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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

how is everyone dealing with covid stress?

33 replies

FeelingBeautiful · 16/03/2020 17:43

this is a really worrying time for us pregnant ladies. I'm trying to keep busy but there is a kind of stress to it. every time i go out shopping (I'm working from home now) i'm scared and do my shopping very fast. to try to calm down i am going for a walk every day and i'm talking to my baby. i'm afraid that the stress is going to get to him/her and when i reassure the bubs i feel better too

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anotherypasswordtoremember · 16/03/2020 21:29

@secretllama, same! I was just saying how there won't be any pictures of me pregnant because we'll be stuck inside. It sounds really petty but that makes me so sad.

anotherypasswordtoremember · 16/03/2020 21:31

@Persipan, but it's more controllable isn't it? It's not 4 days of labour, it's whip it out in under 30 minutes. When the hospital's are overloaded they aren't exactly going to entertain my birth plan are they?

These are the things I'm concerned about, I'm not saying you have to be concerned by them too.

Persipan · 16/03/2020 21:40

It's an objectively more resource-intensive way of giving birth with its own set of risks and recovery implications, so I think that's incredibly unlikely. But by all means ask your midwife about it if it's a worry for you - hopefully they can reassure you!

MoonBlood · 17/03/2020 06:24

I started out this pregnancy extremely unhappy about it. I was suffering badly with my MH, had just changed meds and was going to counselling for depression and GAD. Finding out I was pregnant again was the straw that broke the camels back so to speak. It’s been a long old road getting to where I was a few weeks ago, which was considerably better mostly due to the new medication and counselling. I was feeling better about the baby but still was really unhappy about being pregnant for a lot of reasons.

More recently I’m feeling the baby move daily and am finally at peace with it all, I’m so happy when I feel the little one kicking... and now this.

I’ve not been terrified as such but restless. I can’t settle, I’m watching for news updates all the time and I’ve been waking at 2-3am and unable to get back to sleep. I know it’s my anxiety but a ‘muted’ version due to the meds. I’ve kept the kids off school and my toddler daughter off nursery but yesterday’s press conference has sent my brain into overdrive and now I don’t know what to do with myself.

I’m worried about the kids, the baby, my parents and grandmother not to mention all my friends and their small children/babies. I’m worried about finances, I already had to leave the physical side of my business due to complications and am just doing a bit at home which isn’t bringing in much. OH is self employed too and I’m so concerned about the financial impact. My eldest is due to do his GCSEs soon but I’m too worried to send him to school.

I'm really worried that all this will mean we get forced to have csections just try be on the safe side

This is interesting as I’m supposed to be having a section this time (my first one, all natural births previously) and I’m worried it won’t be able go ahead for some reason, there won’t be staff because they’re too busy elsewhere or off sick. I’m worried about the level of care or lack there of due to overstretched resources/beds/staff or if none of that is an issue at the time, contracting it myself and giving it to the baby when it arrives! I think my brain is stuck in a loop now. I’m going to try switching everything off today and distracting from it all.

Bezalelle · 17/03/2020 06:35

I'm trying not to stress but it's hard. I'm 16 weeks. We've put off telling people while we wait for Quad tests. I fear MIL and my parents will go into worry overdrive when we tell them.

I'm trying to keep busy by setting up a website for my new editing business, and DH has his dissertation to work on.

Isthistrueor · 17/03/2020 10:33

I genuinely didn’t feel even remotely concerned until the PM’s speech yesterday, now I’m in full blown panic mode. I still have to drop my DC off at school and collect them so unless they close schools I can’t fully isolate anyway. I also rushed around the supermarket earlier and felt seriously self conscious. Main priority is obviously protecting my DC including unborn baby (I’m 21 weeks) but I feel as though I can’t really do that if my older DC are still in school!

Kl129 · 17/03/2020 11:23

I’m really starting to worry about this too, I’m almost 19 weeks and my fiancé is self employed as a tattoo artist so if he has to self isolate we will take a massive hit, I’m currently working from home but I don’t earn enough to cover all of our bills.

We have savings but not a lot and we don’t really want to dip in to them.

I’m worried as well due to the nature of his job that he’s in close proximity to people all day.

I have health anxiety as it is so this is all making me extremely panicky:

applestrudels · 17/03/2020 18:27

I was starting to really freak out about it, BUT it’s important to bear in mind that the limited evidence so far from China shows NO elevated risk to pregnant women or our babies (unlike with the flu for example where the risks can be pretty serious to both mother and baby).

I was reading an article yesterday that went into a lot of detail about the cases so far in China (although there have only been a few dozen) and the risk of the mother developing serious symptoms seems no higher than any other women of the same age (I.e. pretty low for most of us) AND the virus doesn’t seem to be transmitted from mother to baby. A small number of the babies were born with a fever and slight shortness of breath, but they recovered after a couple of days and mild treatment and tested negative for the virus. And most of the babies were completely fine. And so far, babies who do get the virus seem to only suffer mild symptoms.

So while obviously it is a good idea to do everything we can to keep ourselves safe (given that evidence is limited atm, plus You never know if you’re going to be in that minority that does have serious symptoms) , there’s probably no need to panic. Although don’t get me wrong, I am still going to self-isolate as much as possible and take all the recommended precautions.

One thing the article did say was that the Chinese women who had the virus were separated from their babies for 2 weeks as precaution, which is pretty upsetting, BUT there was a quote from someone from the RCOG in Britain saying that at the moment they wouldn’t do that here because the negative effects on mother and child of separation would probably be worse, and also the virus does not seem to pass into breast milk, so they would let you have your baby with you!

Of course there are other worries too, like what if the hospital resources are overwhelmed when we’re in labour, and all the other stuff. I actually wondered, if it gets really bad, if they would make us have our babies at home if there are no risk factors! So as to avoid catching anything at the hospital. I hope not... I’m also feeling pretty sad about the fact that it’s looking like none of our parents will be able to come and meet the baby for at least a few weeks, possibly a couple of months after the birth. My mum works in a school and would need to take the train to get here, so I feel like she’s probably a walking contamination unit atm :( and MIL is in France so she’s not even allowed out of her own front door apart from a few special reasons. So that’s all a bit sad... then there are things like, will we be able to get hold of baby supplies if there’s something we forgot to buy...

www.newscientist.com/article/2237352-coronavirus-what-we-know-so-far-about-risks-to-pregnancy-and-babies/

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