Announcing at 10 weeks

[chloxox08]

Hiya

I'm having two scans, one on Wednesday when I'm just over 8 weeks (if there's a heartbeat mc rates drop to 2%)

And one on the 23rd Dec when I'm 10 weeks (if there's a heartbeat mc rates drop to 0.6%)

If both of these scans go well, would announcing at 10 weeks be okay? Or am I still being naive and should wait til after the 12/13 week scan?

I know it sounds silly but I wanted to announce at Christmas, I think it's such a happy time and the perfect time to announce a pregnancy! And after my mc and TTC journey I'm just desperate to be happy and tell everyone my good news (if all goes well obviously)

Just asking for peoples views really ??

Congratulations on your pregnancy OP - I hope it all goes smoothly.

There is no shame in miscarriage, or any type of pregnancy loss, despite what is implied by the IMO toxic 'rule' telling women to keep quiet for the first 12 weeks, in case something should go wrong. Who really benefits from this silence? When I miscarried, I desperately wanted people to know, because it felt so enormous to me, and I wanted support.

So basically I think let's all try and talk more openly. Pregnancy is an anxious enough time without feeling like you have to hide it.

I told my mum when I was 4 weeks pregnant, very close friends soon after, people who would support me if there was an anomaly or I miscarried. I wouldn't make a wider announcement until 12+ weeks, 20 weeks for social media

I'm not too sure about your statistics, I thought at 12 weeks it was 1%?

Anyway we announced at 10 weeks because it was xmas and we thought it would be nice. We'd had 2 early scans.

Ds is 16 months now

I got the statistics from here. But even so I think if there's a heartbeat at 10 weeks then the risk % is pretty much the same as at 12 weeks

Obviously there are lots of different statistics, the ones I read might be wrong too - we just each read different things

I agree, that's why we told at ten weeks.

I had a mmc at 10+1 and found out at 12 weeks, didn’t announce this time until 12 week scan despite seeing baby at 7, 9, and 11 weeks! Was a very scary time as I bled constantly at that time with both pregnancies.

We told close family at 11 weeks after getting a private scan as we were travelling down to visit.

No one else (other than a close friend/work) was told until after the anomaly scan, as there could have been a medical reason to terminate and I didn't want to explain to lots of people if that did happen.

@chloxox08 It's not so much about the miscarriage rates from 10 to 12 weeks, it's more about getting the all clear at the 12 week scan (down syndrome etc) for me it is anyway. Hence why we're not telling anyone until then

where did you get your statistics from out of interest? A lot of the things I've read e.g. this article put the risks quite a bit higher. Hopefully a moot point for you though

sorry just realised you've posted your source above

We told family right away and about a week later for everyone else. I have never really got the waiting. I know people who have miscarried anywhere from 8 weeks all the way up to birth. So should we all just wait before telling people until we have a healthy baby in our arms?

Tell people when you want to it changes nothing. I've had losses at 7 and 14 weeks and then kept the news to myself until 20 weeks with my current baby who's asleep on me and 7 months old :) unfortunately scans and telling people dont change the outcome x
It's not a superstitious thing, it's about having to deal with people if you do miscarry.