"Congratulations. Was it planned?"

[Ginandgingers92]

Why do people ask this?! Usually in the same breath as the initial congrats?!

I don't know if it's just me but I find it really rude!
I also don't see how it's the other person's business or how it would make a difference to their lives if it wasn't!

Had it today, and I wanted to tell that person where to go.. but in that gracious pregnancy announcement glow it's not the done thing is it?!

Am I the only one who outwardly bristles when they hear this?

FWIW.... yes.... it was planned 😂😂

Why is "when are you due?" a rude question? Excuse my ignorance!

People so rather take the polite gloves off around pregnant women, dnot they?! When I did tell parents I was pregnant (around 22 weeks) after 3 miscarriages my mum asked me if I was "going to do it properly this time". I still haven't said a woRd to her, apparently I am over reacting due to pregnancy hormones . My son is now 3, I am still pissed off.

Lol, totally rude, but forgivable in my eyes. I had a guy (.manager even) at work look at me and say "pregnant? " i responded in the affirmative and he goes "accident?". Lol. Shocked i responded to this also in the affirmative (it WAS true), but walked away thinking to myself WTH just happened!

My manager asked me this when I told her we were expecting our second baby! Or rather, said 'was it an accident?'!

I was annoyed at first but think now she just thought she'd got another year before I'd be leaving her again. Nothing nasty was meant by it even if she could've chosen her words better

I was asked this question.

I'm in a same-sex marriage - of course it was planned!

I think people just say the first thing that comes into their heads sometimes, not meaning to be rude.

1Wanda1

Did you just stare at them and wait for them to figure it out?

Congratulations on its own just seems to be a conversation stopper. When is it due? would be the most logical first question ie. I’m having a baby... Congratulations! when?

What questions would continue a positive conversation? Genuinely asking. Would be good to be prepared for next time. Not had DC myself. Or maybe Congratulations is all that’s needed?

I've had this a few times but usually before the "congratulations".. I was never really offended by it as I just assumed they wanted to check I was happy about it before saying "congratulations"? 🤷🏼‍♀️

I find people ask the most intrusive a yes surrounding pregnancy and childbirth. Had lots of cheeky a yes each pregnancy. Only response is to smile but not actually answer.
My husband's colleague asked if I had needed stitches?
Why would you want to know?

Ques not a yes

I once got boldly asked at a soft play if my children had the same dad. 😮

Its so rude! and it makes me feel so paranoid afterwards.

Oh well, I work in a nail shop and one of the customer asked me the same 😶 as she thinks I'm too young for that and I'm 21. Still young but not 'too young' and we tried for this baby in almost a year.