A bit of background. Dh and I have been together 6 years, I have dd 18, and 2 ds 14 and almost 11. He is without doubt the most wonderful stepfather in the world and is a truly fantastic man. We decided a while ago not to have any children together because of various reasons - money, age, (mine not his), room in the house etc, and I have a coil fitted. Last month I had a very late period, in fact judging by the symptoms was probably pg (leg cramps in the night - only time I ever get them!). I didn't do a test (despite being shouted at very loudly on here) and last week it turned out I wasn't.
Now here's the thing, I started off panicking, then got used to the idea, then started measuring up the garage for a conversion, looking at prams, checking how much WFTC we would get (money would be very tight - it's pretty tight as it is!)and thinking about names !!
This week I'm torn, I've been reading all the medical drawbacks to having a baby at this age, and have also thought of a good few negatives of my own, such as, me looking like a grandma at the school gates, all our freinds children are similar ages to ours, I'm nearly half way thru' a OU degree and a couple of family ones which I won't bore you with at the moment but will turn out to be major things if we do decide to go for this.
Dh was very sad at the 'missed opportunity' but says that althouhg it would be something that he would love, he would never pressure me into doing anything and we have probably left it too late anyway.
What do you think?
And if we do decide to do it, how long do I try for beofre giving up? If I got pregnant immediately, which would be a miracle according to the statistics, I would be 45 when the baby is born.
I'm mad aren't I?