I may be speaking out of turn here, but am just mindful of some of the comments around it not mattering if there is an issue and loving baby all the same, wait til they’re born etc etc.
I appreciate with some conditions and some individuals, that may be the stance, but prenatal diagnostics and prognosis can really differ.
Having gone through the experience of being told my baby had only a tiny chance of survival (even in terms of lasting the pregnancy) and would likely suffer immeasurably - some of the worst comments I faced during that time were people making comments like the above. It was incredibly painful having to articulate that my baby may not even survive - and if they did, would suffer. That I would’ve only dreamed, at that point, of my pregnancy going to term and getting to meet them.
I know a lot of people try to be supportive and simply don’t necessarily understand the varying prognosis is most instances, but it can be very painful, not only feeling judged, but also having to explain when you are already going through something so traumatic. Hence I would urge sensitivity wherever possible.
Additionally, some conditions and diagnoses can actually place a mother’s life at risk - and a decision sometimes is made as both the mother and baby would likely die in continuing the pregnancy. I’ve known people face this.
I appreciate many of these comments are meant to be supportive. Some people may think I’m going ott, but just thought it was worth highlighting.