In Agony! Binge drank in 3rd week of pregnancy.

[Willibefine]

I’m 33 years, I didn’t know I was pregnant, and drank a couple of beers once in 2nd week and the third week had 2 shots of vodka, a large glass of beer, 3 cocktails and I was hungover(binge drank like this after 3 years on that day) and throwing up the next whole Day and so just took pregnancy test coz hangover went on for so long and it was positive. Had around 20 cigarettes the whole 3 weeks too. I’ve been crying on and off coz I’m scared I harmed the baby. I want this baby but thought of terminating too! And I’m confused and in extreme panic and pain.. I’m 6 weeks now.. and don’t know what I must do! Please share if anyone’s gone through the same and baby is fine. Did anyone abort? Do you hurt thinking about it.. should I? I’m scared for the baby. Help!!

Yes I think I might need prenatal support, I have been seeing a counselor for social anxiety and clinical depression but my depression is not too bad these days (nothing in harming self or others Ever I just suffer from every tasks and have been working on it) and I have been doing so much better. I already have a 2 year daughter and thought maybe One is enough from a month now coz of my recovering and My counselor thinks one kid is not a bad idea since she is a single kid as well..But in the back of my mind I worry coz I needed a company for her.. she needs a sibling..., so this baby is a blessing. I do worry about my strength but my husband thinks I make a wonderful mother and he will equally be there and help out more if required and we can make this happen..if I’m considering to go ahead. He wanted a second baby too but is worried about the drinking part too and is by my side with whatever I decide. About my mental anxiety I know I will be strong enough to handle and would continue counseling and get all the help I need. My counselor doesn’t know I’m pregnant yet and will be discussing this with her in few days..And see what she thinks. All my worry now is if my baby is healthy .. and I can see so many of y’all have had similar Experience so eases the thoughts that I am not alone... And my baby will be healthy..thanks And please keep sharing..

I am a teacher. Had a kid in class whose Mum didn't know she was pregnant until she was in labour (she thought early labour was a hangover actually.....) The child was absolutely fine. In fact one of the loveliest I have ever met as sge was showered with soooo much love.

And please don’t judge on my smoking and drinking even though I have 2 year old. I honestly Never do it and just started to do something’s for myself and pampered myself from a month by going out meeting friends and having a girls night and then Got to know I was pregnant and stopped everything immediately.

I did the same at 3 weeks both drinking and smoking my baby is due in a couple weeks. I spoke to my midwife about that night and she said that's nothing to worry about.
I have a friend who found out she was 6 weeks pregnant right after Christmas so lots of drinking. Her little girl just to turned 6. She is a well rounded happy smart little girl with absolutely no issues whatsoever.

Another one drank before I realised I was pregnant and now she's a perfectly happy cheeky 4yo.
What's done is done, I'm sure you're gonna be fine.

My daughter was a massive surprise so I'd been drinking before I found out I was pregnancy and she was totally fine. The placenta doesn't take over for several weeks anyway and loads of women drink in tv r two week wait as loads of people don't even know they're pregnant. Please don't worry

I had also had an epic weekend of partying just before I found out I was pregnant. It's extremely common, in fact my midwife laughed and said half the babies in the country are conceived after a cracking night out! She said there is absolutely no cause for concern at that stage, the baby isn't linked to our blood yet. Continued drinking further into pregnancy is obviously a no-no but that more than half the women she saw have drunk a fair bit of alcohol before their BFP and no harm done, all healthy kids. As was mine, who is now a teenager.

I've gotten black out drunk in all three of my pregnancies technically.

DS1 was a contraception failure.

We actively TTC for 2 & 3 but I didn't change any of my habits. So I went on my own hen do and then a few days later found out I was pregnant.

DC1 & 2 existed when TTC Number 3 so I definitely wasn't giving up the wine then.

Right, stop this. Worrying yourself silly will not change a thing and will only make you feel worse. My mother smoked John Player's Navy Cut throughout her pregnancy with me and cycled until she could no longer reach the handlebars (about 8.5 months) and I am fine... I was the veritable bouncing baby.

As to the drinking, a friend necked two bottles of Prosecco in what was the sixth week and her son is absolutely fine. These things happen; if they didn't we would all be teetotal and we're not.

So start enjoying your pregnancy and many congratulations!

Another one here who had a few too many before knowing I was pregnant... had a delightful conversation with that little bean this morning about ‘Mummy’s big feet and my little feet. Look, Mummy’s really big feet!’ at 6am as he produced a world-beating poo (‘Got more poos to do Mummy, sit on the bath!’).

It’s really common, op. Speak to your GP or midwife if you’re worried though. I’d hardly even got the words out to my GP before he was saying ‘Fine, that’s fine. Just stop now you know’.

