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Post 40 pregnancy

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Anonymous125 · 31/08/2019 16:51

Have found love later in life and had my first child at 39. I am now approaching 42 and thinking about my last chance to give my first a sibling, I went to the GP and asked for advice and I basically was told to get on with it but I want to wait another 6 months before trying. Has anyone on here experienced the same issue or has had a baby in their early to mid 40’s, what are your experiences like?

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Welltroddenpath · 31/08/2019 16:56

I was told by a midwife councillor that they just hardly see women over 44 give birth to live babies with their own eggs. So don’t wait too long. Fertility at 40 is a world away from fertility at say 45

Kerry197878 · 31/08/2019 17:00

I got caught pregnant on the pill at 41 .. my sister was 48 and ended up with twins .. a relative of mine is 43 and now pregnant ... of you want it go for it ... we are classed as geriatric mothers over 35 apparently .. I have a healthy pregnancy and birth my son weighing 9.12 ounces .... he's great ... don't let others put you off... it will happen if you want it to

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Anonymous125 · 31/08/2019 17:04

Thank you for your advice. It is nice to hear success stories xx

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Anonymous125 · 31/08/2019 17:05

Thank you x

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rubyroot · 31/08/2019 20:52

But why would you wait six months if your 42? You said you want a baby right? You need to get on with it as the doctor suggested. I speak from someone who has had first child at 39, I'm now 41 and after two losses am 10 weeks pregnant and have my fingers crossed.

rubyroot · 31/08/2019 20:53

Don't wait would be my advice, I hope you get pregnant first time and it sticks. I think you'd be extremely lucky though. Really.. Get shagging and quick.

rubyroot · 31/08/2019 20:56

@Anonymous125 there's also a great thread on the conception board 40 + and ttc.. Lots of baby dust to us. (or something like that) it's full of ladies who are 40 and over, they're a great bunch, some have had success, some are going down donor route and some have had long hard journeys.

Notrobusta · 31/08/2019 20:56

I’m 43. Currently 23 weeks pregnant. Conceived naturally. So far the only difference is I’m consultant led and will have regular growth scans.

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Anonymous125 · 31/08/2019 21:50

That is great news Smile thank you for your response xx

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Anonymous125 · 31/08/2019 21:53

Thank you

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Anonymous125 · 31/08/2019 21:54

Best of luck xxx

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Greymoon2016 · 01/09/2019 06:24

Hello I think fertility declines steadily from 35 I'm 37 and pregnant 26 weeks I'm surprised I fell as I kept having miscarriages I would say don't wait if it's what you want plus maybe look at getting so coq10 supplements it's supposed to improve egg quality myself I was taking inositol when I fell with this baby. Best of luck going forward x

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Anonymous125 · 01/09/2019 08:26

Thank you and best of luck with everything xx

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Bethlats · 01/09/2019 09:28

I had my son at 38 years old. Started trying for a second at 40. Suffered 2 miscarriages, which I was told was due to poor egg quality due to age - no tests to come
To this conclusion though! We tried for another 14 months and didn’t conceive. We’d decided not to have anymore, and I found out that month i was pregnant. Now 28 weeks. Consultant led care. I guess I’d say, as there’s a chance it could take you a bit longer to conceive, maybe you might think about trying sooner rather than later. That being said, I know a lot of people that have had babies, naturally conceived, in their 40’s. Good luck whatever you decide.

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Anonymous125 · 01/09/2019 10:23

Thank you for your response and congratulations xxx

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Ticklemeelmo · 01/09/2019 12:34

I know loads of people who've conceived in their forties, wish you the best of luck

avocadoincident · 01/09/2019 12:46

Lots of positive older mums stories in my social circle.
Why wait though is my (nosey) question?

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Anonymous125 · 01/09/2019 14:11

Thank you xx

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Anonymous125 · 01/09/2019 14:11

Next year is just a better time xx

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rubyroot · 01/09/2019 15:15

@Anonymous125 I know many 40/41 year olds who have had a baby, but for the vast majority of them it was a second or third attempt. You could be one of those women with super healthy eggs. I know someone who accidentally got pregnant at 42 and had a really straightforward pregnancy for instance. But unless, there a real reason you need to delay and I'm guessing there is but you don't want to share, it would be prudent to start right away. At 42 there's a 50% chance of miscarrying (stats from Tommy's website) I don't want to be a naysayer, I really dont but if you do really want another I'd seriously consider starting right away.

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Anonymous125 · 01/09/2019 17:53

Thank you x

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ckc45d10 · 05/09/2019 17:59

Ditto for CoQ10, and a water and fat-soluble form absorb better. There is some research on CoQ10 for the "advanced" maternal age.

maceratedstrawberries · 06/09/2019 15:46

My mum had her last kid at 46, naturally and with no issues 😊

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Anonymous125 · 06/09/2019 16:14

Thank you x

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Anonymous125 · 06/09/2019 16:15

Smile wow amazing, thank you xx

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