'. And then they can give the pill to you too.

@Icouldstillbejoseph how did you go about being tested? Did you go through your GP or was it private?

My earliest MC started with pink spotting, only really noticeable when I wiped. It came and went for the first day and was very light. By the next morning the blood had turned red. By the middle of the day I was bleeding like the start of a period and had cramps too. It was at that point that I knew I was miscarrying.

@MariposaPink it was through the NHS but I work in a hospital so I just took the bloods there - made it quicker

@MariposaPink sorry - duh - you probably meant the fertility appt?! That was private bye bye bank balance

@Icouldstillbejoseph no, you were right first time. I was asking about the progesterone testing. I will speak with my GP on Monday and ask if I could have it done. That's if I've not had it done already. It will probably be a while before I can get an appointment anyway.
Are you still going to have the scan on Monday?

Hi
I’ve just come in here as I too have just turned 41, I have 6 lovely boys and 1 week ago found out I was pregnant. Clear blue said 2-3 I couldn’t believe it! We haven’t been trying so was a shock but I got all excited. My friend told me the exact same day that she too is expecting. All was good until Thursday night I went to the toilet to find light brown discharge. Googled everything, have been having little cramping right from the get go so wasn’t that bothered. Friday morning at 4am I kept tossing and turning, I got up and went to the toilet and blood came out. Quite a lot! And then about 1 hr later a clot followed by more bleeding. I am devastated. I haven’t stopped crying. I’ve always had such straight forward pregnancies (never had a MC) and it’s just awful. I feel your pain/worry/everything as I’ve just been through it and currently am still going through it now. ☹️

@MariposaPink nah, it would be a total waste of time to have a scan. I had a chemical pregnancy. What's left to say :(

@Vikki6 I am so sorry. I understand all too well. Horrible rollercoaster and a horrible shock seeing the blood. Pleas take care and come here for any support you need. I'm still bleeding too.x

It’s just so awful 😞

Mine was very dramatic at 8 weeks...I was walking into the kitchen and felt like what I thought was a gush of wee...it wasn't...it was all blood...😭 no cramp, no warning, it soaked right through my jeans, it was everywhere, it was very traumatic.

Pressed send too fast. I really hope all will be ok for you OP my thoughts and prayers are with you.

I had a miscarriage in jan which started with a pink tinged mucus, within 24 hrs, cramps started and the bleeding got worse. I ended up in a +e due to pain in one side and was reluctantly convinced to be admitted into hospital. It turned out not to be an eptopic but a miscarriage, it took 8 days for me to finally pass the sac and stop bleeding.
However, in late feb I found out I was pregnant again. At 4 weeks I experience implantation bleeding and at 8 weeks I bled again (pink tinged mucus). As we had just gone into lockdown I rang my gp, the poor guy had to deal with my blubbering for 10 minutes, but he rang through to a+e and they managed to get my into the epau within 45 mins for a scan. I was convinced that I was miscarrying again, but it turns out the baby is fine so far. I’ve had three scans now and I am almost 16 weeks and starting to feel flutters.
It’s such a scary time, especially with covid but If you are worried please ring your gp Monday (my hospital doesn’t scan on a Sunday). Don’t be left wondering, many women bleed (some a lot) and the baby is fine... if you still are you really don’t want to miss windows for tests such as the nuchal measurement.

Feeling of not meant to be on sight of positive pregnancy test. Lost symptoms about 7.5 weeks, could never find hesrt beat with doppler, one case of pink discharge at week 10, then a week later at 11 weeks, spotting increasing over that week into bleeding and heavy bleeding miscarried at 12 weeks.

@vikki6 I’m so sorry you are going through this too. It is definitely a rollercoaster; the elation when getting a BFP and then crashing down at the sight of blood. What can we do other than put our feet up, be kind to ourselves and take the time to heal, so please make sure you do so.
@Nowaitaminute oh gosh I’ve never heard of that happening before. Yes how traumatic that must’ve been for you. I’m sorry to hear that you had such an awful experience too.
@Rainbowafterthestorm thanks for sharing. Such good news that you’ve got a strong little bean growing inside. You must have been so relieved to see all was well. And you must be excited feeling those flutters!
@Icouldstillbejoseph I suppose you’re right as a scan wouldn’t detect a chemical pregnancy after all. Just keep your feet up tomorrow. Have you got one more day before DC’s come back from their dad?

I had a missed miscarriage when I was 18. I had really bad Hyperemesis which got so bad I couldn't even see (sorry TMI) I then got sent to the EPU and waited 8 hours for an emergency scan which was done by a doctor, it looked empty but obviously I had no idea what was going on although they didn't tell me until the next day where they were able to book me in with a sonographer than I had miscarried, I was then booked in for a D&C as I was still what they classed as "pregnant" with the sac.

It was the most soul destroying experience ever, it still haunts me to this day but now I am actually pregnant with my rainbow baby, you never forget but you do live on but it takes time x