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Twins obsession

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Tabby206 · 17/01/2020 15:04

I'm a first time mom and 13 weeks pregnant. I always wanted twins in my life. I've had 2 scans so far and they found one baby. The baby is healthy and I'm more than grateful for having this baby but my mind is still stuck with twin obsession. Although, I have accepted that I will be having a healthy singleton and I'm happy with it but deep down inside, I still hope that the sonographer has missed a twin. What if second fetus is smaller than the other and hiding behind? I've been told by many that it is a singleton pregnancy and I should stop hoping for twins but I believe in miracles. I dont know how to stop rooting for twins. Anyone here with twins obsession?

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ChewChewIsMySpiritAnimal · 17/01/2020 15:09

Bloody hell you want to be careful what you wish for. Yes twins have their upside but they are more than twice the work of one baby. I don't think you really know what having two babies at once entails!

PurpleDaisies · 17/01/2020 15:09

You are being ridiculous. You are pregnant with a healthy baby. You need to focus on that.

december20100 · 17/01/2020 15:10

ChewChewIsMySpiritAnimal is right twins are more than double the workload.

Count your blessing as they are.

ChewChewIsMySpiritAnimal · 17/01/2020 15:27

Just read that this is your first. No, you definitely have no idea of the realities of twins. Maybe grow up a bit before your baby comes.

Wishing56 · 17/01/2020 15:48

I remember your post from the other day asking about the likelihood that they have missed one etc.

Trust me my twin pregnancy has been the hardest time I have ever had both physically and mentally. Whilst my twins have grown well, a twin pregnancy comes with so many worries about TTTS and higher risk of early labour where they have to spend time in NICU.
I think I got to 'enjoy' about 3 weeks without pain, sickness etc. I literally feel broken and cannot wait for the pregnancy to be over - even once pregnancy is over I have to learn how to look after two babies and that will be no walk in the park!

Just try and enjoy the pregnancy you have as a singleton pregnancy should be a lot more enjoyable for you and you will be able to cherish the enjoyable moments so much more.

Murph90 · 17/01/2020 15:53

What a ridiculous thread.

Beau2020 · 17/01/2020 15:59

OP I have this. They misdiagnosed me with twins at my 8 week scan and ever since then I've been praying it was all a dream. I even had a dream last night that they told me they made a mistake again and it's twins.

I had mentally prepared for twins after they measured 2 babies and told me they were 2 heartbeats so I really feel the twin obsession

McHelenz · 17/01/2020 17:18

This is like the 3rd thread...

ChewChewIsMySpiritAnimal · 17/01/2020 22:18

Misdiagnosed? Twins aren't an illness.

Mollie15x · 17/01/2020 22:31

This thread upsets me by people's replies.. corse this women is haooy being pregnant what's wrong in saying she wants twins? 🙄 no need for the criticism ladies xx

Beau2020 · 17/01/2020 22:33

@ChewChewIsMySpiritAnimal I was told I was having twins and they admitted to a mistake. I didn't say it was an illness, so please can you think about what you say or how you word it as I've been through a shit time and don't need you pointing out the obvious thank you.

Beau2020 · 17/01/2020 22:35

@Mollie15x honestly the negativity on these threads is just horrible. Why people feel the need to be nasty to others is beyond me. If you don't like something then just move on, people really feel the need to belittle others or put people down for no reason. Keyboard warriors.... as you know for a fact they wouldn't be saying it to their friends or families

GreenTulips · 17/01/2020 22:39

Why do you want twins? Because they are cute? Because they attract a lot of attention? Because you can dress them the same?

Can you explain?

Mollie15x · 17/01/2020 22:41

@Beau2020 honestly can't believe what I'm reading it's hurtful! I don't understand we're all meant to stick together and be there for eachother when we feel we have no one else annoys me! I also wouldn't mind twins haha! Xx

namechangenewness · 17/01/2020 23:12

I think it would help to address the reasons why you want twins do desperately. I suppose it's normal to a certain extent to wonder if there's more than one before a scan but then I think most people think no more about it.

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Tabby206 · 17/01/2020 23:56

@Mollie15x and @Beau2020
I was extremely disappointed to read people's comments. Like you said we are supposed to be there for each other and tbh I dont talk much about it with anyone including my husband because I dont want anyone to think I'm crazy but here, the response is very blunt.

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LH1987 · 18/01/2020 00:12

It must be a bit similar to disappointment over gender, totally illogical but so many feelings and emotions are, particularly when pregnant. I think you should focus on the positive of one healthy baby and remember you can always expand your family later. Also, ignore the people who are comfortable being mean hidden behind their screens.

Mollie15x · 18/01/2020 01:09

I don't feel as though @Tabby206 should explain to why she wants twins or not? Why does the reason matter? These replies are the most ridiculous things Iv read.. it's like when people have a set gender a boy or a girl? Whys twins any different? I'm sure it goes through ALL our minds after finding out we're pregnant! Tabby206 you can talk about anything you like and the right people will listen and understand! Unfortunately youv had a right sort of people and I apologise on their behave! Anyway... when are you due? ☺️☺️xx

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Tabby206 · 18/01/2020 03:02

@LH1987 thanks for the kind words. Yes you're right. This is like gender disappointment but I know the feeling is temporary because each time I saw my baby on ultrasound, it gave me so much joy! So I can totally imagine how I'd feel when I hold the baby in my arms. I know it wouldn't matter to me at all once the baby is out.

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Tabby206 · 18/01/2020 03:07

@Mollie15x you don't have to apologise for anyone else's behaviour. It has been a wish to have twins in my first pregnancy because as hard as it is,its much manageable when you dont have other kids to look after. But if I'm not destined to have twins then it's alright. At least I can have children.
I'm due in July

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McHelenz · 18/01/2020 07:06

I think the thing is that this is the 3rd thread basically repeating the same thing, it looks a bit troll like or you're actually getting a bit unwell with this obsession.

McHelenz · 18/01/2020 07:08

@Beau2020 and I would be saying this to my friends or family because I'd be worried about them...

Bezalelle · 18/01/2020 07:10

OP, I think people are just a bit concerned because you've posted about this several times. It might be wiser to step away from MN and seek some professional help in real life. Good luck.

RhubarbBikini · 18/01/2020 07:16

As much as I love my (now teenage) twin daughters dearly, I think they would have has a better start in life if they had both been born a year or two apart as singletons.

hattyhatshats · 18/01/2020 09:38

A twin pregnancy puts the babies at much greater risk than a singleton and you don't get as much time to focus on each baby's needs when they are new born.

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