Not announcing pregnancy on social media etc

[Gerdticker]

Although I have to have a presence on Facebook and Instagram for my business, I am naturally averse to putting much personal stuff on there.

My husband and I discussed it when DC1 was born, and we have avoided any photos of them going online, by either us or family

Now I’m pregnant with DC2 and I hate the thought of ‘announcing’ my pregnancy publicly! Gender reveals give me the creeps! Am I weird?!

Our families and my closest friends know, but I really don’t care about my wider circle - is it just me?!

Absolutely nothing wrong with this. You say family and close friends know, if you're happy it's bugger all to do with anybody else.

I only announce things on family WhatsApp groups etc, no instagram or Facebook posts about my pregnancy or child, I don't like the thought of it being on there for the world to see, nothing wrong with this!

I didnt tell anyone till my 12wk scan (obvious reasons)
A few of my clients guessed i was mind 😂 but i was shouting it from the roof tops, not because i wasn't pleased, plainly because i wanted to enjoy it & keep calm.
I never publicly announced it, i only have Instagram anyways.
I never had a gender reveal either, its just not my thing nor did i want a baby shower. My sister didnt understand why, but all my friends didnt have any of these either (I'm 28) just wasnt our thing

No OP! I'm with you in this one. I'm 18 weeks and there is not a shred of information about my pregnancy on social media. All of my friends and family know I don't want it publicised. Same goes for after baby is born!
Whilst I'm on social media, I'm not one to diarise my private life and my family and friends have respected mine and DH's decision so far. I'm hoping it will stay that way! Lol!
You're not weird with the gender reveal either, as we don't want one either. I think they are very 'American'. However, each to their own and I always respects other parents to be decisions!
Plus I've always wanted to go to a gender reveal, just not my own! 😂😂😂

When I said No OP, I meant no you're not weird 😁

Same as @lockdownpregnancy friends and family know but I have no intention of broadcasting it on social media or even gender reveal and tbh even when baby is born. I'm 17w tomorrow, got this far without broadcasting it hehe!

I'm the same - 18 weeks and not a peep online. Family, friends and colleagues know, but I don't intend to do a whole 'we're having a baby' announcement. After two previous losses I feel slightly uncomfortable when I see others for whom positive pregnancy test = baby - once our baby is safely home with us then I'll probably post something but i don't want congratulating until then. If a photo of me looking heavily pregnant makes its way online eventually then so be it, but I don't want to go actively drawing attention to it yet / if at all.....

No, not weird....lucky to have friends and family nearby or at a distance that are involved with your life that you can tell and share with in person. My family aren't in any way involved in my life. I don't have any close friends and have moved several times during adulthood. The only friends I have contact with are through social media...if I didn't share my life and my children's achievements or disappointment on there I'd share it with no one.

No, We've never put anything about our dc on social media, no announcements, scan pictures or first day at school pictures. I remember seeing an old colleague when ds was about 18 months old and she said "you've had a secret baby!!".

Not weird at all, but everyone makes their own choice. if you've already told the people you want to know then who really cares how anyone else finds out? 🤷🏻‍♀️

I haven't shared my current pregnancy as I don't want lots of attention and people feeling sorry for me if I lose it - I've had 3 consecutive losses. However, hopefully I'll be able to share happy news at some point.

I have FB, but never put pics on, never do any announcements and would never announce baby on there! Each to their own, but it would be the last place I'd use.

I didn’t tell anyone I was pregnant unless I actually physically saw them and couldn’t hide it.

