Can anyone help please? No judging

[Peaem19]

Hello,
I have just found out today I'm pregnant (my period isn't supposed to be due for another week) but I was feeling horrific so took a test, and I'm so shocked.
I had sex 5th November with my new partner, but ended up having sex with my previous partner on 11th November (please please don't judge 😔)
Which one is more likely to be the dad?
I'm guessing my new partner, as it's exactly 14 days since intercourse so would be more likely to show on pregnancy test rather than old partner which was 8 days ago.
I use a period tracker so didn't even think I would be ovulating!
My last period was 26th October.

Can anyone help please?

If you got a positive it's more likely you got pregnant on the 5th. You can't be 100% sure thou, I'm just guessing as it might take some time to have a BFP.

Can you show us a pic of your test ?

It is going to be impossible to tell without a dna i would say unfortunately

What was your last period like? Any chance that was implantation and your further along and that's why you feel so rough??

If you have tested positive seven days before your period is due then your period tracker has seriously misled you somewhere along the line. I don’t think you can go by dates.

@Peaem19 what is your usual cycle length because if last lmp was 26th then you'd likely be due end of this week ?

I can't attach a picture as in a new member- unless anyone else knows a way I can upload?

My last period was 26th October, it was late by a couple of days and only 5 days rather than my normal 7- I usually have a 31 day cycle.

But my boobs have been hurting so much, I've been feeling groggy so thought I'd test to rule out.
My period isn't due for another 6 days which is why I'm so confused as to why I got BFPs on a clear blue, saying 'pregnant 1-2 weeks'
I'm just so so confused with all this!

Impossible to tell really as if you have a 'textbook' cycle you'll have ovulated slap bang in between both of those dates.

Sorry, I know that's not what you want to hear.

Just seen your update. With only a few days between them even if likelihood of one is increased, there are no guarantees so the 'safest' option is to assume you can't know without DNA and proceed from there.

It sounds like a tricky situation and if I were you I'd try and organise some counselling to help you navigate it.

I'd be totally upfront with both of them because without a dna test then you can't be certain as there isn't really many days between the two.
Even with a scan they can be out by a couple days etc so I don't even think that would give you an ultimate answer. X

On a 28 day cycle I would assume you ovulated somewhere around 8th Nov, but given you are testing positive already perhaps you ovulated a few days early in which case Nov 5th man. If it were 11th Nov man you would be 9 dpo (days past ovulation) and I would be surprised a test would pick that up. However it's a close call and you will need a DNA to be sure. Do the men know about each other?

Could you have been pregnant at 26 October when you had a strangely short period so you are actually further along than you thought?

Although like everyone says it will be hard to know without dna, I'd be inclined to say new dp based on the dates and the clear blue tests measure roughly post ovulation ie 1-2 weeks is actually 3-4 weeks pregnant in GP terms.

I also wondered if last period was implantation, but CB test would more likely show you as 3+ weeks roughly if that were the case.

However in pregnancy, everyone is different.

Difficult situation, hope you feel ok and have some support.

Pic of BFP 4 days before period due m, taken at 7pm tonight.

That's quite a strong positive, considering your period isn't due for a week. I would suspect you were already pregnant or perhaps it's twins... .

Sorry, 4 days before. Still quite a strong positive though

@birdling
I know, also the fact that it's urine at 7pm.. rather than first morning urine.
I'm beginning to wonder if I am further along or maybe it is a multiple pregnancy. As I wouldn't have thought the HCG would be that strong?

Even my test a week before my period showed up quite obviously, I'll show you the picture, now I'm allowed to post

@farmmumtomillie the pic above is the picture I tried posting the other day

There's absolutely no way to know which one is the father without DNA. It's too close to call, and scans will not help, because they have a margin of +-7 days.

Even if you know when you ovulated it won't help because at the right time sperm can hang around inside your body for several days. You will have to be open with both and do a DNA test after the birth, unless who the father is may affect your decision about keeping it, in which case you can pay for prenatal testing.

Oh bless you.

This has got to be so stressful for you. That is quite a strong positive. I would be inclined to say your new partner is who you conceived with. But it’s impossible to say, it could be multiples and showing a strong positive this soon after sleeping with your old partner.

Have you got friends that you could talk to? I wish you all the best x

I had a positive test at 8 days past ovulation before but the line was really really faint. Your tests look pretty strong. If I had to bet on it I'd say it was the intercourse on the 5th but impossible to know for sure.

I'd look into the prenatal dna testing and get your ex to do the test initially...that way if he's not a match then you know it's your new partner....and you might away with not having to tell him about this predicament.

DNA test I'm afraid is the only answer to protect your relationship with your child for a start, let alone either of these men. Have you been tested for STDs?

Don't post too much private stuff in case the Daily Mail pick this one up.

@Longfacenow The Daily Mail?
Should I delete this thread? I don't know how to.
Yes I was tested last month- all negative

You can't delete threads here. You can ask MNHQ but they will only remove it if there's a genuine reason.

Sorry OP multi tasking badly!

I just mean be careful whilst you are vulnerable and seeking advice not to reveal TMI in case it gets picked up as one their Mumsnet stories.

Glad they are all clear. You can put that aspect out of mind and now think about what you want, but don't base your decision on the man you hope it to be, either may leave you down the line! Do what is best for you. I am an "honesty is the best in the long run" person though.

WHEN YOU HAD SEX IS NOT WHEN YOU CONCEIVE! Please please remember that. Sperm can stay alive for 3-5 days (7 at a push) so just because you had sex on the 5th the sperm may not have met the egg until the 7th or any other date around that time. And if it was say the 7th even a dating scan wouldn't be 100% on who the father is