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Heavy bleed after sex 9 weeks pregnant

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Afellows · 23/02/2020 11:30

Hey so at 5 weeks pregnant I lost brown discharge for 4 days after sex, had a scan at 8 weeks and everything was fine saw the heartbeat. Had sex again at 9 weeks yesterday morning and lost a heck of a lot of blood. My bedding was soaked through 3 layers and it covered about 2 foot of the bed. That was about 9am yesterday. No clots, no cramps, and no further bleeding since whatsoever. I definitely dont feel I've miscarried as I can still feel the lump in my uterus which is the pregnancy but I'm wondering if anyone else experienced this? Always after any type of internal penetration. I'll go to the doctors if I get any mote bleeding but seeing as everything was fine just last week I feel like another scan to check everything wouldn't be an option. Seems to be the same cause every time but everything is okay. Just hope the placenta is okay as I heard it can detach from the uterus a little during orgasm

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Avearage · 23/02/2020 11:33

That must be scary op, I'd go and get checked out could you get s private scan?

I bleed every times after sex now 10 weeks.... When I told my midwife she basically dismissed it and said we'll you know what to fo then don't do it..... Very unhelpful!!

Prettylittlelady · 23/02/2020 11:50

That sounds like a lot of blood OP, I would go and get checked out to see if there is an underlying cause of the bleeding.

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Afellows · 23/02/2020 12:11

Oh wow that's not helpful is it that's terrible. Thanks for letting me know you also bleed after sex that's a comfort. I'm definitely putting myself on pelvic rest for a couple of months. I have my 12 week scan around 12th march so feel like I should wait til then maybe. Have midwife on tuesday so will ask her about it

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Avearage · 23/02/2020 12:14

We have our scans the same day xx hoping all goes well for you update us xx

BeautyAndTheBump1 · 23/02/2020 15:00

It is normal to bleed after sex, it's one of the most common questions I see on here - however that sounds like an unusual amount of blood so I would definitely call your midwife and go in to get checked.

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Afellows · 26/02/2020 16:47

Been brown spotting for 5 days now whenever I wipe. But no red. Really as relaxed as I could be right now just because of the brown discharge I lost at 6 weeks when everything was still okay. Waiting for my 12 week scan appointment and just praying. Didn't get round to explaining to midwife as she was in a rush to go to the clinic. Tummy feeling a little crampy today hope everything is okay. Really don't want to go to the emergency room as I know they can't help a miscarriage and would rather know the news myself than from a doctor again

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Bearbunch · 26/02/2020 16:54

Can you go to your early pregnancy unit? I had some bleeding and contacted the Epu and they got me in for a scan the next day.

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Afellows · 26/02/2020 19:44

I had a scan 2 weeks ago and have another one in 2 weeks so I'm just thinking of waiting. They can't do anything to prevent a miscarriage anyway so I don't really want to go in if I'm honest. If I lose red blood for several days with clots then I know it's a miscarriage, I've miscarried at 10 weeks before with a sac no bigger than my thumbnail and that loss and clot was massive so this one with a fully grown baby at 8 weeks wouldn't be missed and I havent lost that for sure. I feel like there may be a rupture on the placenta and that will show up on my 12 week scan but can heal itself. I'm just relaxing through it rather than panicking like I usually do lol. I was sick for the 1st time in 2 weeks today too so that's a good sign everything is okay

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Bearbunch · 26/02/2020 20:43

I really admire you for staying relaxed and having such a level outlook. Big hugs I hope that everything will be okay Flowers

HouseOfCrayCray · 26/02/2020 20:46

I had this too, exactly as you've described after sex with loads of blood! Freaked out, got checked & I had a cervical erosion. It went away on it's own after a while.

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Afellows · 27/02/2020 00:12

Thank you bearbunch. Being so relaxed has shocked me to be honest I'm usually the worst for worrying, I think it's from seeing that heartbeat at 8 weeks despite previous bleeding. Hopefully little one is as stubborn as their momma and fighting through

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Afellows · 27/02/2020 00:16

Houseofcraycray That's what I've been suspecting either cervix or placenta. From my ultrasound at 8 weeks I swear I see a dark pool of blood moon shaped around baby's sac but they didn't mention it so I might be looking at the wrong thing. Just praying for another 2 weeks. Good news is my lovely chronic loose pooping is back today just as I've had it this whole pregnancy lol not so good for me but good for peace of mind lol it's always that or constipation I swear lol

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Slytherincredible · 27/02/2020 10:11

Could it be a hematoma? I have a large hematoma and have lost quite a lot of blood. Had three scans in the last week and baby still has a heartbeat and I've been told it should shrink or reabsorb but I can't stop worrying. GP has signed me off work for two weeks and told me to rest. Wish I could stay as relaxed as you!

Heavy bleed after sex 9 weeks pregnant
MrsRose2018 · 27/02/2020 14:40

Hi @Afellows

Sorry to hear of your bleeding! It’s horrible when anything like this happens!