I did announce it on SM a while after the birth & it was a shock to lots of people (I’m older & been married for a long time before we had a baby)

I would totally keep it quiet if you want to - it is your choice

I'm the same. We didn't tell anyone til we were 16 weeks and even then it was just immediate family and close friends and that was it. Nothing on social media. I don't mind other people doing it but for myself it feels cringe! I'm 27 weeks now but do feel I may be a baby spammer when she arrives 😂

Do what you like! Your body and your baby. Most of my friends are the same.
Unfortunately I’m a chronic oversharer and can barely eat a biscuit with announcing it to the world so both my pregnancies were announced everywhere after 12 weeks. Everyone is different

With my 1st I didn't mention anything until i posted a picture of him when he was born, people were like omg?! But I obviously told everyone I actually spoke to in real life. I'm pregnant with my 3rd and this time never actually told anyone, even family, until after my 20 week scan. Only because of personal circumstances and I didnt have the opportunity to digest and enjoy the pregnancy until that point and now I dont plan on announcing on social media at all until I maybe post a picture after birth. It's just personal preference, your totally not alone

Not weird at all...I've had friends not announce anything until they've given birth, put nothing at all out or just said they were pregnant and left it as that. I'm currently 35 weeks and we did the '12 week' announcement mainly as I have a very large extended family and tbh, I felt that rubbish I didn't have the energy to ring round 30 odd aunts, uncles, great aunts/uncles, 1st and 2nd cousins etc to give them the news. I haven't let slip what we're having or nor do I plan to do any of this 'baby is 1/2/3 so on, today' malarkey.

What I do find weird is the obsession with gender reveals...I had one friend who kept badgering for me do one as thought I'd regret not doing it 🤔 I didn't have one and I still couldn't give a shit...if I'm asked, I tell but I certainly don't make a big thing about it.

Your body, your baby, you do you

No not weird. We didn't announce our pregnancy altho we did announce the birth sort of, although this was one week later. And tbh it was more of a thank you post to everyone who had been kind to us rather than an announcement of the birth. We do put photos of DC on FB occasionally but we both have pretty tight privacy settings and we have a rule that they won't be in our profile photos or cover photos, as they are the two photos publically viewable to all. We do have a friend who have a rule that their DC is also not on Facebook in photos at all and they did no pregnancy or birth announcement. Everyone is different

I didn't announce anything on Facebook but then I never post on there anyway. And I didn't find out the sex before she was born, but if I had done so I definitely would not have been doing a "gender reveal" unless someone had either offered me a large sum of money to do so, or put a gun to my head.

I never announced my pregnancies online although I might have shared some bump shots. Def no scan shots.
I did announce when baby born however, once they had a name which in both cases was about 3 weeks after the birth

I’ve never put anything about my DS on any social media. And now it feels weird to post anything at all because he’s such a massive part of my life, so I basically just don’t use Facebook or instagram anymore.

I just found it easier to announce on fb so then we didn't have to go round telling everyone, or have people eyeballing my stomach thinking is she/isnt she. It was a simple announcement, no scan pics or cheesy inspirational quotes.

I'm not sure why some people are allergic to posting this sort of thing on fb. It's not exactly a state secret, and what's the point having social media if not to share news? It's a bit Harry and Meghan for me, for want of a better phrase lol.

Gender reveals however are cringe IMO.

I've never announced my pregnancies on fb. I do put a birth announcement on there but no other trace of my DC on social media either. I just don't want their pictures or information out there. I always imagine if we'd had that growing up, I'd hate having our childhoods plastered for all to see in the hope of 'likes'.

Not weird to me. My friends are scattered around the country and globe (as are my endless relatives). I put up a photo when DS1 was born and got a fair amount of light hearted ribbing because people hadn’t known I was pregnant. So with DS2 I made a solitary reference to it. I confess that when a friend I knew was past 9.5 months hadn’t announced the new arrival I did begin to fret (a couple of friends have very sadly had still births). I ended up asking a mutual friend before contacting her. So I like seeing the birth announcement just so I can celebrate with them virtually. But I confess I love seeing my friend DC growing up via social media (maybe not a photo a day but even then!).

I didnt announce anything in either pregnancy. People who have not seen me in person do not know I am 8,5 months pregnant. No one who didnt see me in person in first pregnancy knew, I only put one photo after giving birth where you could not even see the baby.