Pregnancy announcement to husband on Christmas Day!

[Peanutty86]

Have you done this? Are you planning on doing this? Tell me your ideas! (It's baby #2, dc1 is 17 months old).

First and second pregnancies I told my partner straight away, but if I were to get pregnant again provided there was an occasion in the next week or so such as a birthday or public holiday i would wait to tell him. He loves the big announcement kind of things and I'm rubbish at secrets so if I tried to wait more than a couple of weeks I'd fail miserably.
Could you do something Christmas related? In peacocks they were selling reindeer decorations for the tree, you could get one each and write "mummy" "daddy" "dc1 name" and then in pencil draw a question mark on the fourth? That way you can rub out the pencil when you've named the baby and it's something than can be kept and reused bringing back the memories each year ?

@Dyrne personal preference really. It was so unexpected and to be honest, it took me probably a week at least myself to come to terms with it and accept it, and to accept that I will have this baby.
I don’t think he will be hurt, I’m generally quite OTT with gifts and surprises anyway so he will not be surprised I’ve done it this way.

I think everyone’s different, and what suits me and mine, wine necessarily suit you and yours. Xx

But essexanon you are not giving him that quiet time to accept it that you have had. You are making a big surprise of it with other people around, and then 3 days later announcing it to all the family. What happens if he needs some time will you delay telling everyone else?

It’s such a huge thing to keep secret from your partner.

@getyourgrooveback @ineedaholidaynow @HeddaGarbled

my period is always late or missing, so I don’t bother mentioning it anymore to him it’s just the norm with me.
If I made him be with me every time
I took a test because my period was late or missing, I think that would be more deflating for him.

I spent at least a week struggling to come to terms with it myself after getting my BFP, I literally wrote myself off and was thinking i couldn’t do this, it’s the wrong time, we’re not ready. I had to get passed this myself before I could reveal to anyone including OH. I know he may have the same feelings too, but now I’m passed it, I can support him in getting passed those feelings too.

As much as we are a partnership, we are also individual people too and I know he won’t be hurt by this, he knows I’m usually dramatic and OTT with gifts and surprises anyway.

Everyone’s got their own way I guess xxx

@ineedaholidaynow he is finding out today, he will be the first and only person that’s finding out today. I will tell him my plans for Xmas day and If he disagrees then I will delay the reveal to the family. No biggie xx

I’d have felt dishonest knowing and not telling my husband. He’s as much a parent as me so it felt as if he should be equally involved and aware. He stood outside the lavatory when I tested.

It’s not being a pearl clutcher it’s treating the DH as an equal person as a prospective parent.

My god there are a lot of kill joys on this thread!

It's a lovely idea OP.

If you don't manage to get a big bro top you could wrap the test in a big box

I also think people forget that scans are medical procedures

I don’t think anyone is being a kill joy just saying that it’s very early days in the pregnancy to be printing t shirts, baubles, etc!

Hahaha don't we just all love Mumsnet!

It can be a the most positive title that is supposed to be a nice and fun thing and then people feel the need to judge and basically tell me what an awful wife/mother I am for hiding this from my husband for a few days. I didn't ask if it was your cup but of tea to wait.
Honestly people.... anyone ever considered that my husband might not even be here right now? Possibly even in another country? And maybe telling someone over the phone or text when you see them in a couple of days is kind of.... impersonal?

Thanks to the ones who actually replied to the questions and came up with ideas.
And good luck to the ones announcing on Christmas Day.

@essexanon
It's obviously your decision but you've posted and people can comment and I think it's ridiculous to wait as long as you have and actually does feel wrong. This isn't a conception after a ONS, this is someone you are already in a committed relationship with. Plus, a big reveal might be something you'd do if you'd been trying to conceive but you're not sure how he's going to react about the pregnancy so maybe a low key discussion rather than huge announcement might be better. It's really shitty that you've had a month to get your head round it before you tell him!

@Peanutty86 if he's out of the country and you haven't seen him then why not just say that?
I think people are partly reacting because it is a bit twee but that's your choice. I guess for some including me, it's going in the box with elaborate US gender reveals and smash cakes and all that stuff.

@feelingsinister because it's no ones business why I decide to do things? This is the internet and I don't have to tell everyone Andy detail and aspect of my life.

He should be told as soon as you know.

Special bauble on the tree..like a metal one supermarkets have them and write him a note in it ?

@MissBattleaxe thank you. Your comment really helped with what I was asking for. 😘

@Lulu1919 ohhhhh good point! Thanks, I'll see if I can scribble something on 😊

@feelingsinister yes I have posted it on the internet and yes people are entitled to comment, but I am entitled to do as I please. And FYI I think he will be happy, was was going to start trying beginning of next year but we have clearly been blessed unexpectedly Slightly earlier. He’s actually more broody then me I reckon. So I think I know how he will react otherlse I wouldn’t be doing it this way. Thanks for your concern though hun. Merry Christmas xx

@Peanutty86 I hope it goes well for you on Xmas hun, such exciting times. My fave time of the year is Xmas so this is like a double celebration for me x

I haven't full read the thread so apologies if this is a duplicate suggestion.

I would either wrap a box in a box in a box kinda thing with a pregnancy test in a watch case in the very centre.

Or I would do a treasure hunt. With lots of hints along the way. Make out it's for daddy and toddler to do together. In the end have a "this time next year our treasure hunt will have one more participant" and have the test there

@HeddaGarbled are you married? How did your husband propose? Did he just say some day after talking about it that yes, you should get married? Or did he buy you a ring? If so, how dare he buy a ring and keep that a secret to surprise you with for a few days!!!! Because marriage is about two people and it should be dealt with equally and everybody should be informed about every bloody step at the exact same time!

I’m unsure why you’d do this. I assume it’s early days and you’ve just found out yourself? If so I’d tell him now keep it between yourselves.

I'm checking out of this thread now. I can cope with a lot but being called 'hun' is really beyond the pale.

LisaSimpsonsbff I agree but people never think it will happen to them

I would keep Christmas as a separate nice day, OP. Congratulations on your lovely news!

Sorry, I meant he should have been told when you knew yourself. Half of Mumsnet knows before he does.