I don’t want to wade In and make you worry when you’re managing to remain calm, but I just wanted to say that my best friend had some brown discharge, light spotting and then a bleed. She went to the emergency gyne unit and did a vaginal scan, they saw a heartbeat at 8 weeks and then sadly she had a full miscarriage a week later!

I had a miscarriage last August and, whilst everyone is different, I think I would like to know if something was wrong and I when I had bleeding I didn’t want to wait until my 12 week scan in case it was a missed miscarriage!

I would suggest going and getting your HCGs measured or having a scan! My stepdads daughter turned up to her 12 week scan and as not ever really recovered from the baby not having a heartbeat!

Fingers crossed for you xx

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Afellows · 27/02/2020 18:57

This was my scan at 8 weeks of my little 'sea horse' lol, I'm looking at the dark shape on the left of the sac? Might be outside of the womb though. I also have endometriosis so suspected maybe that's caused bleeding somehow and an enlarged uterus from my 10lbs 2oz son lol. Just keeping fingers crossed, have had no bleeding not even brown today so that's also a good sign

Heavy bleed after sex 9 weeks pregnant
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Afellows · 27/02/2020 19:04

MrsRose2018 That's how my miscarriage started too. This time it was the opposite -a large red bleed after sex then brown afterwards. I am worried though and tempted to go for another scan especially as I haven't recieved a date for my 12 week scan yet. Deep down I'm scared and liking having control at home but I'm going to have to face the news if it's not good and if I dont miscarry naturally it could be dangerous. I feel like I can feel teenie tiny flutters of movement at times, but that could be anything

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MrsRose2018 · 27/02/2020 21:56

@Afellows I totally get that 💕 if you don’t have the scan or the bloods you can still live in hope (and sadly denial) that everything is ok! I was totally the same sitting next to my husband just looking at my underwear trying to decide whether to go in! In the end we decided we just wanted to know one way or another get it it over with/get the grieving process started! Cos sadly One way or another/eventually you find out whether you have had a MC so may as well do it as early on and prepare/not start planning!

10w is very early for movement even with second child... but ultimately you know your body and your endometriosis/cervical erosion is a possible explanation! I just personally couldn’t NOT know and would drive myself insane!

All my love and hopes for you!! Xx

denbyellie · 28/02/2020 02:04

Sometimes it can just be to do with the cervix, it's normal to spot after sex , but maybe just go for a private scan or to your EPU as a bigger bleed could be worrying x

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Afellows · 28/02/2020 16:00

@MrsRose2018 Thank you for the support. I think that because it's been a week since the bleed after sex and no red blood since I'm calm but still protecting my heart at the same time. It is super early for movement but I can even feel implantation I'm super conscious of everything with my body (blessing and a curse lol). Will keep the thread updated for any other mommas searching

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Afellows · 08/03/2020 18:09

I'm now 11 weeks and having a bleed almost like a normal period. Have asked my midwife for advice. Lots of cramps and feeling negative all of a sudden Sad

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thosethreewords · 08/03/2020 19:36

Have you contacted EPU?

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Afellows · 10/03/2020 14:02

Just an update - I had a scan on 17th but they've moved it forward to tomorrow. After my 9 week bleed after sex it stopped but had another bleed 2 days ago. Always lasts 1 day then brown for the day following. Hoping everything is okay. Morning sickness has faded this week but that's common at 11-12 weeks. Trying not to worry. Will update after scan tomorrow

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Saoirse22 · 10/03/2020 15:01

Best of luck OP, fingers crossed everything is going to be okay!

I had a horrific bleeding the night before my 12 week scan. Lots of fresh red blood like a massive period, no clots. I was shit scared, I don't know how did I survive the night, I kept sobbing and shaking. We had sex a few hours earlier.

The scan showed a huge hematoma, but both midwife and doctor said it's common and should resolve on its own. I was told to rest and not to have sex as contractions from orgasm can trigger the bleeding. For some women orgasm isn't needed, they'd bleed just from penetration. I kept bleeding on and off for 3 weeks and needed an emergency scan and then a checkup at 15 weeks. That scan showed perfectly normal placenta and a totally unconcerned baby!

KittyKat2020 · 10/03/2020 15:35

I'm now 16+6 and have had bleeding after sex especially if the sex is a bit more vigorous than usual. I have endometriosis too.
I put myself on pelvic rest from 10 weeks up until the 12 week scan due to the bleed I had after sex at 10 weeks but the 12 week scan was fine so I just put it down to an irritated cervix now and no longer really worry about it, easier said than done I know!
But the blood you have had does sound rather a lot OP so perhaps get it checked.

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Afellows · 10/03/2020 20:26

I've just wiped and saw a heck of a lot of brown blood all at once, in a couple of clumps Confused I haven't lost any type of clots til now. It was just after I had a bit of old c section scar pain? Can I post a pic? Not feeling too positive anymore Sad

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