Too scared to go to scan appointment

[user00119922]

Hello

After miscarriage after miscarriage I finally got another BFP. I would be 7 weeks today. I am due to go for an early scan tomorrow (private clinic where I have been having fertility tests/treatment).

I am absolutely TERRIFIED to go and I just don't want to.

I have had no sickness what so ever, felt a bit 'icky' last week and the week before that but since Friday I have felt absolutely fine- do not feel pregnant at all.

I just know that I'll drive all that way tomorrow to be given bad news and I just don't think I'll take it very well.

I don't want to go and hear it but I know I have to.

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You can do this. The scan is scary but hopefully will be really positive. Can you treat yourself and be kind to yourself tonight? What time is your scan? Xxx

@Emelene it's at 12 tomorrow. I'm considering not going but know that's just ridiculous!

Just go OP, if something is wrong wouldn't you rather know now than at 12 weeks.. sorry to be blunt. I've had 2 losses at 7 and 14 weeks and felt the same way. Im currently cuddling my 7 week old daughter. Do something nice tonight as PP suggested, please come back and update, take care xx

I also had no symptoms in all 3 pregnancies so was positive my 3rd would go the same way... (also bled with clots through successful pregnancy) x

I didnt have any symptoms for the first 8 weeks OP and all was fine. You really need to go to the scan, is anyone going with you? X

Thank you for the replies.

My mum is coming with me, she booked the day off work and didn't really give me a choice. I would much rather be on my own if it's bad news because as much as I love her she has no tact 🤦‍♀️

I am so sorry for your previous loss-it is heartbreaking. Be kind to yourself. It is not surprising you are nervous. Early scans can be nerve wracking without the added emotions of having suffered a previous loss.

Try and be strong. Like the pp said-you can do this. Try and remember that you cannot change or influence the outcome of the scan-what will be will be. I have been where you are and know how nervous you will be feeling so just wanted to offer a handhold. As long as you are looking after yourself, then you are doing all you can.

Good luck for tomorrow and sending hugs.

OP I think you're me. So sorry for your losses and congratulstions on your new pregnancy. Everything you said in your first post was me last week. 2 mc's last year, had early viability scan last week at 7 weeks. Very few mild symptoms and just didn't feel pregnant, especially as with my first pregnancy I had really strong symptoms. I went expecting the worst and bad news. Had the scan and there was a baby with a heartbeat measuring bang on 7 weeks. It's still sinking in. Of course anxiety is through the roof again, pregnancy after loss is so hard isn't it. Don't forget, you are such a strong woman, you've coped with mc, you can do this. Keeping my fingers crossed for you. Please come back and update us. If you need more hand holding through this pregnancy come join us on "The graduates of TTC after pregnancy loss" thread, we're all in the same position and understand the anxieties that come with being pregnant again after a loss. All the best for tomorrow x

Thinking of you OP. Xx

Thinking of you

OP I'm so sorry for your previous losses, I can't begin to imagine what you're going through but going to your scan today takes a lot of courage! You're a brave and extremely strong woman, you can do this.

I'm keeping everything crossed and sending positive vibes your way! Let us know how you get on, you've always got a support network here either way

Tell the doctor/sonographer you're feeling nervous, they will understand. And it's OK to cry whatever happens. Good luck. Not too long to go now.

Just want to say good luck op! We're thinking of you!

Good luck op!

Hope it all goes well today xx

Good luck today, hope you get some reassurance

Good luck today Op. Please update when you feel able to thinking of you

Hoping for good news for you today xx

Thank you so much everyone for the kind words. After I read them I sobbed.

I then sobbed when I walked into the sonography room before the scan. I then sobbed when the lovely lady told me everything looks fine and I saw the little heartbeat.

I know I'm so lucky. I still feel very very anxious and it's still incredibly early so still don't want to get my hopes up just yet.

Thanks again everyone x

Oh that’s fabulous news ...just wiped a tear from my eyes...try and relax now.X

That is brilliant news-congratulations.x

It's only natural to be nervous, but each hurdle you cross, and each milestone you pass, and as each week rolls into the next, you are that bit closer to meeting your baby

All the best for a smooth and enjoyable pregnancy.xxx

Glad that you got good news 😊

Congratulations great news bit by bit, week by week it will get that tiny bit easier xx

@user00119922 I could have written your post 12 weeks ago. We had a loss a few years ago and it hit me hard. I wouldn't even try again. I fell pregnant in March and was so convinced it would end the same. I booked an early scan, had a panic attack in the waiting room and cried at everyone. We saw our little bean with that little flicker. I'll be 20 weeks tomorrow and I can feel him move, every day is a victory, every week is worth celebrating. You've got this.