Epic girls holiday partying before finding out the post drink vomiting was morning sickness as it continued upon my return

DD is 15 and very healthy and bright! My midwife said the same as others above, will not have passed to the embryo

Thanks all these replies have calmed me completely down and my negative thoughts to rest and I’m all excited for my baby number 2 😊

Will surely update my pregnancy as I go.. if even else like me panics can get a hand on this post too.. :) thanks to each one of y’all again ..

keep posting and sharing .. more the number the easier for everyone who is going through with the same situation. :)

I'm a substance misuse worker and the amount some people can drink and it have no affect on the baby is unreal.
Please don't beat yourself up at all. Your baby will be absolutely fine. Sending you massive hugs x

Another to say don’t worry with a story to share!

I had DD after years of treatment and trying (and alcohol abstinence!). Then we made plans to get married. And we thought we might give trying a second go but were very dubious it would work. So we stopped condoms and happened to get married around mid cycle. DTD. Had 3 days at home then went on a fortnight AI honeymoon - no thoughts we’d ever conceive realistically. Drank copious amounts every day - we were on all inclusive 5* !!!! Packed pads ‘just in case’ but gave it no concern. When I got back and took a test I was 6-7 weeks and had drunk a ridiculous amount compared to a normal lifestyle, due to it being honeymoon. DS who resulted was and is perfect. Relative who is an obstetrician said ‘chill out, most babies are conceived after a bottle of something or other’....

Relax and enjoy !!

I found out I was pregnant because I vomited after a glass of wine! Your baby will be fine x

Don't worry. I had several pints of beer everyday of the first five or six weeks of my pregnancy and binge drank on several weekends during that time too... I didn't know I was pregnant until about week 7. I told my midwife at the first appointment and she literally told me not to worry as previous posters have said, your blood streams aren't connected that early. My baby was born completely healthy and a good weight, she's a year old now and hitting all her milestones. Don't worry!

I wouldn’t worry, I’m sure your baby will be fine :) . I had a mad night out with a few friends the day before I found out I was pregnant. Would have been about 5 weeks, didn’t stop smoking until we were around 10 weeks and on holiday I had a couple of cocktails, was about 26 weeks. Baby has been perfectly healthy at every check up:) 31+3 now 🥰xx

I had the same worries as I had been drinking up til week 5. My midwife said you and 90% of the women that come in here. Told me to put it out of my mind as my bloodstream wasn’t connected by that point.

My friend who has menstrual issues went mental in ibiza and was 2 months pregnant and didn't know as she doesn't always have periods..... and when I say mental, I mean she did everything...!! she now has 2 perfect twin boys.
In my first 6 weeks I had a few alcoholic drinks on holiday, dyed my hair, had spray tans, ate naughty cheese... I'm now 8 months pregnant and touch wood, all is fine xxx

I went for my 8 weeks scan .. there was a heart beat. Doctor told see this one is a fighter. But my fears are not gone yet! I’m terrified at times if I changed the brain structure of baby as google page search results say! I’m not able to be positive and Calm down. If something goes wrong(FAS) or delayed development ... I can’t forgive myself! 😭.. is it my intuition or just hormones... please help!!!

It's your anxiety talking. When you did the drinking and smoking baby wasn't even connected to Your bloodstream.

With my first DS I didn't know I was pregnant until 12 weeks because I had what I though were my usual light periods (now I know I just had bleeding in early pregnancy same as all my others) I went out a lot in that times. My eldest is now a very healthy 8 yr old who's suffered no ill effects from it! In fact he's one of the top performers in his class at English and maths.

A friend of mine didn't know she was pregnant until she was about 5 months (when baby started moving) she was a party girl so drank excessively and took drugs ... her baby was in actual danger of FAS and other issues but was fine. She's a lovely 4 year old now

Why wouldn’t people just carry on as normal if they don’t know they are pregnant? It wasn’t that long ago that nobody even took a pregnancy test until way after their periods were due and no one seemed to suffer with this angst. But if you want a termination, no one will judge you.

I didn't know I was pregnant over Christmas and new year. I went out 10 nights in a row. Drank shit loads and smoked every time. In those days during pregnancy we also ate anything we wanted, had loads of caffeine, had never heard of folic acid. That baby is a 6ft 4 thirty year old and is very clever. Don't worry.

Thanks y’all. It’s my anxiety. I know I have it .. must see someone. Don’t want to terminate. But get these thoughts sometimes .. and when I read these messages I’m just relaxed. My life is perfect like a dream.. everyone is July born in my house and this baby is too.. baby is a gift! I want the baby.. but worry my fear is I can’t be that lucky in everything. It’s just my anxiety will see someone thanks. I’m sure baby is fine and I need to relax and tell myself that.