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Not announcing pregnancy on social media etc

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Gerdticker · 27/04/2020 18:59

Although I have to have a presence on Facebook and Instagram for my business, I am naturally averse to putting much personal stuff on there.

My husband and I discussed it when DC1 was born, and we have avoided any photos of them going online, by either us or family

Now I’m pregnant with DC2 and I hate the thought of ‘announcing’ my pregnancy publicly! Gender reveals give me the creeps! Am I weird?!

Our families and my closest friends know, but I really don’t care about my wider circle - is it just me?!

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Mucklowe · 27/04/2020 20:52

If I had my way, I wouldn't have told a soul until I gave birth!

cheesybeano · 27/04/2020 21:27

@Wolfgirrl I can't speak for anyone else but posting on SM makes me anxious and for some unknown reason I feel like I should post things like this on there when in reality, I don't have to do anything I don't want to. The only reason I still have SM is to keep in contact with people i don't see much as i move quite often. It's not so much I don't want to announce on purpose, it's to protect my own mental health. Bit deep but it's the truth lol

Wolfgirrl · 27/04/2020 21:36

@cheesybeano

Facebook gave me anxiety so I deleted it for 6 years. It was brilliant, a proper digital detox. I only went back online when I felt happy to do it. Now I dont have the dread when I open it up and look forward to seeing other people's news.

I would really reccomend it. Or you could just ask for people's numbers and use WhatsApp etc.

sel2223 · 27/04/2020 23:51

Not weird at all. I have friends who share every detail of their pregnancies, births and motherhood online, some who announce the birth but nothing else, others who you wouldn't even know had children from their online profile and everything inbetween.
I don't judge anyone for doing what feels right for them.

Personally, I posted a brief 'pregnancy announcement' when I was about 17 or 18 weeks and nothing since. I don't have masses of friends on SM so it's all people I actually want to keep in touch and share news with rather than randoms I haven't seen in 20 years. I've also had a really hard time these last few years which most people know about so it felt good to be able to share some positive news for once.

Luckingfovely · 28/04/2020 00:09

The only thing that is weird is you thinking this much about social media and feeling that you 'should' post something personal on there.

Some people do post all their personal business online - and lots don't. I personally think its's crass, and don't.

If you don't want to announce it online - um, just don't. Simple.

bee222 · 28/04/2020 00:12

Not weird at all. I’m not even telling people off social media. People can figure it out for themselves. When she or he is born I may announce it on fb, but it won’t be until at least a few weeks after and there will be no photo.

ArthurandJessie · 28/04/2020 01:04

My partner and I decided not to put a pregnancy announcement on social media and we won't be posting them when they are here either! We are going to post just the one picture to let everyone know the twins have arrived safely ( we have extended family all over the world) and thats it we kind of feel that it should be up to them as to whether they want to he on social media when they are older

wannabebump · 28/04/2020 08:39

We don't plan on any kind of pregnancy announcement in social media - whilst we use SM, it's not my cup of tea. We have the 12 week scan in less than a week, and all being well, it will be parents and immediate family who will be told and they'll be asked to keep it to themselves. We had an ectopic last year, and whilst this one isn't ectopic, we're just too aware of how it might not be all sunshine and roses.

Similarly, gender reveals - not our thing! We do plan on finding out though and we'll tell those who ask.

We do post pictures up on SM when we're on our travels etc, so it might end up that there is one of me with a bump, but we won't be drawing attention to it. Anyone else will find out im pregnant when they see me and I have a belly!

When DC is born, we'll probably announce it then - we have family all over the world and it's a nice way to keep in touch without too much effort. I do enjoy seeing my friends pictures on SM, nice to be up to date etc when life is busy, so we'll probably do the same in the long run.

Nice to know lots of others think the same! A few friends think it's weird to not plaster scan pictures over fb 🙄

Purpleowl94 · 29/04/2020 07:14

I didnt want to tell anyone I was pregnant 😂 literally nobody apart from my partner and I thought it would have been easy as I live alone HOWEVER he couldn't keep his mouth shut and within 24 hours had told a select few (found out at 6 weeks). I didn't want people to know for a few reasons... Me and my OH hadn't been together long at the time and I thought people would judge us being the main one. 🙄 My OH wanted to tell everyone and anyone after the 12 week scan and couldn't quite understand why I didn't want to (anxiety over things going wrong), he wanted a gender reveal, a baby shower whereas I didn't. It caused a lot of discussions and eventually I agreed to have a gender reveal and then agreed to him announcing it on his FB (not on mine). We do have a lot of family on both sides that live in different counties so I guess that the photos he posts keeps everyone updated.
I think you just do what you think is best for you, and your partner it's not really anyone else's business. X

Nokita · 29/04/2020 14:37

Is not weird is just what you feel and that's the right thing. I believe there is a lot of pressure in social media to do this or that and also from other people. I'm 20w and never had the need of posting anything, planing baby shower or gender reveal. I have a very intense work and just told my boss cause couldn't keep doing 16h shifts. For 13 weeks didnt said to anyone else, and tbh if it was for me no one would knew it by now only after birth but my partner couldn't keep quiet and we told family and friends. At my work only told yesterday and everyone thought is a quarentine baby. Gender reveals for me maybe is for the family (my in laws were really happy to know we're having a boy) on other hand my mum has a bit sad to have only grandsons, for me and partner we just want to have a healthy baby despite the gender.
Is your body, your baby, your life. Only you knows what's right for you and family and there no right or wrong.

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