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When did you tell imediate family?

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erised · 23/11/2019 21:09

I'm currently about 5 weeks. I'll be going home to my family on Dec 9th and really want to tell surprise them in person as it's not something I want to tell them over Skype or the phone. Is this too early?

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Lemonysherbet · 23/11/2019 21:11

Personally I wanted to tell my family earlier than other people. I had an early MC before this and could have done with their support. Told them at 8 weeks this time face to face

HorseMum91 · 23/11/2019 21:12

Do what feels right for you. We waited until 12 weeks, but there’s no right or wrong.

Congratulations by the way

Cornishmumofone · 23/11/2019 21:23

I found out at 8 weeks and told my husband when he got home from work. I told our parents at 6 months. I couldn't bear people discussing me and didn't want to have to put up with boring conversations about pregnancy for 6 months. (I only put on

Whatelsecouldibecalled · 23/11/2019 21:29

We told our immediately famil in test day. We had ivf and they knew about it and the test day! Other family we waited until 12 weeks. Congratulations x

Spanglebangle · 23/11/2019 21:33

16 weeks and even then it was because my bump was becoming to big to hide not because I wanted to. As much as I love my family they have a habit of becoming too involved and I knew I could do without the daily 'how are you feeling' texts.
Not telling anyone until later on has definitely made this pregnancy seem quicker.

Valkarie · 23/11/2019 21:36

Pretty much as soon as we found out. My mum would have killed me if I waited until the 12 week mark. Plus I had terrible morning sickness, so I couldn't have hidden it from her.

Sparkle2019 · 23/11/2019 21:56

At 10 weeks z

bobble53 · 23/11/2019 22:03

We told my dad straight away! I was about 4/5 weeks.

Firsttimemama2017 · 23/11/2019 22:04

About 5 weeks both pregnancies. I am very close to my family and wouldn't have wanted to lie to them until 12 weeks

stucknoue · 23/11/2019 22:10

About 6-7 weeks, immediate family only (the kind of people who would support you if you miscarry)

Xenia · 23/11/2019 22:12

4 or 5 months! I didn't tell work until 5 months ( I never got too fat). However most people wait more like 3 months until risk of miscarriage is much reduced.

yikesanotherbooboo · 23/11/2019 22:16

If you are close to your family and are happy about your pregnancy I think it is a good thing to share your news. After all it is the most exciting thing that has ever happened to you, why would you exclude your family? The extra factor is that if the worse happens and you miscarry or something goes wrong it will be much better for you if you have family to support you.
Having said that, I totally understand that it can take some time to digest the realty of being pregnant and you might not want to share your news until you are used to the idea!

ParkheadParadise · 23/11/2019 22:25

With Dd1 my mum told me.
I was 10weeks when we went to the doctors, I was 15. I didn't really my any announcements.

Dd2 I didn't find out I was pregnant until I was 5mths. I was in total shock when I told my family they all thought I was joking. Dd1 was 23! When we told people everyone asked if we were joking, then burst out laughing 😦

surreygirl1987 · 23/11/2019 22:54

I'm in a similar boat, OP. I am 6 weeks pregnant. For my first baby, I didn't tell family until 16 weeks (as I literally hadn't seen them since the 12 week scan until then)... But this time, over christnas it will be a lot harder to hide it, especially ad the in-laws are staying at our house and my parents are staying with my brother nearby and we'll all be spending a lot of time together! I'm definitely showing already (obv not baby, but I have a bloat bump!) and no alcohol will be a bit suspect! I am tempted to just tell them but I am also toying with idea of having an early scan just before Christmas to make sure all looks fine (although it's only a snapshot of that moment in time isn't it)... if only private scans weren't so expensive!

Lemonysherbet · 23/11/2019 23:00

Also, you could decide when you're there. I nearly told a family member early. I was planning on telling them but the time never felt right and I never got round to it until 13 weeks when it felt right.

Mum2b2020 · 24/11/2019 00:50

I told mine at 5 weeks as I was convinced they'd question why I wasnt drinking at a family event. They were so shocked and I have the best video of telling them. They even said they wouldnt have guessed from the not drinking.

Unfortunately I miscarried at 8 weeks and when i got pregnant again 3 months later i waited until 12 weeks but as it was on their radar by then the response was 'oh - you're pregnant. Yeah we already guessed'. I wish I could say telling them about the mc meant they could support me, but apart from the first day of telling them about it, my parents didnt even ask how I was doing through the whole month the process took. Made me feel they were more upset about not being able to tell their friends they were going to be grandparents which they were itching to do.

I guess it depends on whether you'd think you would like, and would get, support from your family if anything went wrong.

Blahblahblah12345 · 24/11/2019 01:22

I told certain people (close family and friends) at 8 weeks. As I'd had 2 consecutive miscarriages I had a scan at 8 weeks to check everything was progressing. As it was and I felt completely different with the 3rd pregnancy I only told a few trusted people. Then I told everyone else after I'd made it past 12 weeks.

Pipandmum · 24/11/2019 01:26

We announced our engagement one Christmas and the next Christmas that we were expecting. I was 6 weeks along. With my second I did wait till 12 weeks as I was 42 and just wanted to be sure.

Aneley · 24/11/2019 09:54

We told our parents and siblings (and only them) at 5-6w, because we were battling infertility for 6y and had multiple miscarriages so we needed some support. They were supportive through the early scans and 12w scan which meant a lot to us. Told friends and other family after 12w, as well as my boss (who is a superstar and kept it to himself) and the rest of the world after 20w scan.

R2D2abc · 24/11/2019 10:04

I told my sisters as soon as I had my positive. I couldn't keep it from them. And I also thought if I miscarry I wanted some close people to know so I can have emotional help if I would struggle.

SospanFrangipan · 24/11/2019 10:16

Told my parents at 5 weeks, the day after we found out ourselves. This was due to there being a high risk of MC in the family, and had anything happened I'd have wanted the support of my parents. The rest of the family, we waited until about 9 weeks, and only then because I was quite poorly.

searchingforlight · 24/11/2019 10:17

It depends on how close you are with your family and how you think they’ll take the baby news really. With my first baby my parents really ruined my pregnancy and made it about themselves. I’m now 19 weeks with my second and still only me and OH know. I am planning to tell family just before Xmas as it will be hard to hide, plus I’m getting quite big!

mouse1234567 · 24/11/2019 10:30

Told my parents and close friends straight away-did IVf tho and they had been with me every step of the way. Needed their support and was worried about miscarriage after previous one. Will tell wider family after 12 weeks maybe a bit later.

Crystal87 · 24/11/2019 11:41

As soon as I found out.

Parker231 · 24/11/2019 11:47

Told both families at 12 weeks- wanted to wait until the ‘safe’ point. Was easy to avoid until then as we all live in different countries. Didn’t tell them it was DT’s until we knew the c-section date.

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