In Agony! Binge drank in 3rd week of pregnancy.

[Willibefine]

I’m 33 years, I didn’t know I was pregnant, and drank a couple of beers once in 2nd week and the third week had 2 shots of vodka, a large glass of beer, 3 cocktails and I was hungover(binge drank like this after 3 years on that day) and throwing up the next whole Day and so just took pregnancy test coz hangover went on for so long and it was positive. Had around 20 cigarettes the whole 3 weeks too. I’ve been crying on and off coz I’m scared I harmed the baby. I want this baby but thought of terminating too! And I’m confused and in extreme panic and pain.. I’m 6 weeks now.. and don’t know what I must do! Please share if anyone’s gone through the same and baby is fine. Did anyone abort? Do you hurt thinking about it.. should I? I’m scared for the baby. Help!!

Thanks your messages help!

I'm sorry you're suffering. Just wanted to add my story to the many already here - my mum idmer a drinker but managed to get totally drunk on a whole bottle of wine once ever - when she didn't know she was pregnant with me! I'm the first in our family to go through university (twice) - it didn't do me any harm!

What are you going to do about addressing your anxiety? Have you asked your GP to refer you urgently for a talking therapy? There are also excellent anxiety charities who can match you up with a telephone counsellor. Your anxiety is the more pressing issue. Literally millions of women have smoked and drunk too much before getting a positive pregnancy test sobyou really, honestly and truly do not need to worry about that.

I binge drank before I knew I was pregnant with DD1. She’s 23 now, straight A’s in everything and studying to be a vet.

Perhaps get counselling about your anxiety. It sounds like you have very low self esteem.

Feral alcohol syndrome is not developed from a few cocktails once! Also it’s medically impossible for things you did in weeks 2 & 3 of the pregnancy to affect the baby - at that point the embryo doesn’t get its nutrition via the placenta but from the endometrium, so unless you were consuming that booze vaginally you have nothing to worry about.

I went to my doctors because I was feeling sick and he gave me anti sickness pills. This was before I knew I was pregnant. The pills sent me into anaphylactic shock and I would have died if I hadn't got to a hospital in time. I worried all through my pregnancy that it had harmed my baby. The baby is now mid-forties, happy and healthy. Please don't worry, your baby will be fine.

@Willibefine Another one here who drank far too much at a dinner party, threw up in a field, thought it was a bit odd as I’d always been able to drink (and pay the price with a stinking hangover, mind you). Fast forward 21 years and she’s doing her finals. She’s a healthy, happy, wonderful girl. Another handhold from me.

I did this, on my hen night, before finding out I was pregnant.

Don't worry. Hopefully no damage is done at all.

Feral alcohol syndrome

Lol at the typo! I'm sure that's something quite different!

I bloody work in maternity so you’d think my phone would recognise ‘fetal’

I found out I was pregnant at 17 weeks after 16.5 weeks of drinking every weekend, teips away, and lots and lots of booze and bad food. Baby is now 3 and fine!
At your stage, the baby wouldn’t have even been receiving what your drank/ate. It’s barely formed. Please relax xx

DC 1 was pregnant at best friend's wedding and didn't know. As maid of honour once all duties were done I got very drunk. Turned out I was a bout 5 weeks at the time. DC is now 10 and perfect.

DC2 girly weekend drunk lots - turned out I was about 3 weeks. dC absolutely fine.

DC3 friends birthday lots of drink- was almost 6 weeks and didn't know. Again dc absolutely fine.

Your baby will be fine you won't have done them any harm at that stage.

Thanks guys! Before I knew I was pregnant I went for counseling and was diagnosed with social anxiety, and anxiety in general and signs of clinical depression but on my 7Th session with my counselor she was yawning and covered herself with blanket And was sitting.. I kinda of felt she wasn’t listening.. so I discontinued was paying her 70$ copay Per session. She was around 35 years old. She did give me one good advice - that all work is godliness even house work.. but she didn’t really help. And I don’t think I have the energy to talk again about everything from childhood and all over again with someone. So does anyone know how I need to go about such things? @Nextphonewontbesamsung you were talking about counseling through phone and stuff, so I’ll talk to my OBgyn about it. I can get any help seriously. I don’t have thoughts about killing myself or anything. Just low self respect, affecting my day to day work, and anxiety attacks. I want to be stronger when baby number 2 arrives and much much happier and healthy mentally. Thanks for all ya messages it really helps!

Did this too. Had a very long Friday work lunch and went out that night. Found out about 2 weeks later I was pregnant and went to my GP in absolute bits that I had harmed the baby. He was very polite and just answered something like ‘if I had a £ for every time a woman asked me this I’d be a very rich man’!!
My dd is now 19 and at uni!

You'll be fine i drank heavily up until i found out i was pregnant at 10 weeks!! Midwife said it was fine as i stopped straight away so no harm was done by baby is fine and healthy with no health problems

Hi everyone, I went through the toughest phase during pregnancy, but took help and got medication sertraline Zoloft 50mg and got better with my anxiety and depression a little which helped during pregnancy. And now gave birth to a healthy baby on July 14 during the pandemic! Normal delivery and She is now 2 and half months, weighs fine, and smiles so much at me. I am on Zoloft 100 mg and breast feeding now.. and doing better in years. Thank you so much for all your messages! It helped ❤️

And for others reading this who went through similar situation. I Gave birth to a healthy baby like I previously mentioned.. thank you so much! I love LO so much.

I really wouldn't worry much at all about what you did before missing your period. On week three I don't even think the egg has implanted yet?

The likelihood of damage having been done that early is totally negligible - for most of that time your placenta wouldn’t even have formed. As long as you aren’t still smoking and drinking you really don’t need to be worried

Don't fret - so many have done this and way way worse, for longer, and baby fine.

Much more harmful to terminate 😯😬

Just forget about it. The chance of any effect is next to zero. Don't worry.

The placenta doesn’t attach until week 7

I suddenly realised I was pregnant while I was stoned and quite drunk... that was quite a moment