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...convinced i was carrying a girl just found out its another boy anyone else......

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mum2sam · 22/08/2007 21:42

go through the same thing and feel a bit disappointed. I feel so guilty for feeling this way. I just really had my hopes on having a girl like most of us do i guess. Its just had to get my head around having two boys plus dh my god how scarey is that.....

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weebleswobble · 22/08/2007 21:47

I convinced myself I was having a dark haired girl first time round. Out came a blond boy and I was shocked. Second time I knew I was having another boy and wouldn't have had it any other way

To be honest, sometimes I think it would be lovely to have a girl even though shop's shut and no more babies are coming out of me, but then I read the threads about the hormonal 5 year olds and realise that I have it good

McEdam · 22/08/2007 21:48

Yup, I was in shock when I discovered I was having a boy. Took me ages to get my head round it. But I did and I bet you will too. Congratulations, btw.

Nat1H · 22/08/2007 21:54

I desperately wanted a girl second time around. That was why I asked at the 19 week scan. Was told in no uncertain terms it was definately a boy. I was sooooo disappointed, as I had managed to convince myself I was carrying a girl! Took me ages to come to terms with it, but I would not be without him now!! 2 boys are great - can't imagine having one of each!! Congratulations btw.

pepperpots · 22/08/2007 21:55

I have 2 boys and i would not swap them for the world - even though i would have bet my life i was having a girl... get over the initial shock and then just think how much money you can save on blue things

Peachy · 22/08/2007 21:58

I have 3 boys (including a Sam, great name taste ) and I'm pg again, although don't know the gender yet- bet I can guess though LOL

Don't worry aboput feeling abd now, itt can be a shock to have your beliefs of any kind challnged,. you've plenty of time to adjust, and you will.

Bubble99 · 22/08/2007 22:06

Congratulations.

What you're feeling is normal.

It'll be lovely for DS to have a brother. I've got four boys and they have this amazing bond that I'm sure is mainly due to them all being the same gender.

Also, all boys are mummy's boys. They may go through a 'daddy' thing at some stages, but they soon see sense.

berolina · 22/08/2007 22:10

I have ds, ds2 is due soon and I'm delighted. Not that I don't/wouldn't want a girl, but ds is such an utter delight that I'm over the moon at the prospect of another one. And somehow I feel in my 'comfort zone' with another boy (which is rubbish, I know, as he'll be an individual first and foremost and may yet very much surprise me).

Congratulations on your boy.

BirdyArms · 22/08/2007 22:33

I cried and cried the evening that I that ds2 was going to be a boy (evening because we'd been told at 14 week scan that he had dilated renal pelvis and by searching the internet found that over 90% of cases are boys). By the next day I felt much better about it and now absolutely wouldn't swap ds2 for any girl. He is such a happy bright engaging 6 month old, I think he's just wonderful. Focus on the positives, they can share toys, they'll want to do the same things and they will likely grow up to be much closer than siblings of different sexes.

MamaG · 22/08/2007 23:22

Peachy!

kitsandbits · 22/08/2007 23:23

I had a son and swore my 2nd pregnancy was a girl, but it was another boy (was over joyed!)

Clary · 22/08/2007 23:55

Two boys will be lovely mum2sam.
Have never understood why a boy and a girl is so "desirable" - they will probably play with each other less and be less close in later life, also practically speaking same sex is much better (hand ons of clothes, toys etc)!

(Of course one of each is lovely too to anyone who has that!)

zaphod · 23/08/2007 00:52

This is why I suggest not finding out the sex before the birth. My last baby, I was convinced was a girl, I had 3 boys and 1 girl already. Purely by chance, we caught a good look at his genitals on the ultrasound and knew he was a boy. And I WAS disappointed, it was kind of a let down. But we've had him for 4 years now and wouldn't swap him....Congratulations. Pity me and dd with 4 boys and dh to put up with...all that bloody football on TV. BTW I have a Sam too.

hotchocscot · 23/08/2007 01:02

mum2sam "like most of us do" - not me!! have 15 month old ds and if i was to have another one (unlikely but if blessed), i would def want another boy!!! just can't imagine having a girl. even have boy names ready just in case... ah, the Fates have awoken and are preparing to send the Female Fairy to my ovaries as I type...

MKG · 23/08/2007 01:43

I felt the same when I found out about ds2. I just tell my dh that I need a special room in the house that is pink and all mine, and a one week vacation from all the penises in the house.

