Scan at 13 weeks told it was a boy

[Garsrud86]

Hi everyone so I had a scan at 13 weeks and as you do you can’t help but ask if they can see what it is she then said she would have a look but it’s hard to tell at 13 weeks.

Anyway long story short she did the ‘potty shot’ and me and my husband said oh wow it’s clearly a boy and I said I had a feeling it was a boy! She never told us just let us say it, now we have been to see my specialist today and she told us that should could have been wrong and the lady doing the scan should never have done it! Me and hubby are clearly worried now as we have gone out and got boys stuff lol

Anyone else had this same problem?

My scan picture is attached any advice would be very much appreciated

It can be wrong at that age but if the parts are clearly visible and seen then there’s not much doubting it.

Experience sonographers can usually tell at 12 weeks and it’s easier to tell a boy from a girl

From the scan pic you’ve posted the beginnings of a penis and scrotum are clear so it would be surprising if it was a girl

We were told boy at 13 weeks. Doctor said 90% sure. She was right!

Looks like a boy to me!

But in the nicest way possible, the sonographer didn’t actually tell you, you just assumed, so you can’t say you were ‘told’ it was a boy.

Also unless the stuff you’ve bought says ‘I’m a boy’ all over it then it’s fine for a girl too, but always best to stick to things you’d be happy to use for either a boy or a girl until you’re 100% sure!

A friend of mine (who is a doctor, as is her children’s dad, and both had been trained to read scans) was 100% certain baby was a girl, as was the dad, as was the sonographer. He turned out to be a boy!

Even if you think you can see something the consultant is right. Making decisions and buying stuff for a boy so early on is really not a wise move.

FWIW I know two people who were told later than that that they were expecting a boy and didn’t find out it was a girl until after the birth. It’s why many hospitals now refuse to reveal the gender as it’s not a 100% certainty and hospitals have been sued when they’ve been wrong.

Looks like a boy from the skull, but you cant really be sure till 16+ weeks as a girl could be very swollen and it looks like a boy 🤷🏻‍♀️

I’m a sonographer and I wouldn’t even attempt to sex a fetus at 13 weeks. What looks like the beginnings of a penis at that stage could so easily be what will eventually become a clitoris. Of course they may be right but then again I could toss a coin and would have a 50% chance of success

You don't need a penis to wear blue

Sorry just realised that the sonographer didn’t even tell you, you just assumed

I understand that she never said that it was a boy but if we was wrong I’m sure she shouldn’t just sit there and say nothing

Secondly my consultant said that it can always look like a boy this early one but turns out it’s not

Yes looking back shouldn’t have gone out and got stuff but hay I’m sure I’m not the first and I won’t be the last to do it!

Would it be a disaster if your baby turns out to be a girl? Girls can wear blue too, you know! Congratulations.

We went for a Private gender scan at 14 weeks and was told a boy.. But we didn't buy nothing for a boy until it got confirmed at my 20 week scan... I've had several more scans since then and he's clearly a boy he's proud to show off his bits lol.

As other pp has said though you didn't actually get told boy you have just presumed. If she didn't reply to you then the baby probably is a boy I doubt they would let you just think that and your consultant is probably just saying they shouldn't of even really looked so to speak. I don't think they are saying oh no its not a boy.
I'd hold of buying anymore 'boy' bits until you have had it confirmed at your 20 week scan or a Private scan. X

Buyin stuff based upon our own guess at Ur 12 week scan was more than just a little daft. I don't understand everyone's big rush to know everything early.

So what advice are you looking for?

It's not really a "problem" is it?

If your intent on buying gender stereotypical items for your newborn then you could return what you've bought and wait until a later scan, hold on to it just incase and buy "girl" stuff if needed or just use what you've bought regardless.

Me and hubby are clearly worried now as we have gone out and got boys stuff lol

yikes how awful if the baby is a girl and it had to wear something blue and you had no pink dresses on hand.....

My first 2 I was told at 12/13 weeks that it was clearly a boy. It was. Both times. Third time they said it looks like a boy but they weren’t 100% so I went back 2 weeks later and they said it was clearer now and it was definitely not a boy. She did turn out to be a girl

My good god please remind me never to ask for advice on this group again!

Not saying for one minute I wanted a boy and don’t want a girl I’m not fussed what is it but please all give it a rest the reason why I asked so early on was because my mum was on her death bed I wanted to tell her the news before it was to late but guess what I didn’t make it as she passed away before I could so please give it a bloody rest with the sarcastic comments!!

I really hope at some point it comes to be accepted that babies can wear any colour regardless of sex. It's so weird to force stereotypes on them at such a young age!

I knew my boy was a boy at my 13 week scan no one disagreed though didn’t ask to look I could tell he just looked so like his dad ( makes for a handsome Boy but a odd looking girl 😂)

I hope you have a beautiful and healthy baby whatever the sex , big congratulations op! Exciting times!! You will know for sure soon 😉

Could you take the clothes back if your worried though?

@Garsrud86 calm down and let people have their say - that's what Mumsnet is for. Of course boys can wear pink and girls can wear blue. Both sexes can wear any colour, but no, I wouldn't put a newborn boy in a pink frilly dress either. I am not ashamed to say I am expecting a boy and a girl (twins) and most (but not all) of their clothes we've got so far are blue/pink but ONLY because it's so bloody hard to find nice, bright, gender-neutral colours.

In the title of the OP you said you were "told it was a boy" but you were not - as people have correctly pointed out, you just assumedas you reached your own conclusion. However, some people have accused you of buying blue for a boy when you never said the clothes you'd bought for your baby were blue and this was wrong of them to assume. Maybe you bought green, yellow, orange, purple and so-on. What colours you buy for your baby are your choice and none of anyone else's business so if you want to put your son or daughter in blue then go for it.

Next time you post please make sure your post (especially the title) are accurate/factual as it's the first thing people see when they click through to your post and could be considered trolling or clickbait otherwise - neither of which I believe you have done here but you did contradict yourself completely.

What advice do you want?
You’ve (potentially) stupidly went and bought blue stuff or “boys” stuff off the back of you & the sad guessing from a scan?
Right....and?

From what everyone says about any scan not being 100% guaranteed on sex then why does it even matter that the op has bought clothes already.
She might have waited until 20 weeks and they still get it wrong.

I think that's the point people are trying to make - it's not really a problem at all.

Lots of people get incorrect sex given at scans. There's no advice to give because it's a gamble from the off, not an exact science.