Ante-Natal Depression - is anyone else not feeling good?

[EllieG]

Hello anyone - someone gave me a link to a thread on this which was wonderful, it was like reading my thoughts, but it stopped in April. Is anyone finding it hard going at the moment?

Some days I am finding it so hard to function, just getting going is difficult enough and my home life is suffering...DP and I are bickering, I cry at anything, can't concentrate at work, and so unhappy. I have had episodes of depression before and am so scared of it returning, which it seems to be. I have talked to my DP, who is being lovely, but am scared of him getting fed up with me. My GP has cut down my AD's as am PG, and am scared.

Feel very vulnerable at the moment and was wondering if there was anyone else out there feeling the same? Or if anyone has got through this and can give me some pointers?

Yey for you two! Sounds like a very good idea to split things up into manageable tasks and deliberately not do too much. I am sitting here looking at all of the housework to be done today and it just makes me so tired....think I will put some washing in, put the clean washing away, and leave the rest and get out into the sunshine.

morning all

CT, hope your DH enjoyed your surprise dinner last night - sounded sooo good.

Ellie, good for you, do a little then go and have some R&R.

best thing i've done is throwing out the to-do lists. As well as tidying the shed I cleaned the kitchen, hoovered and did nearly all the ironing yesterday. Its such a good feeling of achievement doing more than you intended rather than a long list which is left unfinished - that would get anyone down.

So the motto for me now is LESS IS MORE.

have a great weekend xx

Hear hear! Less is more....I like that. You have a good weekend too x

Hello,

I've been reading but not writing. You've all been so busy just getting on with things, I wish I was as brave! I just don't know what to say most of the time other than I'm scared. 11 weeks + 3 today. Had a scare on Friday night and Saturday, started to bleed a bit on Friday night. Went to the hospital in the morning the doctor did a scan and said the baby was fine. The bleed came from a sub-chorionic haematoma. He said that I would likely bleed a bit more and/or the bleeding would be reabsorbed and thus be resolved. The only evidence I have that it has resolved is that the bleeding has stopped. But my anxious mind is always wondering about the little life inside me which seems so precarious, especially this early on in a pregnancy.

Other than that I am off work this week and trying to keep busy so that I don't go mad, though I am capable of going mad at work and obsessing about pregnancy symptoms or lack of. At work I walk around feeling my breasts so often that people must be wondering if I do have a problem!!

Yesterday I kept busy making cakes for people . Today I'm just worrying.... My breasts don't feel like they did a couple of weeks ago and when will they get bigger???

I'd love to relax and enjoy this pregnancy and even to start looking at nursery stuff but I just can't yet. When do you start to tell people you're pregnant after you've had a miscarriage?

Best wishes to all,
Love Misworry.

Hi everyone

MISSWORRY, glad you're still with us, getting worried that we hadnt heard from you. Hope that you are also keeping up with the pregnancy after mc thread as I think its great - I dont post that often but will read everyones news.

I know how you feel with pregnancy symptoms coming and going. finally my tiredness has subsided and the all day nausea has gone to be replaced with wretching in the morning. All I do is worry when I feel okay and think that I dont feel pg anymore. However this is around the time that we should be feeling better - or so everyone says.

I have started telling people that I'm pg this week, i,m 12 +1 today, loads of people in work already quessed and some I had told early on.
Trying my best to stay positive for my scan/booking in appt on Friday, fingers/toes crossed.

Its good that you have had a scan too, makes lo seem so much more really and its good to know that they're a fighter and hanging on in there.

hope that all keeps going well for you

CT, where are you??
ELLIE, hope you are well.

good vibes and positive thoughts

Hi Folks

Had a bit of a nightmare weekend really, ds has tonsillitus and my hyperemesis came back out of the blue with a real vengeance so I'm back on medication. Still pretty tired could just lay in bed forever!

Although it was a brief reminder of how bad I was feeling and that has made me grateful for the fact that I'm not suffering like that anymore if that makes sense.

MissWorry: sorry you had such a scare hope all is well now. Pregnancy symptoms come and go all the time and everyone is different. I'm 18 weeks and had a really large bump last week but over the weekend it seems to have disapeared! It is very strange it is literally barely there anymore.
As for when to tell people I'm not sure it's what you're comfortable with really.

Hi Positive, glad the morning sickness is calming down you have my full sympathy on that one! Good luck with the scan.

EllieG: How's things?

xxx

Hi Connor.. Ditto you on the hyperemesis. Mine never really went away, but with the bigger bump, it's back with a vengeance. Feeling wrung out. Can't sleep either. OR have nightmares when I do. Well done for keeping positive. I'm going to try it too now...

Good luck to you other ladies.

sorry to hear your feeling rough susie. How far along are you?

