Miscarriage advice

[Amichelle84]

I just turned 9w today but think I am having a miscarriage. The hospital sent me home and I have to go to the EPU tomorrow for a scan. Does anyone have any advice or can tell me what to expect from this.

Sorry to hear this, what are your symptoms?

Well I found bright red blood in my knickers and I have period pain type pain. I havent had a pad on so its hard to judge how much. I just saw it and dashed to AnE.

Obviously you won't know for sure until a scan unless you pass an intact feotus as I did. Do not be afraid to call mw or hospital for advice. If you feel there is a lot of blood go in. Don't sit panicking alone.
The unknown is scarey op.

Sorry you went through that. I'll try and be hopeful x

Our EPU is lovely and the staff are incredible. Obviously I can't comment on how yours is set up. I was given an appointment to come in. Booked in at a reception desk and asked to wait in the waiting room. I saw a nurse separately in a side room, who asked some basic questions and explained what would happen next. I had an internal scan and was told there was no evidence of the pregnancy by the sonographer. I saw the nurse again, who gave me contact details for their member of staff who can do counselling. The staff were lovely, personable and professional. I went alone but I imagine most people would want someone with them.

Thank you for sharing, sorry that happened to you. x

Does the bleeding generally get heavier or can it go in waves of heaviness and lightness?

I think it's different for everyone. Plus lots of people have bleeding throughout healthy pregnancies, which can be spotting or at times quite heavy. Make sure you're using pads not tampons.
Tonight will be horrible because your head will be flip-flopping all over the place. Hope you have someone with you OP.

Yeah, have the super duper long winged pads :) My boyfriend is with me. Weve been trying for 3 years, were both so gutted

I'm so sorry. Three years is a long fucking time when you're TTC.

I have just had my 2nd loss. The first one I started bleeding at 6 weeks and scan found a foetus and heartbeat. I continued to bleed heavily and passed clots. I didbt have much pain. Scan 2 weeks later showed there was nothing there. By this time the bleeding had stopped.

Most recent one was last week. Started bleeding on Wednesday and went to EPU. Got an appt for the next day for a scan and scan showed nothing in my womb at all no sign of a pregnancy at all even though I tested positive on the urine test. They found something in one of my tubes but as my blood tests showed Hcg dropping it was deemed a self resolving ectopic. I had a lot more pain this time, mostly on the Wednesday evening but the bleeding was not as heavy and I didn't pass any clots etc.

The EPU staff were lovely. One thing that was quite jarring the first time was that I felt they should DO something when, sadly their is nothing to be done to stop it once a miscarriage begins.

I wish you luck for your appointment xxx

Hi Amichelle84, we tried for 4 years and finally after IVF it happened (for now)

when i was 6 weeks i had a huge bleed at nigh and went to A&E. they only confirmed the bleed and sent me to EPU following day. i was 100% sure we lost him but on the scan they saw the tinny sac and no reason for bleed. i went back 10 days later and little heart was there.

wont lie, it was probably the worst nigth of my life but it was good news at the end. hope is the same for you.

only wanted to tell you that hopefully is not a miscarraige!!

@Amichelle84 monitor the amount you are bleeding. Have you been told my hospital that it's likely you're miscarrying, did they scan you etc?

Red blood is not always 100% a miscarriage.

They didnt say anything to be honest, they took my blood pressure and the triage nurse said I can go home and come back tomorrow for the scan. I just went to the toilet and there isnt really any blood on the pad...

In my experience what happened to me:

I started bleeding bright red when i wiped on halloween but nothing in my pants. After a few wipes the blood seemed to stop. I went to a&e the next day to see about a scan (i was 11.5 weeks). They said i had a urine infection and that can cause bleeding and arranged a scan for monday. (This was friday.) Later that afternoon i had brown blood in my knickers then it slowed down again. The next day i started bleeding again like a period and by sunday I hemmoridged and passed the entire contents of my uterus down the toilet.

But everyone is different. We cannot say you have had a miscarriage or are experiemcing one now until your scan. Understandably its a worrying time and i think the NHS are doing a disservice to women for making them wait days jn such extreme circumstances of not knowing. Fingers crossed for you op that everythings ok.

I agree, my GP said I was lucky it's not a friday otherwise id have to wait until monday for a scan. Awful to leave women anxious like that all weekend.

How are you feeling in yourself?

Aside from be worried I feel ok, just tired and a bit crampy

Bless you. My advice is just keep occupied as much as possible, try eat something and have an early night. What times your appointment?

Thanks. I just had a really nice bath. It's a walk in clinic so am aiming to get first in line at 8am

Good luck hope its good news for you. Thats lucky your place has that. Mine was strictly appointment only which was awful hence my 4 day wait.

That's too long, absolutely awful! Thank for your messages everyone, they've really helped x

@Amichelle84 I really hope it's not bad news tomorrow. Get plenty of rest tonight and try to find some distractions x

Sorry you're going through this OP.
For me it was light bleeding and no pain on the Wednesday night, we had just had sex so thought could have been just irritated and there was nothing on the thursday.
Heavy bleeding and lower back pain on the friday, went to out of hours gp, who done urine test and advised all looks ok just to keep an eye on it. Saturday night was the same bust more painful, again out of hours gp, this time was referred to gynae emergency as was possible ectopic. They took bloods, examined me and said all fine. Then on the sunday evening I had a large
"something" come out (TMI I know!) Followed by alot of tears, I was distraught. Called 111 who sent me to a&e, all they done was arrange an appointment for me at EPU on the monday. They done an internal scan and told me there was nothing there and I'd likely have some more bleeding but my symptoms for the previous week indicated that it was almost complete. I went back the following week for more bloods to check hcg gone right down and another pregnancy test to ensure was negative.

Bit long winded I know.
Like others have said it can take some time to get there with the nhs unfortunately. I think it may have been easier for me had I been at epu on the wed/thurs. But they couldnt have stopped it either way.

Hope it's good news for you OP!! Xx

Appreciate you sharing your experience, sorry you went through it.