How do you stay positive?

[Lou0808]

I’m 34 and Pregnant with our first baby.
Currently 16+4 weeks.
We had a gender scan at the weekend and found out we’re having a baby girl.

I’m so happy and neither of us can wait until she’s here.
The thing is. I’m struggling to stay positive.

I keep worrying about something wrong.
I so desperately want my baby girl, I just keep imagining that something is going to take her away from me.

I try so hard to keep positive but the negative thoughts just take over.

For the past few days I’ve been experiencing some cramping, I spoke to the dr and the midwife who said it sounded like growing pains.
I’m seeing my midwife today for my 16 week check, but I feel convinced that she won’t be able to find baby’s heart beat.

I’m getting myself so upset worrying all the time.

How can I stop? 😔

@Lou0808- would you like to join my thread?

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/3611423-Pregnancy-anxiety-support-thread

I’m now 28 weeks pregnant and have worried throughout. It’s so hard to “switch it off” as such. You’re not alone and there’s plenty of support 💜

It's so difficult, I felt the same way. The things I did to cope were:

1. Arm myself with some stats about the likelihood of a loss - very unlikely by that stage. Reminding myself that everything is ok today, and that's best I can hope for each day.

1. Acknowledge the possibility that something may go wrong but there is nothing whatsoever that I could do about it. In the same way that I can't stop myself being in a fatal car crash etc etc which sounds morbid but basically we all have to tolerate the fact that something catastrophic might happen to us or a loved one at any time. Something happening to the baby would be a catastrophe - possible but rare. And if the worst did happen, I would find a way to cope.

1. Realising I will basically feel this way for the rest of the baby's life so I'd better get to grips with tolerating this possibility now!!

1. Noticing the anxious thoughts, acknowledging them, and that they are "trying their best" to help me by trying to prepare me for the worst - and then just trying to let them pass in their own time.

I'm 17 plus 5 today and I feel like this every day! I've been researching things I shouldn't and it makes me worse!

@diddlediddle some good tips thank you x