Friend has chosen the same baby name

[Imaybecontagious]

Hello everyone
Friend and I are both due summer (her about 6 weeks after me).
We were discussing names via WhatsApp and I said this particular name in my list and said I was leaning towards it. She said she liked the name. Fast forward a few weeks and we’re out for dinner with mutual friends as a group and she refers to her baby as this name.
I didn’t say anything at the time but it’s since come up in WhatsApp, she’s aware that I was going for the name as she was putting funny emojis with it. I said oi you know I had that name and she says she chose it first. I’ve scrolled back on my WhatsApp and I did mention it first.
Would I be wrong to just name my baby the name seeing as mines going to be born first?

What difference does it make to you what your friend calls her baby? Can't you both use the same name? I don't get the issue.

Call your baby whatever name you like

You don't own the name. There's literally no issue if your friends and you uses the same name.

🙄 name your baby whatever you want - this sounds like a waste of time to get into an argument with her about!! A bit annoying that she’s copying/stealing your name - but nothing you can do now!
People can name their child whatever they want and most names won’t be unique anyway - you’ll meet loads of other children with the same name in the future too!

Take the name if your baby comes first then it’s up to her if she wants to copy you :)

Your baby your choice.

Is it a well used name, or one you've made up?

Just use it anyway. Unless it's a really bizarre name nobody else will even blink.

I can see why your annoyed. I would be. She knows what she's done. Just name your child what er you like and if anyone accuses you of stealing the name from her, show them the conversation.
But petty but you'll come out on top

If it’s Bathsheba then you have a point, but if you both like Amelia/Charlotte/Harper then it’s fine to both use it!

Just use the name. She’s six weeks behind you so you’ll get in there first and she’ll look like she’s copying you.

She'll probably announce it on Facebook just before you're due.

No good ever comes from discussing baby names in advance with anyone other than your partner! If it’s a relatively normal name how do you know it wasn’t on her shortlist before you mentioned it?! Unless you’ve made it up then your baby will share the name with many lots of other children anyway and because you’re due first if anything it look like she’s copied you. Name your baby whatever you like, let her do the same and if you do make the same choice then compliment each other on your excellent taste!

Use the name OP especially since you're due first.
I would also keep a screenshot with date of you mentioning it first in case she gets shitty about it and bat her away dismissively "Oh DF you know I told you about this name ages ago but I don't mind you using it too if you like it so much".

And in the future don't discuss baby names with anyone until LO is here - so many threads on mumsnet about friends/SILS/sisters/insert close person here (especially if they're due before OP) announcing their chosen name as the one OP told them they were set on.

It doesn’t matter.
If you don’t stay in touch it’s irrelevant and if you do your daughters will enjoy having the same name.
Forget about it and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy.

Neither of you own the name. Just both use it.

I don't see the big deal. Just use the name you like. You might not even be friends forever!

Call your baby whatever you like. A mistake IMO to discuss potential baby names with anyone other than your partner!

The parents of whichever baby is born first can’t “bagsie” the name: they can use it, as can anyone else who wants to!

Moral of the story: do not discuss baby names with anyone other than your partner and mumsnet!

Unless her baby is born very prematurely, yours will be born first, so call your baby whatever the hell you like.

Prepare for the inevitable which is that she will bitch to everyone that you "stole" "her" name, and the friendship will probably be over.

She sounds annoying though, so no great loss eh.

Just go with whatever name you love most.

I'd chosen a name when I was expecting my first baby and close to my due date my best friend rehomed a male cat which "came with the name " 🙃.
I was like WTF, but luckily I had a girl so it ended well 😂

Never tell anyone your baby name list!

In this case, I’d use ‘your’ name and keep a screenshot of your conversation so that she can’t accuse you of stealing ‘her’ name (because I bet she’s purposely told people ‘her’ name anticipating you might well use it and knowing your baby will come first).

We told everyone our ds was called Oleg.
Until he was born!!
Just use the name op..

In the long run it doesn’t matter. My friend had her baby a year and a half after me and chose the same first and middle name, at first I was a bit obviously never said anything but people just now say “baby name” & “big name” to differentiate the two! If you love the name, you love the name so just go for it!

Just use the name, no need for either of you to be pissed off. If it’s popular anyway no one will nat an eye, unless like op says it’s totally wacky.

Or tell us the name and we might help you come up with a better/cooler/more classic/more whatever vibe you’re going for name.

Its just a name. It was on your top favourite names. Noone owns them. Leave her to it. There are loads of beautiful names out there. Be different and choose something else.

I do get the frustration, however it's not worth falling out over. If you like the bake then name your child it! Friends come and go but babies and their names are forever...