12 weeks and bleeding

[babybear02]

Hi all, I'm 12 +2 If dates are correct I have my scan Friday ( today is tues)
Yesterday I went to the loo and wiped to see a fair amount of blood panicked went to a and e they didn't seem too bothered as I'm In no pain and not soaking pads. Told me to wait and see go to my scan as planned Friday. Still bleeding today not massive amounts tho. Mostly brown some red no clots as such but a bit of brown stringy stuff again not every time I wipe. Sorry tmi! Still in no pain but going out of my mind with worry! Fri seems so long away even tho only a few days. I had no bleeding with my first and no one really talks about it. Anyone experienced the same and the question is did it end bad?!

Could you book a private scan? Sorry it’s so scary when you see blood but it will likely be okay. Have you had a scan before now? I would try and get one tomorrow for your own peace of mind x

@babybear02 I had a bleed at 9 weeks, was red with pain also so I just expected the worst, currently 27 weeks now! Unfortunately not everyone is as lucky but if you don't have pain and its more brown FX baby should be fine xxx

I had a reassurance scan at 7 weeks privately and they told me it was in the correct place so not eptopic and heartbeat was strong. My first scan is in 3 days I'm not in any pain but am still bleeding not flooding or anything. I did pass a brown stringy tissue like discharge earlier I don't know what to think! So many have said they bleed and were ok but so many others ended in mc. I'm
Losing my mind

Ring your early pregnancy assessment unit @babybear02 they may be able to scan you earlier. Try not to panic bleeding can be anything and some people bleed lots.

They are making me wait till Friday said it's good I'm not in any pain I'm not soaking pads.
I'm trying to stay calm I'm going in with the attitude expecting the worst but hoping for the best

That would be exactly my advice. Hope for the best but prepare for the worst. I've had bleeding in all my pregnancies. Some good and some bad. My friend just had it and went for an early scan to find twins!!! You just never know. Two more sleeps and fingers crossed its good news.

Hi @babybear02 I have heard that some women get blood around the time that they should have their period normally. Given that you are 12 weeks based no a 28day cycle you would have been due AF around now if you didn't get your BFP.

Also from what I have heard from my own down brown blood is not as worrying as red. Red is fresh, brown is old. If you can get an earlier scan then great, but if not try not too worry too much.

I had a MC 2 years ago at approx 12 weeks (I didn't know I was pregnant so not sure of exact dates) and if there is one thing I remember it is the pain, and the pain became before the blood for me. I didn't know what was wrong with me!

Had my 12 week scan unfortunately baby stopped developing at 8 weeks I have had a missed miscarriage. I've been given a few days to decide what to do but I really don't know! Medical management or surgery? Anyone had experience with this? We are devastated

Oh @babybear02 I'm so sorry, that's awful news - many hugs to you and your OH. I've lost a pregnancy before (although not via a missed miscarriage) and it hollows you out emotionally - do make sure you take the time to grieve and be kind to yourselves.

There's a thread full of people here who will better know what you're going through - I'm sure they'd be welcoming if you feel like you want to talk about it more over the next few days and weeks. All the best to you both.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/miscarriage/3591032-First-Pregnancy-Missed-Miscarriage-Part-III

I had exactly the same thing - started spotting at 11 weeks and 12 week scan was bad news

The process was over pretty quick for me though as whilst I had booked in to take the pill thing I actually started to miscarry naturally at 12+1

If I had the choice again though I would have opted for the surgery so at least you have the option of chromosome testing x

So sorry you had this outcome OP. It's heartbreaking

@babybear02 I’m so so sorry I really am. Personally having been through both and I had a DnC at 12 weeks, if I had the option I would opt for surgery. As much as there can be very little positive to come out of this as one of the other ladies said it could give you some answers ie if it was a chromosomal issue. I also found it less stressful than going through it myself. They do give you a perssary for cervical dilation and what I will say is ask for pain relief if you do go that route you don’t need to feel any pain. I’m so so sorry you have to make this decision my heart really breaks for you. Always here for a talk and I will be thinking of you x

I’m so sorry, I know how awful it is. I found reading the threads in the miscarriage/pregnancy loss bit on here (it’s under Body and Soul) a real help - I felt at least a bit more practically equipped and clearer on what was going to happen, and it helped me make the decision re surgery or another option. I went for surgery and I’m glad I did - it was at least straightforward and I didn’t have to see anything, which was my fear with the tablets.

Whatever you decide, make sure you take some time off work and look after yourself.

I'm so sorry I had a missed m.c last year at 8 weeks too! We thought we was 10 weeks. It's heart breaking and I'm so sorry.
I opted for a D&C. Was the best thing for me. Iv also had a m.c at home and it was extremely painful. and lasted for a few days. The D&C was over in one day and no pain at all xxxxxx

Also just want to say. The mental health aspect of miscarriage at home was harder for me. At the hospital they gave me so much support on the day. And sent me home with advice and help on aftercare etc. Doing it at home with my husband was very traumatic for us. I know you should probably speak to the team ASAP if you do decide to do the surgery because actually it sounds like your body is already having the m.c and you don't really have much time until it will be in fill swing and too late for surgery. Whatever you decide I hope your ok and take time from work as this is very upsetting for you both xxxx

@babybear02 I am so sorry to hear this. How devastating. I have been there twice before.

What's your initial thoughts on what you would like to do? I have tried both. For me the medical management failed and I ended up with surgical anyway as tissue got stuck. The second time I chose surgical as I found it very easy to deal with.

If there's any questions about either I'm happy to answer them.

I think I want surgery I have been spotting since Monday without getting worse I do t think mentally I could cope with seeing the little baby in the loo!! This baby was so desperately wanted I'm a mess! I know we can try again when this nightmare is all over and I'm healed physically and emotionally but if I'm honest I'm petrified it could happen again. I honestly have never felt so numb

@babybear02 oh I'm so sorry. I know the pain it's heartbreaking and so upsetting. You may feel sad when you see pregnant ladies when your out and about. And you may feel sad when you see friends or family baby updates online. Just to warn you. It really broke my heart every time someone knew announced they are having a baby or every time I saw a baby bump. honestly so many ladies on this sight know how you feel and your not alone, even though it feels like its a very lonely experience. just be kind to yourself and just be close with your partner. he must be very upset too. Xxxx

The only thing with surgery is that it is a blind procedure and so there's more risk involved. I would go for medical management personally, but that's my personal choice I guess.

Sorry for your loss, that last message came across as rather cold!
You will get through this, time is a great healer x

@babybear02 I was devastated after my first. Well and truly. It was, at that point, the worst thing that ever happened to me. I had already made a life for me, dp and baby so to have it snatched away is a lot.

Also continuing to be pregnant knowing it wasn't going anywhere really affected me. I was 9 wks when we first found out and 14 when I finally had the erpc.

The erpc was very quick and straightforward. No pain and barely any bleeding afterwards. Tbh I felt so relieved when it was done and the pregnancy was finally ended.

Trying again is frightening I agree, you will spend your next pregnancy preying everything goes well but chances are it probably will. I used to refer to a website with percentage of miscarriage at certain weeks to help me. It was a little milestone to get to.

You are super fertile after a miscarriage and if you want to try it's a good time to. I got cracking straight away after mine as I knew if I waited I would put myself off.