Announcing at 10 weeks

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Hiya

I'm having two scans, one on Wednesday when I'm just over 8 weeks (if there's a heartbeat mc rates drop to 2%)

And one on the 23rd Dec when I'm 10 weeks (if there's a heartbeat mc rates drop to 0.6%)

If both of these scans go well, would announcing at 10 weeks be okay? Or am I still being naive and should wait til after the 12/13 week scan?

I know it sounds silly but I wanted to announce at Christmas, I think it's such a happy time and the perfect time to announce a pregnancy! And after my mc and TTC journey I'm just desperate to be happy and tell everyone my good news (if all goes well obviously)

Just asking for peoples views really ??

What do you mean by announce?

That isn't a goady question. I just think it depends on what you want to do. I never "announced" it as in had a mass telling of people on social media or did some instagrammy stunt with tshirts or cards or printing out scan pictures. But we did tell lots of people earlier than 12 weeks if it came up.

Parents and siblings we told as soon as we knew. Everyone else just whenever we saw them, so some people at 6 weeks, some at 25!

My first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage but it didn't change how we wanted to deal with telling people the next two times because we had told people we saw often enough that we would be telling them if it went wrong anyway. "Announcing" sounds more general than that but it might not be what you mean.

I think it all depends who you're announcing to... I would not hesitate announcing to close friends and family, but personally wouldn't want to go beyond those individuals. It really depends on how you might feel in the unlikely event of an MC. I tend to wait till around 20 weeks before making anything obvious on social media for example, but will tell people that I regularly see from 13-14 weeks onwards.

Good luck either way!

It’s entirely up to you. I announced to family last year when I had an 8 week scan the week before Christmas. My scan results were mixed, twins with strong heart beats but one was smaller than the other. I told family because I wanted their support.

Twin 2 heartbeat stop. Twin 1 is currently snoring in the sling after been grumpy all day.

And close friends knew that I was going for the early scan, again after previous MCs I wanted their support.

If you mean tell family, tell them now. I for some reason I'll never fathom didn't tell anyone other than DP I was pregnant until I became very unwell after a miscarriage at 10 weeks and I had to text my DM from hospital . Hopefully all will be well for you, and all you have are a few extra weeks of sharing joy. I learned the hard way that a miscarriage is a lonely place when no one knows.
If it's telling non family, I have no idea. Whenever your family know and you've been scanned???

My mum miscarried at 13 weeks. I wouldn't tell anyone until 20 weeks.

I know what you mean with it being Christmas.

With my first I had an 8 week scan because it was then Christmas and I needed to tell family why I wasn’t drinking (wouldn’t have told them that early otherwise.)

You are of course right about MC rates going down massively. I’ve had MCs, one MMC at 11-12 weeks buuuut it had ended way way before that so I wouldn’t have had a successful 8 week scan.

Personally I would tell with it being Christmas but under normal circumstances I’d prefer to wait until after nuchal scan etc. Actually I had NIPT at 10 weeks In 2nd successful pregnancy so the 12 week scan basically meant very little.

Everyone I know usually announces to people outside of their close circle at 12 weeks and that is what I'd be doing in January if all goes well!

It's just the question of whether doing it a couple of weeks earlier would make a difference, I know it's not out of the first trimester so there's still a risk but surely a 99.4% of the pregnancy continuing in reassuring?

I just don't know whether I'm being naive thinking 10 weeks is just as 'safe' as 12 weeks if there's a heartbeat if that makes sense

My close family + close friends already know. It's more announcing is to other friends and my fiancé's family etc as he's not majorly close to them so didn't want to tell them until the risk had gone down

There's always a risk though which is why some people don't tell anyone toll after the 20 week anomaly scan.

There are no rules about it, just whatever you feel comfortable with.

But yes, I would think that the risk of miscarriage having seen a heartbeat at 10 weeks is only a teensy bit higher than seeing the same at 12 weeks.

Yeah I defiantly see why people wait til 20 weeks but I just personally would tell everyone at 12 weeks so I think if there's barley a difference in the risk then I probably will tell the rest of my friends and family! I think people will guess when I'm not drinking for the Xmas period anyway!😂

What the reason for the ten week scan?

We plan to tell our family (parents and siblings only) at Christmas. We too will be 10 weeks and have a scan booked for the 23rd to check everything is ok. We had a MC last year, it did have a heartbeat so I know from experience that it does not mean everything will be OK. We are waiting until past 12 weeks to tell anyone else.

Tell people when you want to it changes nothing. I've had losses at 7 and 14 weeks and then kept the news to myself until 20 weeks with my current baby who's asleep on me and 7 months old :) unfortunately scans and telling people dont change the outcome x

@MyDcAreMarvel because I had a miscarriage in July and I'm find the waiting between scans a struggle since I have anxiety so I'm breaking up the wait by having two early scans

I had to tell everyone at 8 weeks because I was getting married and everyone wanted to buy me a drink! If I hadn't told them, they would all have been gossiping amongst themselves anyway...

Sorry for your loss op , the same thing happened to me - a July miscarriage. My ds is now a month old and I had scans at 8 and 10 weeks.

You can tell people and also just say : ' obviously it's still very, very early days '. Also consider how you'd feel about whoever you tell knowing about a possible miscarriage. Also, even if 12 weeks is the ' safe ' mark, or for some, 20 is the safe mark. There's never really a safe mark if you ask me. Yes the risks decrease. But anything can happen at any time - even once the babe is here. So you might as well get used to it and just tell people ? It's part of life to have to live with these uncertainties and it's certainly part of being a parent. These are all things I told myself when I was at the same stage as you and I am still telling myself those things now. I can't change the outcome, no matter who I tell when. Nothing is certain in this pregnancy / motherhood thing.

We told closest family from 6 weeks or so and then others as and when after the 10-11-12 Mark. It just depended when I saw people and what we were doing together. I never made a big announcement anywhere on social media and a lot of people still don't know I am pregnant.

If you want to tell them at 10 weeks then tell them. It's literally upto you... I don't want this to sound blunt or harsh because I don't mean it to be this way but you was going to have a mc then it doesn't matter if you have told them at 6/10 or even 20 weeks nothing will stop it from happening.
We have always told close family before 12 weeks around 9 weeks ish. I've had 2 healthy pregnancies 1 mmc and having my 3rd baby now 33 weeks.. and then everyone else after 12 week mark it's personal preference I suppose just do what's best for you and your partner.

That was suppose to say if you was going to have a mc

We told family immediately the day we found out when I was 2-3 weeks pregnant as we wanted them involved no matter what. Do what makes you happy, here's no rule book!

I think it's completely up to you. I told my parents and grandparents at 6 weeks then had a miscarriage at 7 weeks but I'm still glad I told them as it meant they could support me through it.

I'm 7+5 and told my close family on Saturday. I plan on telling everyone else after 12 weeks as I honestly don't think I'll be able to hide it as I have so many events coming up that involve drinking. I'm usually the first there for drinks so will be too suspicious!

Thankyou all! I probably will just tell everyone at the 10 week scan (if everything turns out okay) as it'll just be easier, especially since there's virtually no difference in the risk at 10 weeks compared to 12!

We told people at 11 weeks after our NIPT results came back low risk.

Some people like to wait until 12 week scan because you have Down’s screening at this stage and they like to get the results if that first. It’s really whatever you feel comfortable with though.