11 weeks pregnant and I think I'm miscarrying..

[Snoopy28x]

I've had some very light spotting today, I had a scan at 8 weeks due to spotting and they found a heartbeat and could see a reason for the bleed.

I woke up at 1am went to the toilet and had a gush of bright red blood, also the cramps have started. I've passed a few big clots. Although now to scared to leave the toilet. How long will this go on for?

This was unexpected baby #3, the timing was off as I have a 3 year old and 7 month old. Also my partner is currently going through depression.. hes just coming out the other side so I'm so worried this is going to set him back.

Before my last baby I miscarried and he blames himself as he was really down during that time, he thinks the stress he caused me caused the miscarriage. I've assured him that sometimes it's just not meant to be.

Not really sure where I'm going with this, just feeling very emotional x

I’m so sorry. Almost 48hrs for me (on and off)
You are absolutely right, it’s sometimes just not meant to be. to you and your partner

Thank you for your reply xx I hope it passes quickly. We are very blessed to have our 2 babies, so will need to just focus on that x

Hi I'm really sorry you're going through this. It's possible to bleed and everything be fine so I would suggest calling EPU in the morning to see if they can bring you in for a scan.

I don't think your husband's depression caused your earlier miscarriage. I also don't believe in things 'not meant to be'. Miscarriage can be caused by genetic factors, immune issues, among many other things. You may never know the cause but what's important is that you are looked after and that you and your husband receive some support. Depression and ptsd are very common following miscarriage, both for the woman and for her partner.

Right now I'd suggest you put a thick pad in to catch anything coming out, so that you can show epu if necessary. If you soak through a pad in an hour call 111. Get some rest just now.

Sending a handhold, I hope it's just a bleed and everything is OK.

Hi, I've not been in this situation however have you called your out of hours as I'm sure they would see you due to significant blood loss xxx
If you have miscarried find comfort together.... Talk....cry... Love xx thinking of you xx

I'm sorry OP. You mention you'd a scan at 8 weeks and there was a heartbeat and a cause for the bleed?

I'd definitely return to the EPU tomorrow for another scan.

Don't lose hope - it may not be a m/c.

About DH depression, that's NOT as a consequence of your other pregnancy loss & is his own responsibility (with your help to deal with of course).

You've a lot on your plate. Mind yourself. 💐

Let us know tomorrow?

Thank you all for your replies. I passed alot of bit clots over the night, along with cramping. It seemed to subside about 4am. My partner has been very supportive. We had a cry together and cuddled in bed until the kids woke up. The bleeding seems to have slowed right down now, still feeling mild cramps.

I will ring the epu this morning and see what they say. I honestly dont hold out much hope with the size of the clots passed etc. Thank you all for your hand holding xx

My partner is getting help with his depression and has weekly counselling sessions. It's a tough time but we are getting through it together x

Sorry you are going through this. Sounds like you might have passed most clots, but if still passing them, do you have a sterile urine type jar? Sorry if TMI, but I collected the products and EPU tested it for me. They wouldn't do any genetic testing, but at least confirmed there had been a foetus there (till that point I thought it might have been a blighted ovum as nothing had been seen on early scans). They also confirmed that it wasn't a molar pregnancy, which would very reassuring. Best of luck today and sorry for your loss

I finished passing clots at 4am and the bleeding has stopped since then?? I've still got mild cramps. I've left a message for the epu, so waiting for a call back. Hoping they can scan and check what's going on so I know for sure.

I'm so emotional i cant stop crying. Teying to hold it together in front of my little girl (3). I've come upstairs for a little cry x

Sending you so many hugs OP, please let us know what EPU day . My friend passed huge clots at 11 weeks and now had a beautiful 5 year old girl . It can sometimes just be a sac of blood and you can have a normal pregnancy afterwards , so fingers crossed xx

Thank you for that glimmer of hope! I have a scan booked 12pm tomorrow.. so it's just a waiting game until then. I will let you know what happens.

Thank you all for your kind words xx

I'm so sorry @Snoopy28x. It's horrible having to wait. I'm thinking of you and wishing you the best.

Sending good wishes and lots of luck to you OP. I can’t imagine how you’re both feeling.

I truly hope everything is perfectly fine.

My friend had recently had a big bleed at only 10 weeks and at her scan they said they could see a sac of blood but it should affect the baby although it could pass through or stay there until it shifts.
The sonographer told her that her day is spent seeing mostly women with bleeds and 8/10 cases are usually completely normal and nothing to worry about. I hope this is the case for you. If it isn’t the case I hope you and your husband find peace and support together.

Good luck tomorrow!

I am 14 weeks pregnant, had 12 week scan and at high risk of downs syndrome, Edwards and Patau syndrome, are any mums out their who have had high risk of any syndromes?

I am undecisive about what to do, I want a healthy baby but don't want that chance of a miscarriage.

Would you think getting a second opinion from a private clinic be of any help?

Thank you for your kind words. The pregnancy journey is such a tough one. I guess it just prepares you for the worry of being a parent.

Still mild cramps in my back but I havent passed any clots since about 4am. We are having cuddles with our little ones and spending time with them today, just reminding us of the precious little things we have xx

Hi @tsang1981 it looks like you'd be better of starting your own separate thread on this, where we're sure you'll get some good advice.

You could start a thread in our pregnancy choices section here: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy_choices

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@Snoopy28x How are you getting on today?

Thanks for checking on me quiffy. I had a good and well needed sleep last night. Still cramping today, I guess maybe after pains like after birth?

I have the scan at 12 but really not expecting to see anything. My tummy is flat this morning (as flat as it can be after 2 kids). I sort of need to get today over with so I can, in the nicest possible way, move on. I have sort of come to terms with things x

@Snoopy28x I'm so sorry :( I've got everything crossed for you that everything will be okay

Sorry op - it's really rubbish..

Hope your OK

Hope you are ok OP

Thinking of you OP 💐

So sorry to read this, OP. How are you now? I know that having miscarriages is rubbish. So very sad.

Hey all, well had the scan, and an internal scan. They confirmed I had passed the baby.. which in 1 way was a slight relief that that part was over now. We both got emotional, I think hearing the words, even though your expecting it is really hard.

Now time to pick myself up and carry on I guess! Still feeling very tired today and cramping. It's all so emotionally and physically draining xx

Then I see my little ones smiley faces and I know that we will be fine x

So so sorry for you're loss, take care of yourself and each other xx