Pregnancy announcement to husband on Christmas Day!

[Peanutty86]

Have you done this? Are you planning on doing this? Tell me your ideas! (It's baby #2, dc1 is 17 months old).

I would just tell him and keep it between you. I announced I was 5 weeks pregnant to my husband a few years ago on Christmas Day and I sadly mc a few days later. I really wish I had not done it on Christmas Day now as it's something I remember every year.

@MissBattleaxe half of Mumsnet also knows that Pamela has cheated on Dave. And that she's now pregnant with Owen's baby. And that Owen asks her to have an abortion and then people encourage Pamela with things like 'it's your choice'. And it is. And so is it my choice when to tell my husband and I don't need nor want any opinions on that. This is an anonymous platform, that the reason we are here, so we can share things without revealing our identity and ask for input on things, right? But isn't it THE MOST annoying thing if you ask whether people prefer the red or the green you can't decide on and they tell you 'I would really wear different shoes'. 🙄

Everybody, I'm leaving this now. It made me realised once more that people behind a screen are often no help and can make you anxious and bother you more than you think. People have reasons for doing things the way they do them and it's not on any of us to judge their whys! For gods sakes, stop pushing your 'this is what I would do in regards to the general thing' when the question was only about a detail.

@Peanutty86 but if you know that mumsnet is like this , why post? Just google ideas. No one has been rude to you from what I’ve seen, they’ve just made suggestions. It’s a public forum and people are free to give their views. If you don’t want to hear views, don’t post

@Strongmummy views on what I asked are great, that's why I asked.

In all fairness if a friend in real life asked my opinion on her not telling her husband that she was pregnant for nearly a month and then planning a big reveal I would tell her that I didn’t think it was a good idea (I know this is not your situation OP).

I don’t think you can beat those first few hours when you get that pregnancy result and only you and your partner know, and you have all those mixed feelings of joy, fear and what have we done! You don’t need to make it something commercial.

@ineedaholidaynow I'm not doing anything commercial. I'm surprising him. Like I did last time. It would feel odd to just say hey let's take a test together or blankly say 'we're pregnant'. This is for him and for our future children. I videoed his reaction last time and we love watching it back. So I wouldn't want the new baby/child to feel left out when they're old enough to watch it themselves. It's amazing memories. And at one point in life, memories are the only thing that's left. And why not have something that's nice?

or blankly say 'we're pregnant'.

Yes, because there's no possible middle ground between what you're planning and an emotionless delivery of news like a robot.

@ohwheniknow yeah. 😘

Yeh I also can't imagine not telling my husband immediately. I'd feel really weird keeping something so huge from him. DC1 I told him within seconds.. . DC2 I told him.after 5 mins (he was in the shower) and I felt really weird not telling him immediately. It is his babt too after all, as much as it is mine!

That said, this is my personal feeling and opinion. OP if you want to surprise but husband, and you're are positive he wouldn't mind not knowing immediately, then go for it. You know him - we don't! What works for some couple is completely different for others. I think a big brother vest is a cute idea. We're surprising the in-laws with a scan pic inside their Christmas card, with a photo of DC1 and a caption- 'I asked Santa for a little brother or sister!'

@surreygirl1987 that's a cute idea!!

@essexanon how did it go? Baby ok?

Congratulations op .

Every relationship is different tell your dh however you want. You know him better than strangers on the internet that have possibly never met him. Only suggestion I have for you is to use a digital pregnancy test as that will rule out is this a positive test? But the control line is a different shade...ect. Let him try to argue with the written word. Do another digital pregnancy test soon, because the battery sometimes goes after two days.

@Peanutty86 hello lovely. Scan went great thanks, the surprise for my OH did too, he was speechless and shed tears. Said it was the best Xmas present he’s ever received. I get a free rescan in 2 weeks too so hopefully baby will be a bit Clearer to see. To be honest, as long as there was a heart beat and baby was ok, I wasn’t too bothered about a great scan pic.
Have you decided on how your going to tell your partner the good news? Xx

@Notnowokay thank you!! I had a digital and used it, thought I'd ordered more but hadn't and now can't get one anymore. The lines on the FRER are so so strong, he'll know that it's a positive and he also knows that I wouldn't show him a test if it was negative. 🙂

@essexanon awwww that's so so cute!!! I'm so happy for you! Congratulations again!

@Peanutty86, sorry I was basing it on my dh reactions. He don't like lines pregnancy tests and always finds something to say about them. He can't argue with words and accuse them of being faulty. But that is my dh and your dh is different. Congratulations once more.

@essexanon, congratulations on your scan and I admire you patience and I know dh would have love it if I could have done something similar to you. Or wait even longer , I can't do that.

I hope the next two weeks goes as quick as possible for you. Hopefully, the festivities will keep you busy till your next scan.

How did the announcement go?!😀

How did it go @Peanutty86 ?.

How did you get on @Peanutty86?

I tried to announce mine to my DH....pretty much straight away but I still had a plan in place for when I got my BFP. I didn’t last the few minutes I needed to as I was so excited I thought I’d burst! I admire your patience and the love and excitement you have brought to this amazing time!

@BFPhopeful2019 ahhh thank you!

It went perfect, thank you. He is very excited and loved that I kept it a secret until Christmas Dayz

Nice one OP. Glad it went well

Awww such a lovely idea! So happy for you xx