It is hard to be positive I'm just not going to give myself a hard time anymore about not doing too much. Fact is I'm tired and ill so if I don't rest now I'm not going to be able to when there's a baby to look after.

As long as we tick along it's not that big a deal

Hi Connor - I@m 25 weeks now. I'm still hoping that I'll get at least a couple of weeks of feeling ok so I can go to the hsops and buy baby things! (nearest ones 2hr train ride away). I know I can order online, but I want to do the touchy feely trying out thing. Much more exciting.

Have just received an email from a woman with a ten day old baby who had hyperemesis until the birth. She says she feels fantastic now. Everyone keeps asking her if she's tired from the baby. She says she hasn't felt so well for months and months!

Something to look forward to!

I'm trying to take it easy, as you say.

hi ellieg, i reinstated this when i was pg as i felt so miserable, is that what you were talking about? hope things get better for

Hi all, I've been lurking and feeling miserable for no good reason, not really depressed ( and feeling bad for it) but reading everything here, and the links to others, I've got a plan and feel so much better just for deciding not to go to work tomorrow.
I'm only 10 weeks, feeling sick ( not even puking much), heartburn and soooo tired. I drag myself to work ( and be a miserable cow all day) then snoozing when I get home, get up to maybe eat tea (fab dh cooks, does everything), maybe not, spend 10 minutes bfeeding dd then back to the sofa or early bed. I've not got a life, no energy to do anything. So taking work out( hopefully) means I'll have energy to get to yoga tomorrow eve- which I've read somewhere hopefully will help, and someone else mentioned iron levels, so I'll have to time to get some fluoradix. Its scary how just making one decision has made me turn around and be able to see the positives a bit, when earlier I was just stomping around, moaning at dh and not knowing what I could do to change things.
Thank you all so much!

Hi mumofk glad you felt you could join us and glad you feel like you can take some positive steps. I think giving work a miss is a really good idea - we force ourselves to think "I should be able to cope, I just have to get on with" and whilst sometimes that's true there are times when actually it's ok to just stop.

Sounds like you've got a suppportive dh which is great.

Do nothing tomorrow just rest and more importantly don't feel guilty about it. Keep posting too!

Hi, wow! Just want to say thanks again for the advice I've picked up from here. I didn't go to work yesterday and felt guilty when I rang in, but so fab once I'd done it. I got some rest, and made a chilli! cooking is something I love to do to relax ( not everyday cooking, filling the freezer up without anyone hassling me- or a deadline!!) and I've not had time, energy or inclination for months. I was knackered but so positive afterwards! I even dragged myself to yoga, which was hard, but today I think I'll feel the benefit in days to come.n I could just be having a couple of good days but its such a relief that making a few decisions can make such a difference.
Thanks all, must go,
big hugs all and hope everyone is coping a bit**

MUMOFK

so glad to hear that you had a good day off work - dont feel bad about it at all, your body was telling you that you needed some time off.
Ive been off work 4 wks due to tiredness and I just dont know how other mums-to-be can manage getting through a day at work even if they were only half as tired as I am and then have a lo to look after as well.

CT
hope your lo is well on the mend now and hope your are also keeping well.

Hi ELLIE

Positive waves hello to everyone

Hey all - I lost this thread for a few days cos had no time to post this week and felt slightly panicky when realised had dropped off radar!

Had a pretty crap week tbh - work is horribly busy and I just don't feel I can cope sometimes, but then feel very weak for not being able to. I've been hanging on there by a thread especially towards the end of the week, and trying so hard not to be horrid at home and then I feel under more pressure. Really helped yesterday just going to bed for a few hours though, being tired is defo not helping at the moment.
Interesting to hear about work from other perspectives though momofk and CT - I would love to take some time off but keep beating myself up and feeling that I should be able to cope. I think after taking so long off with depression last year (5 months) I feel that people will judge me if I need a break now.

Hi ellie sorry to hear you've been struggling this week. I can understand why you would feel worried about taking time off but you need to think about your long term health here. I'm not suggesting you take 5 months off but maybe a couple of days to just catch up on sleep and gather strength.

There's nothing to say you're going to feel this way through the whole pregnancy. I'm still pretty tired but it IS getting better (i'm 20 weeks).

Thanks CT - I think I might do that next week (too busy this week) as the world definitely improves with a bit more sleep. Also my scan is tomorrow and think will feel better once that is out of the way. How you doing at the moment?

Am actually not too bad at the mo had a really nice weekend but am knackered now as it was quite busy! Tiredness is definately still an issue but I'm just doing what I can and going to bed at nine every night.

Good luck with the scan!

Scan went well! All fine and the LO was bouncing and wriggling like a good 'un. Feeling so much more positive about it now x