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how is everyone dealing with covid stress?

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FeelingBeautiful · 16/03/2020 17:43

this is a really worrying time for us pregnant ladies. I'm trying to keep busy but there is a kind of stress to it. every time i go out shopping (I'm working from home now) i'm scared and do my shopping very fast. to try to calm down i am going for a walk every day and i'm talking to my baby. i'm afraid that the stress is going to get to him/her and when i reassure the bubs i feel better too

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LJC1234 · 16/03/2020 18:27

I'm terrified! I'm trying to avoid all the scare mongering as it sends me into a huge panic .

I've deleted all news apps apart from BBC and turned off all notifications for news .

Today's announcement has made me hugely anxious and I suffer with anxiety anyway

Bearbunch · 16/03/2020 18:33

Yup anxious to the complete max, feel like my boss isn't taking it seriously! Luckily off work this week which came at a good time.

flissity · 16/03/2020 18:34

So what exactly are we to do? As we are now in the ‘at risk’ group.

(I’m 30wks pg)

I am going to be working from home from now. Do I still take kids to school and clubs?
I think I will stop going out shopping/stop the gym etc :(

JKD1982 · 16/03/2020 18:37

Hello. I feel the same. 27 weeks pregnant with my first, I’ve had a fine pregnancy but still under consultant care. Does that mean we won’t have our appointments and scans? Are we now being expected to self isolate and not go anywhere for 12 weeks? What about my husband should he continue to work and then come home and potentially be a risk to me?
This is all a bit messy

ser91 · 16/03/2020 18:38

I'm 36 weeks - terrified.

I'm on mat leave, but my partner who is a primary teacher, isn't. Obviously, if he catches anything he won't be able to be at the birth and if I catch it from him going out I will be giving birth in isolation. Another risk factor is that due to difficulties scanning, we've never had confirmation that our baby has a completely healthy heart. 😓😓 although we pray to everyone it does.

We've decided to ask his work about him not going into school as it's all causing so much anxiety and stress. Such bad timing!

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FeelingBeautiful · 16/03/2020 18:39

My scan was postponed today as I still have a cough...was so upset...came home and went for a big walk and felt much better. this is all very messy, but we need to do the best we can for our babies families and ourselves. i just got to spoke to mymidwife and she said so far no evidence it transfers to fetus. stay away from people if you can and wash your hands. tell yourself you are doing everything you can.

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flissity · 16/03/2020 18:46

My husband has just said I can still go for walks etc in countryside. Luckily we live in small town but loads of empty beaches and woodland around.

I just can’t believe It all, feels like a bad dream. Selfishly was really looking forward to Mat leave! But I expect my 2 older DDs will probably be off school soon.

I just never thought this could happen!

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FeelingBeautiful · 16/03/2020 19:11

@flissity if someone told me in November not to get pregnant cos there is going to be a pandemic i wouldn't have believed them! i would probably have kept ttc anyway too : ) this is stressful but so far it doesn't look too sinister for us mums

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bubba22 · 16/03/2020 19:12

I’m terrified, due in May with my 2nd.

HolsF28 · 16/03/2020 19:13

I'm gutted about all this. This is my second pregnancy and will be my last and I just want to cry about all this. Hearing now pregnant people have been put into the most vulnerable category and are now being told to stay home possibly for 12 weeks just kills me. I do wanted to enjoy this one after my first was filled with anxiety now this one is just anxiety filled too. I honestly just wanna cry about all of this.
I don't get how we can now be classed as most vulnerable with old people yet a week ago we weren't at risk anymore than anyone else?!?!

fioney25 · 16/03/2020 19:17

So glad I'm not the only one. I'm genuinely terrified and so anxious of the unknown.
Trying to listen to the facts and dismiss the scare mongering but it's so hard.

I'm 16 weeks, luckily I'm set up to work from home even though my boss is totally against it. I'm hoping my boss will follow the guidance and I can work from home for the foreseeable or until advice changes... if it does xx

MisssC3025 · 16/03/2020 19:24

Hey ladies. 29weeks here (first baby) and also very anxious!! Worried I'll get it nearer the time or DP will. Will I have to give birth in isolation? It's all so worrying. Our baby has a lethal condition too which effects his lung development, so added anxiety of him being born and all be better than expected and then BAM Coronavirus f's it all up. It's been such an anxious time for us anyway because he may not make it, but this has added more to the mix. I'm just sad and anxious daily. It's been the worst year so far 😭

starrystarry · 16/03/2020 19:35

I'm terrified too. I'm 35 weeks due on the 20.04.20 and now considering a home birth!

LunaNova · 16/03/2020 19:36

It's all a very stressful time. I'm 38+1 (FTM) and today is my first official day of mat leave, now I feel like I'm trapped inside and it's all very up in the air. My parents are both in the high risk category as well, with underlying health conditions so I'm also very stressed out about that.

