Return to work conversations that upset me

[mvilma6]

Hi,
currently 26 weeks pregnant with much loved babe. I work as a manager and every time people ask me about my maternity leave and tell them I'm planning to return after 7 months they answer....nooooooo you wont come back or noooooo only 7 months?

They make me feel awful. I like my job (high stressful sometimes) but also we will need my salary.

have you had those comments? how old were your little ones when they went to nursery and you to back to work?

thanks

I go back to work when DC is 4.5 months old. I've also done 2 KIT weeks. One when DC was 14 weeks and one at 20 weeks.

I had all the same comments too...and still get them now when I've been back in the office.

It annoyed me at first but now I view it that I'm doing what's best for my family...and frankly screw anyone else's opinions. This is right for us as a family and I'll not be made to feel like a bad mother by anyone.

Chin up. You'll do brilliantly whenever you decide to go back. If we lived in the US no one would bat an eyelid

30 weeks here and also facing the same conversations!! Working upto 40 weeks and taking 6 months off, back 3 day’s a week until Christmas using holidays then back full time. It’s 2020- nobody should have any other expectations for you other than what you think is best :-)

Just tell them they are upsetting you.

It might make them think twice about asking personal questions again in the future.

I took over a year, dsis took six months.
Honestly if I had had more dc I would have taken six months next time.
You need to do what is right for you.
But everyone judges Mums.

I'm going back to work in 2 weeks and my baby will be 6.5 months. I dont have a choice and would like a few more months but I'm sure he will be fine in nursery (only for 2 days).

My first I took 9 months off work but this time round I'm only take 6 months (which my work will my pay my full salary for that period), and splitting parental leave with my OH after. He will take the next 3 months. This is because we need my salary to stay afloat and pay our mortgage, bills etc, otherwise we will really struggle with my OH salary and SMP.

Being a SAHM isn't for everyone and for me 9 months was the most I could stay home. I love working, and I love how fascinated my son (5yo) is about mine and OH's work.

I'm 17 weeks and I've learned that EVERYONE has an opinion when you're pregnant. It's bloody annoying and I'm sorry you're experiencing this.

I'm planning to take 7 months too. Also a manager. Just hired someone new and been promoted, so I want to get back to it so I can continue to make progress. Lots of friends have done similar and I think I'll be one of the bored at home types.

Thanks Pilot, exactly what you said is what I'm sick of hearing. you were lucky to have that choice. i explained on my original message we will need the money after 7 months and people make me feel bad already by saying it, to get another mum to remind me its not what i needed.

glad you could afford all those years at home to stay with your babies. i don't think i could even if i had the money