Anyone get pregnant in lockdown and worried people will judge?

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I'm pregnant after a horrible miscarriage in the first week of lockdown. I just know when we're back in the office there will be comments about how we entertained ourselves in lockdown.

I know it's none of anyone's business but it always worries me what people think. This will hopefully be DC3 so lots of people probably judging that anyway.

DH and I are excited and enjoying our bubble right now, just don't want it to end.

Congratulations!

I doubt people will judge you either for lockdown or for it being your third child, why would they?

Some might joke but I'm sure it'll just be lighthearted banter. I wouldn't give it a second thought.

People know that life goes on. If someone announced a pregnancy to me I wouldn’t be tracking back to think when they conceived and the lockdown side of things wouldn’t occur to me. Folk will just be happy for you I’m sure! Congratulations!

Oh gosh I’m expecting a baby boom in 9 months!

But yes I think you will get a little gentle teasing. Anything more is out of order though.

Congratulations!

I wouldn’t judge

Some people will make stupid comments but don’t give it a second thought. Apparently they are expecting the opposite to a baby boom in January 2021 so you can always counter their comments!

Congratulations ❤️

When I told my manager the other week, she joked 'bloody lockdown, you've all got nothing better to do' (nhs)
Think it's inevitable but this was always our plan pandemic or not.
We've plans to have another baby and move next year, we didn't want to delay!

Congratulations! People joke about my "Irish twins" DDs who are 13 months apart. I don't take any notice.

Congrats OP, especially after what you've been through. Think about that, who gives a shit what randoms think? It's your life and anyone with a brain cell will be wishing you all the best, the others don't matter.

I think there will be lots of babies conceived during lockdown... what else is there to do?

I don’t see why anyone would care.

Thank you all! This was always the plan so I think I just need to steel myself for it and try not to give a shit.

Popcat that is kind of what I'm expecting although my manager does know about the miscarriage. I'm just not going to tell anyone until late on I think, easier to hide on video calls than irl.

@saylor I would just be massively impressed at that age gap! Bloody well done you.

Congratulations OP!

Ignore any comments, unless they are from very close friends I think it's very bad taste to joke / talk about when a baby is conceived. It's your sex life, pregnancy doesn't make it suddenly appropriate for others to openly mock/ discuss/joke/ whatever about it. Enjoy your pregnancy and start practicing a cold hard stare of a few seconds just in case

I wonder, some judgey people might think I'm putting myself at risk by getting pregnant and using the NHS when normally (as a healthy woman) I don't interact with medical services at all. Or some of the more sanctimonious people in my life might worry that I'm not "Saving Our NHS" by using it for the services it offers. But, well, I'm not going to listen to them. I'm in my mid-30s, DH in his late 30s with ageing parents and DH and I decided we don't want to put our lives on hold.

To be honest, I just think we're going to have to put up with cringey divorce/baby boom comments instead.

@burdog agreed, life sort of has to go on doesn't it? My mum had to have a hysterectomy at 40 and I'll be 40 next year so don't really want to hang about. I hope not to be considered a drain on the NHS!

Yes! I am a worrier and it keeps crossing my mind, mainly about my work colleagues.I got married last Oct and a few girls said it wouldn't be long till i got pregnant, me and DH were going to wait until after our honeymoon (which we should be on now). Mixing those comments and a couple of girls getting pregnant (i was really happy for them), i got a bit emotional at work and had a chat with my boss. Now i feel that they might judge me. I only found out i was expecting the second week into lockdown. My work reopened last week but I'm still on furlough, my manager doesn't want me to return yet. Im going to tell her after my scan in 3 weeks.
Sorry for the long post

I think by the time you announce it, people won’t be bothered to work out the dates and figure out if you conceived before lockdown or in the middle of it. I thought I’d get loads of comments about this being number 3 for some reason, but no one’s been anything other than congratulatory. There are always a few comments, but you and your DH are happy about it which is all that matters!

We decided to stop TTC because of lockdown, turns out I'm 6 weeks pregnant.
Life is weird

people who ask invasive questions or try to figure out what day you conceived on are pervy and creepy, but if its just a light hearted joke then think nothing of it. i concived the week before lockdown, so yeah, it is what it is...

I was about 13 weeks when I went on furlough - hadn't announced pregnancy except to a close co workers and didn't have a bump - going to return at end of June (hopefully!!) with a sizeable bump - and I imagine I will get a lot of jokes re being busy over lockdown etc despite the fact that I would have clearly already been pregnant before lockdown started.... I shall laugh along with them!

I was going to tell people I'd just been eating too much for the last 8 weeks but I was already a bit fat so that might backfire on me!

Me! But I’m also steeling myself because I’m 11 weeks and DS1 is 9 months. We wanted two close together but it won’t stop the “that was quick” comments - now lockdown too. I’m expecting you hear lots of “couldn’t you stay 2m from each other” style comments

I'm sure people will marvel at the opportunity to make a joke but I don't think they'll really care... It will be something you might have to endure however (the jokes!). We conceived in lockdown too. I'm 5 weeks +3. Congratulations!

I had a snarky comment early on in lockdown about my repeated trips out (to the midwife) and when I explained where I was going the neighbour said “well that was silly timing wasn’t it” looking pointedly at my bump. I explained that I was 6 months pregnant when lockdown started 🙄 what was I supposed to do?? Just ignore them. And I agree with your plan to keep it quiet as long as possible, the further away we get from the start of lockdown the less likely it is that people will be counting the dates backwards.

I'm 15 weeks and people have already said about it being a 'lockdown baby' despite me finding out I was pregnant in February and most people (due to my work) knowing from mid March.
Don't worry about what other people think and just enjoy your news