To top it off, I've had a cold with an intermittent cough for the past week (literally I will cough a couple of times over a 30 min period and then not again for the rest of the day - does this class as a continuous cough?! who really knows!?) so now I'm not sure if my husband should also be self-isolating, which considering how close we are to our due date it's not ideal as it's a busy time at work for him and he wants to be as prepared as possible for pat leave (+ 2 weeks holiday).

Also due to visit my midwife on Friday at the GPs surgery so don't know if that's likely to be sensible! I'm going to ring my midwife in the morning to see what their guidance is but it all feels very unsettled.

I've done so well to stay so calm up to this point but now feel like I'm spiralling a bit, my husband went shopping straight from work and he says it's madness at the shops. We literally have a bottle of milk and a single carrot in our fridge so I'm hoping he's managed to at least get some food haha!

sarahc336 · 16/03/2020 19:44

5 weeks here and had to tell work which was not what I wanted to do as I had a Mc in Oct at 6 weeks and now people are figuring out why I'm not seeing patients face to face Confused I'm going to try stay away from people as much as possible, but will still take my daughter to nursery etc just be sensible I guess x

Bearbunch · 16/03/2020 19:49

There isn't even any clarity on the 12 week isolation? Is that all pregnant woman or what? It's very confusing and scary time!

And you're so right HolsF28 how did it go from no risk to being in the most vulnerable group? Were just not being told everything 😭

Lnix · 16/03/2020 19:58

Hi guys. I'm really anxious too but have been talking to a friend tonight who is a doctor working in a hospital. She says at the moment there is no change to the known risks for pregnant women (if you read the Rcog information you'll see it says we may be more susceptible to getting it but not to having a more severe case and not of passing it to baby). She thinks the news tonight is simply because they don't have a lot of information and as pregnant women we are naturally more vulnerable to any and all infections so it makes sense to advise us to take care. Having a temperature for any reason is not desirable, for example. She has not heard anything otherwise and she definitely would have at work. She is going to confirm with one of the consultants. X

Practicallymarypoppins · 16/03/2020 20:00

I'm only going by the guidance from royal college of obstetricians and not any media outlets! Boris has a pregnant wife I'm hoping he's just wanting to keep her safe as I've not read anything to suggest the risk to pregnant people has changed!

anxioussmum · 16/03/2020 20:17

Severe anxiety here too, mini panic attacks and all - due on Tuesday 😩

Lnix · 16/03/2020 20:34

@practicallymarypoppins I agree, a comment in the media can be interpreted in different ways. Actual facts from Royal College of Obs and Gynae, made to the best of their knowledge so far, is the place to get our info xx

Persipan · 16/03/2020 20:54

I am apparently that one person who isn't particularly worried. Of course, I am very concerned for those who are vulnerable to more severe cases of coronavirus, and it's absolutely right that everyone take every action possible to keep people safe. I would rather not be ill while looking after a tiny baby if I can avoid it. And I have concerns about the economic and social implications and do think this is likely to be a really significant ongoing situation for a long time.

For me personally, though, it's more of an irritation at the moment - my last week at work is chaos rather than the mellow, lunch-heavy schedule I had planned, the hospital aren't really sure what will be happening by the time I'm having the baby, the logistics are all a bit more complicated. But ultimately I was already anticipating a long period of sitting around the house not really being part of the world. I'm not feeling particularly anxious - it's crap for the world as a whole, and I'm sure it'll impact on me in lots of ways, but I'm not in a panic about it, by any means.

anotherypasswordtoremember · 16/03/2020 21:02

I'm able to work from home pretty easily, but we've been waiting a month to have funeral for a family member. It's this week and I can't not attend.

I've been saying since it started that pregnant women have lowered immune systems so my concerns were rational, and I've repeatedly been told to calm down because the government said it was fine. I'm more cross about the blasé attitude of some people more than anything else.

anotherypasswordtoremember · 16/03/2020 21:07

I'm really worried that all this will mean we get forced to have csections just try be on the safe side. I do not want a section unless it totally necessary. I'm probably only having one baby and I'm really cross at the idea of all my choices being taken away.

So in summary, more angry than anxious right now!

secretllama · 16/03/2020 21:26

I'm 35 weeks and only today started to get really anxious.

I'm not anxious about the virus itself , but about how fast everything is changing in society...how will the hospitals be in 5 weeks time, how the supermarkets are going to be, the amount of people who are going to lose their jobs as a direct impact of corona virus. What if my husband gets coronavirus and cant be with me at the birth.

It's all too much to think about and I'm sitting here selfishly thinking how the enjoyment of my mat leave and first few months of baby's life has been robbed from me. I envisioned lovely days out with baby meeting my mama friends for cake etc. I know this is awful/selfish to think as people are dying but it's just everything together including these little things that's giving me overall anxiety.

Persipan · 16/03/2020 21:27

Nobody can force you to have a c section. And why would that be 'on the safe side'? It generally involves more time in hospital, which would be preferable to avoid if possible.