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...convinced i was carrying a girl just found out its another boy anyone else......

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mum2sam · 22/08/2007 21:42

go through the same thing and feel a bit disappointed. I feel so guilty for feeling this way. I just really had my hopes on having a girl like most of us do i guess. Its just had to get my head around having two boys plus dh my god how scarey is that.....

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mixedmama · 23/08/2007 13:28

alicet - just wanted to say that that is such a good piece of advice to allow yourself to grieve for the little girl.

I think that will help me if DH shows his disapointment too much.

jersey · 23/08/2007 19:28

I know how you feel, I'm expecting no 3 and with 2 boys already I really thought I was having a girl this time as previous 2 preg very similiar and this one totally different, as well as carrying differently this time. When we found out at the scan it was a boy again I was so dissapointed as this is the last baby we are having and I won't beable to buy dresses, and do girly, mother/daughter things. I still feel dissapointed now as there are a lot of girls in our family and I always assumed I would have a daughter (34 weeks preg), but am slowly coming to terms with it and hope by the time this one is born I will be over it.

Don't know if this helps but good luck.

alicet · 23/08/2007 19:40

thanks mixedmama! I was in a similar situation in that although I would have liked a dd it was really my dh who was more disappointed. Hope everything goes well for you - ds or dd!

jersey - weren't you on the due Oct antenatal thread a while back? Hope all going well for you....

Fimbo · 23/08/2007 19:41

I was convinced I was having another dd and out popped ds instead. He is now a 4 year old whirlwind. He has turned my nice quiet life upside down. I must have been boring before with my nice quiet little girl who I must say was pretty much an angel which dh & I put down to our excellent parenting skills, oh how dh and I laugh at that now.

I think for the first week of his life I was in shock but quickly got over it and now couldn't imagine having 2 girls.

midnightexpress · 23/08/2007 20:50

I've got two boys, and when pg with ds2 I guess I thought it would be nice to have the set, but mine are very close in age so also figured it would be better for them in some ways if both the same sex. And now of course, because ds2 is who he is and we've got to know him and love him to bits, we can't imagine him being anyone else iyswim, so I don't give it a moment's thought, and haven't since he was born.

And boys are more cuddly than girls, apparently (certainly true of my wee guys).

Having said all that, I do have days driving along in the car listening to DP and DS1 exchanging fart noises where I think and dread the testosterone to come. And the smelly teenage bedrooms.

spugs · 23/08/2007 21:28

i have 2 girls and im preg with my 3rd dc. with my first i really wanted a girl and convinced myself it would be a boy so i wouldnt be disapointed. found out at 20 wks it was a she

didnt find out with dd2 but really wanted a boy, but when she was born it didnt actually matter in the slightest.

now dont get me wrong i love having 2 girls and if dc3 is a girl then i dont mind as long as its fine, but i cant help but really want a boy. im finding out (hopefully) at 20 wks as the suspense drives me mad in the last few weeks

whomovedmychocolate · 23/08/2007 21:31

Think of it this way:

(1) Your family name will survive
(2) You will get to be MiL to two poor women!
(3) You won't have to explain periods
(4) Your next one may well be a girl!

whomovedmychocolate · 23/08/2007 21:32

BTW, yes I know if you have girls you are still a MiL but sons in law tend not to take heed as much as daughters in law IMHO.

CHOCOLATEPEANUT · 23/08/2007 21:36

im pregnant with a boy.I have a 3.9 dd and lost a stillborn dd two years ago.

I am one of two girls and my sister has two girls.

When we found out I was having a boy everyone was thrilled.It will be first in family.Also people have said that having lost second dd having a boy will make it easier so not to constantly compare.

But have to admite that I am a little apprehensive.I have never really been a boy person and am used to girls.

This makes me feel very bad. I am buying boys stuff and get excited then I kinda go

Spidermama · 23/08/2007 21:43

I had a girl then three boys. I was kinda hoping for a little more balance but you get what you're given. It is tough having so many boys around. It's fun too of course and great when its great, but you must never feel guilty about taking time away from the testosterone now and again. I find it gets overbearing. They don't mean for it to but it does.

Congratulations btw.

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mum2sam · 24/08/2007 09:45

The thing i feel really guilty about is that before the scan i was so excited about having another baby and since finding out its a boy ive been feeling really down.I cant help but notice little girls in there summer dresses etc and think i may never have a girl. Ive told dh im fine etc but am hiding how i really feel because i feel so guilty. Im already thinking of a third one and ways on concieving a little girl when i should be concentrating on this one.If i had a boy and girl already and was expecting another boy id be over the moon. I havent got any sisters or nieces so i think this is why im really craving a girl. I just feel like it would complete the family.

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LieselVentouse · 24/08/2007 10:22

mothers instinct goes for nothing doesnt it. i was convinced i was having boys - im now the proud owner of two beatuful girls

meandmy · 24/08/2007 10:35

when i was pg i instinctivley knew baby was a girl, my mom also said yeah you carrying girl, my dp however convinced me i was having a boy so convinced i only looked at boys clothes etc and when i had my scan and wewas told the sex of my baby i was really happy that i was having a girl then felt so upset that i wasnt having a boy like dp had convinced me

jersey · 25/08/2007 08:26

Hi alice yes I was but don't seem to find the time to get online now . Been having a lot of probs this preg as well so been a bit down as well. Hope to get back soon.

jersey · 25/08/2007 08:26

Hi alice yes I was but don't seem to find the time to get online now . Been having a lot of probs this preg as well so been a bit down as well. Hope to get back soon.

rozzyraspberry · 25/08/2007 10:03

Mum2sam - don't feel guilty. By the time this baby arrives you will be excited and you'll love it to bits. I have 2 boys are they are so close and love playing together. I never found out the sex with either of them and I wouldn't say I was disappointed when ds2 was born but I did at times feel sad that I would never have a daughter. I did come to accept it over the next couple of years but am now pregnant with number 3. Because I thought for so long we would have no more children I'm already used to the idea of having no little girls so don't really mind what this one is.

My only concern is I may be a bit jealous if my SIL who has a ds and is currently pregnant has a little girl and I have another boy. Equally I'm worried about how she will feel if I have a girl and she has another boy as she has made no secret of the fact she wants a little girl.

I'm sure it'll all work out for the best though!

alicet · 26/08/2007 18:45

Jersey sorry to hear you've been having a rough time of it and feeling down. Big virtual hugs winging their way to you and hope it all goes well for you x

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