when to do a baby shower?

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hey guys

when is the average time to have a baby shower?
My due date is the 3rd August and I was thinking of doing it the 23rd May, this will make me just under 30w (29+6)

is this too early? whats the average? June and July is really busy for my family and friends so this date works for most but im worried if its seen as too early?

when did you all have yours?

PS- to all of those that say you don't believe in baby showers, its all a waste of money, time etc etc. please save yourself the time and effort of typing, im not asking for your opinion on if I should or shouldn't have 1. I'm simply asking when to do it. Thanks!

xx

Have a gathering after the baby is safely here. It seems like tempting fate to celebrate before it is born.

We didn’t have one, but did hav a nice lunch with work colleagues before maternity leave at around 34 weeks. I personally don’t think a baby should be celebrated until it has safely arrived. (My opinion though!)

'when did you all have yours?'
Alot of people dont have showers and just celebrate when the baby is here. Each to their own though.. ladies that have had showers who I know have had them towards the end of the second trimester when they have been feeling their best. I dont think there is a set rule. Do it when you want to op as at the end of the day in is your shower

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I had mine at 36+4
Baby was born at 37+4.

I'd do it when you want but I do think it's madness to try and plan a gathering for May at the moment - especially one which may include older people (mothers, grandmothers etc)

Didn’t have one.

Maybe play it by ear though- with the strange time’s we’re in at the moment and people being told to avoid social gatherings of more than a handful of people, I’d wait before arranging anything.

I had mine when I was 36+4 but there isn't a right or wrong time to do one. I would be extra cautious at the moment with social gatherings so maybe just play it by ear x

I didn't have one myself, but I have been to a few and they've usually been when the mother is between 30-36 weeks pregnant.

Isn't the whole idea of baby showers that friends/family arrange it as a surprise for the mother to be? Bit crazy to arrange any sort of gathering at the moment with CV not even at its peak, especially if any attendees are in the 'at risk' groups.

I thought the whole point of a baby shower was that other people organised it for you/surprised you with it??

Are you organising an event for people to come and give you gifts?

With the corona you may want to postpone any arrangements, i know its a disappointment but main thing is that you and your baby are okay.

I don’t think there are any rules.. my friends threw myself & a friend a joint one. An afternoon tea at a nice pub. It was about 27 weeks for me & 35 weeks for my friend! But I didn’t mind, it was a really lovely, kind gesture.

Hard to say in these unpredictable times.. we may all be on lockdown by May! Who knows.. I’d perhaps make some loose plans, book a reservation for a pub or function room but be prepared for cancellation & potentially have it at your house or a friends etc if restaurants etc are forced to close!

I had mine around 30 weeks. Enjoy your baby shower. I loved having family and friends around playing games. It was great! Ignore the Debbie Downers.

You can of course do whatever you like, but personally I'd wait to see how coronavirus plays out over the next while before committing to anything. I strongly suspect that everyday life in a couple of weeks' time will be virtually unrecognisable, and it's hard to know how long that will continue to be the case for.

thanks all! No im not arranging it but my sister has asked me when I want to do it, no point of her arranging something if I cant be there myself because im already busy.

Yes if we have to postpone/cancel nearer the time due to the virus then we will look at that nearer the time, but for the minute, we will plan for it until we need to take such action.

No my grandmother will not be there, as she is housebound, so is DH's grandma, so we will see them as normal another time. No other over 70's will be at the baby shower.

my mum did say, if we have to postpone it in may, at least we still have enough time to maybe do it before the baby comes. They really want to do it for me, its my first baby and im the baby of the family and my family literally love to make a fuss and celebration over everything- im lucky really.

xx

Whenever you feel to have your shower you have it then!
I had mine around 35-36 weeks but would’ve had it a couple weeks earlier if it weren’t busy Christmas time! X

OP there are people with health conditions under 70 which will make them vulnerable to covid-19

Anyway give your sister a selection of dates and don't be surprised if you have to cancel.

I understand @littlelittlelittle but surely those people would decline the invite anyway?

obviously if the whole country is in isolation than fair enough, but if not, then surely people would use their own discretion and common sense when responding to the invite?

@Bol87 thank you, yes we would be having it at home either way so at least we wouldn't have to cancel a venue x

OP they may decline late in the day depending what the government advises.

I’m due mid May and having a very small gathering, friends only really, at the beginning of May. I know people who have done theirs sooner and others later, just go with what works best for you. X

Sorry that should have said beginning of April!

@LittleLittleLittle and that's fair enough and I wouldn't have an issue with that, not sure why anyone would x

My mum, mil and SIL organised mine as a surprise (I thought we were having afternoon tea) at 35 weeks. I loved it, but with hip pain and being so big I was done for the entire weekend after the 2 hour party. Xx

I wouldn't be planning any gatherings at the moment.