Congratulations!! two boys are so wonderful. I would still love a girl, but my boys have really filled my heart with all the love I'll ever need.

Just think, you will be the woman that they will compare all others to.

Ants · 23/08/2007 07:24

I was so desperate for a little girl the first time around, that I convinced myself that I was having a girl. When we found out at 20 weeks that in fact it was a little boy, I was quite disappointed. I felt absolutely ashamed of myself for feeling like this, when many women would be overjoyed to know that they are carrying a healthy baby. But I got used to the thought in a few weeks and I wouldn't have had it any other way by the time DS was born. But I do think it was a good job we found out about the sex at that time, so I had plenty of time to get used to the idea.
I'm expecting again, but not telling anyone what I'm secretly wishing for as my maternal intuition doesn't seem to work very well when it comes to these things .

karma · 23/08/2007 08:51

Hi mum2sam, just wanted to agree with what others have said. I have 2 ds and they are a joy. They are so close and great fun to be around. What you're feeling is normal, and once the baby arrives you won't be able to imagine anything other than those two gorgeous boys. Incidently I'm pregnant again
and would love a girl this time but what will be will be. Another boy would be fine.

Isababel · 23/08/2007 09:00

Failing to be able to add yet another sensible post to this full of wisdom thread...

Some women don't want another boy, some women don't want another girl, should we organise a swap shop?

Isababel · 23/08/2007 09:01

BTW I always wanted to have 2 boys, there is something in the dinamic of the relationship of families with 2 boys that I just love

Gobbledigook · 23/08/2007 09:05

Everyone was convinced my third would be a girl because I was much smaller than with the first two (boys). When ds3 was born I was nothing but overjoyed. I had a day of thinking about not going girlie shopping with a daughter and that was it.

A boy gang is fab, if not a little noisy!!

flamingtoaster · 23/08/2007 09:09

I was quite worried when I was first pregnant because I was sure I was having a boy and even as a teenager I would only babysit for girl babies as I really didn't "connect" with boy babies for some reason! The minute I saw DS I was besotted with him and I can laugh now about how worried I felt. My second baby was a girl - but I can honestly say I would have loved a second boy just as much.

RedFraggle · 23/08/2007 11:04

I actually cried when I found out I was having a boy. I was so sure it was another girl and I had my heart set on it. I've never been around boys much and just didn't want one... Sounds awful, but i was very disappointed. However, I had my little boy almost 3 months ago and I love him to bits, he is adorable and I wouldn't be without him.

Congratulations mum2sam!

mixedmama · 23/08/2007 13:05

when i was younger I had always thought that i would have a little girl. however when i was pregnant i just knew i was having a boy, altho wouldnt have minded either way.

this time, we are going to ask at the scan. i am convinced this time that it is another DS and that is fine for me altho i know DH is depserately hoping for a girl and i am not sure if i have perhaps convinced myself of a boy just to quash anny disapointment i may feel.

Incidentally, for us i think we would rather have that moment of disapointment at 20 weeks than on the day altho i am sure it will only be a fleeting moment of disapointment.

FoghornLeghorn · 23/08/2007 13:08

I have 2 girls and absolutely love it. When I was pregnant with DD2 I really wanted a boy but i just knew I was having a girl so I had already got my head around having 2 girls before she arrived.
I would love a boy though, as would DH. I think next time we will find out what we are having so if it's another girl we can get our heads around it because there is no way there will be a 4th

alicet · 23/08/2007 13:14

I am also a mum to Sam and 33 weeks pregnant with ds2. I had been convinced was expecting a girl as this pregnancy was so different and had worried that I would be disappointed if it wasn't a girl (not doing this again!!!!). But actually I was really pleased for all the reasons other posters have said. Now I'm really excited at the thought of having 2 little boys and also the me time I will get when dh takes them out on their bikes and stuff!! Don't get me wrong I will do that stuff too but I think there are positives!

I don't think there is anything wrong with grieving for the little girl you won't have though. Acknowledge your feelings, let yourself feel a bit sad for a while then pick yourself up and think about the gorgeous little boy you are having. It will be great - Good luck!

seeker · 23/08/2007 13:23

I was so desperate for a girl first time that I convinced myself and everone else around me that I was carying a boy. I had to have a late scan and I remember the radiographers laughing at me as I said "look, I told you it was a boy - there's the willy, clear as day!" Grace was born 3 days later.......

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