Rude reactions when you say you’re pregnant

[Jmcd2020]

Is it just me or does anyone else hate when people say they “knew” you were pregnant when you tell them, and not in a fun “oh I wondered that’s great news!” But in face in a really rude way? SIL really upset me by telling me how obvious it was when it was being kept quiet and that there was no need to have said when she’d worked it all out. Made me feel so bad!

I knew what this thread was going to be about. I'm sure I've seen this thread before.

Even worse when people outright ask you (particularly very publicly) before you're ready to announce.

My mother told me I couldn’t possibly be pregnant because she had just got a dog!

“What you? YOU are pregnant!? I can’t actually believe it?! YOU?” That’s what someone said to me. Repeatedly.

My son who was 9 at the time was delighted when we told him I was pregnant, but shortly afterwards said, “I guess that means you and dad have, you know, hmm hmm” wasn’t the reaction I was expecting.

It is annoying though for people to react as you’ve described. Takes away excitement from the announcement somewhat. It’s a a bit of a know it all response, plus rude.

People are unforgivably rude!!!

"Was it planned?" Said by someone in a new job I had met about twice. Wow.

My grandmothers reaction was to ask me if it was planned
Could have seen the point had me and dp not been together for 10 years and owned our home.

I told a work colleague that I thought I was close to and her response was 'oh, okay'.

My neighbour both times said 'I knew it!' From anyone else I would have been a bit but she was going through fertility struggles and other health issues so I put it down to it being the best way of coping so it didn't bother me.

MIL asked us 'was it planned?' about our second. DH immediately shut her down with 'mum that's incredibly rude, you don't ask people that' and she still countered with 'of course you do'. No social awareness at all.

I'm fully expecting that reaction... 19 weeks and haven't told anyone at work yet, planning on doing it at 25 weeks (as that's the latest) but I'm pretty sure a few have noticed my increasingly obvious bump so no doubt plenty of 'I knew it!' responses there!

Ive had genuine shock from close friends as most thought me and dh were 'one and done' as DD was a difficult baby (and is a spirited toddler 😂)

Just smile and nod.

Could be worse. My boss said “f**king hell, how old are you?”

'Really? I thought you'd be barren by now'. FIL's wife. I was 35 at the time.

@Mintjulia I think that was the implication with me as I was 40/41 when I gave birth. I am still 41 and we are ttc number two. Fully expect similar reactions!

I hate the “I knew it” gang. Even when you know that there is no possible way anyone could have already known. Drives me crazy!

The ‘I knew it’ people are so rude. How many other times have they thought you were pregnant and been wrong, but you don’t hear about? They didn’t ‘know it’ at all, it’s retrospective bias. And it takes the wind out of your sails, to be excited to tell someone and have them come back with ‘meh, already knew’. You didn’t.

People are rude! I am on baby number 4 and it's amazing how many people have said to me 'was it planned then' as if I couldn't have possibly planned to want 4 kids!!

Whether the baby was planned or not it's obviously wanted otherwise we wouldn't announce the pregnancy would we!
I actually had someone up for it, and said do you not think that question is quite rude and quite frankly none of your business if this baby was planned or not, just say congrats and keep thoughts to yourself!

I told a friend off for being rude when she harped on about how she knew and why did I waste time keeping it quiet. She fell out with me and hasn’t spoken to me since because I called her out. Awful... or should I’ve just said nothing?

When exDH and I told his mum I was pregnant she asked him if he was having a mid life crisis 🤷🏼‍♀️

I've been asked "was it planned" more than once. I am 26 and I've been married 5 years. I mean it's not that shocking.

Yes the was it planned question really annoys me. Firstly it’s non of your business, secondly why would you want to know that? Do you want a detailed schedule of my sex life? Why is that even something that you think is socially acceptable to ask??? as you can see it bothers me ever so slightly 😆

Was it planned?

About time too (I'd had two miscarriages and then an injury that put baby making plans on hold).

I didn't know you were trying (Well you wouldn't would you? It's not something you go round telling people, especially after two losses).

I’m curious op, why does the “ I knew it” comment bother you so much? No judgement just I don’t understand.
The planned thing is plain rude obvs.

"Haha, you're joking, right" - from my Dad!

My husbands nan said in front of me... are you sure about this 🙄