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What age did you get pregnant?

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ErrolFinn · 25/06/2019 19:59

Hello everyone,

Whether you're pregnant or have been, I'm looking for a little wisdom here:

I know there's no 'right' age to have a child and that you can never really be fully prepared for what it entails - but what would you say is a good age to consider it? Obviously everyone is different but I'm just really interested to know what you would consider a "good" age to get pregnant and was that the age you had your DC?

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tisonlymeagain · 25/06/2019 20:03

Fell pregnant at 17, had a termination
Pregnant at 25 with DC1
Pregnant at 26 with DC2
Pregnant now at 39!

Ginger1982 · 25/06/2019 20:03

I got pregnant via IVF at 33 and had DS at 34. Ideally I would have liked to have been a couple of years younger but I didn't meet my DH until I was 29 and then we obviously had issues getting pregnant.

I don't think there is a 'right' age. If you're happy, settled and financially ready then that could be at any time.

tisonlymeagain · 25/06/2019 20:03

Oops should add, my view is around 30 is probably the perfect age.

Trixibell79 · 25/06/2019 20:03

30, 32, 36. Married at 29. My career was established and we had bought a house so it seemed a good time for us both stability wise

SausageSimon · 25/06/2019 20:06

I was pregnant at 18 and had him at 19.
For me personally it was the right age, I wouldn't change a thing. But I know for 99.9% of people that age is horrendous

I don't think there is a right age, for some it's very young like me and others don't feel ready until 40!

Toska · 25/06/2019 20:07

I was first pregnant at 25 and this ended in a miscarriage, another pregnancy at the same age that ended again and finally pregnant for keeps with my DD at 26. I would say that 25 was a good age for me but I had a degree, husband and a mortgage and I think it had more to do with those factors than my age to be honest. My Dsis had a baby at the same age as me but in completely different circumstances and I would say that wasn't the best time for her.

CountFosco · 25/06/2019 20:07

The age at which you are in a supportive and stable marriage with someone who wants to have children with you. I think that is unlikely (but not impossible) to happen before 25 these days.

shiningstar2 · 25/06/2019 20:08

I got pregnant at 22 at had DD at 23 back in 1975. It was a bit early for me as got pregnant immediately after my marriage. The plan was to have a baby at 25 ...enabling 2 years work and some money for furniture and baby things. We did have a flat and a mortgage but literally had a bed and a cooker. The plan was to live on dh's pay and buy something for the flat every month with mine. Hahahaha. Morning sickness set in with a vengence. Had just changed jobs so ended up having to leave. Absolutely totally broke. No childcare or nursery anywhere near. Mother only 44 and in full time work at her peak so no parental support. 25 would have been so much better but then I wouldn't have had my lovely daughter. All worked out in the end and still married to same lovely husband 45 years later

DramaAlpaca · 25/06/2019 20:08

I got pregnant at 28 & had DC1 at 29. It was the perfect time & age for me. Everyone's different, there's no right age. One of my friends was 21 with her first child & that was right for her, another was 44 having her one & only & that was the right time for her.

CountFosco · 25/06/2019 20:10

Forgot to say, I wasn't ready to have DC until my late 30s. Obviously from an environmental POV it's better to delay having children as late as possible but can't say that was much of a factor for me.

firstimemamma · 25/06/2019 20:13

Got pregnant at 27
Has ds at 28

ChubbyMummy12 · 25/06/2019 20:14

1st at 18
2nd at 23.

BillyAndTheSillies · 25/06/2019 20:14

27 when I had DS1 and will be 31 when I have DS2.
The age has worked for me and DH, but I know it's also quite young for the area I live in. Personally I wouldn't have waited much longer.

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ErrolFinn · 25/06/2019 20:16

Thanks for the replies everyone.
I guess the reason I was thinking about this was my DH and I are considering TTC next year at 26/27 (me) and 29 (him) but all my friends are childless and think we are mad for considering it. My parents have also expressed an opinion that we are too young.

We are both graduates with professional jobs, a mortgage and savings so I think we should be fine. However, everyone's comments regarding enjoying our twenties and how we will regret it is causing niggling doubts in my mind!

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Dec2019mumtobe · 25/06/2019 20:19

Married at 32.
Pregnant at 32.
TFMR at 33, sadly.

Took several months to get pregnant, plus a bit of waiting time for genetics results before we could try again.

So pregnant again at 33.
Will be 34 when I give birth.

Hoping to have another when I'm 36ish.....

Youngandfree · 25/06/2019 20:19

I don’t think age was relevant for me but as long as I was in a stable relationship (married), had a good job with maternity benefits, my own house and savings in the bank then I was happy to go ahead and have a baby. I was 28 having my first and 30 having my second(last).

AnneTwackie · 25/06/2019 20:20

It depends what else you want to achieve or do before you have children. The adventures don’t have to stop they just take a bit more planning. Personally I found being pregnant in my 20’s much easier than being pregnant in my 30’s and I had more energy and was more fun. However, i’m More confident as a parent in my 30’s and have more money and security. You can make ‘mum’ friends too. You should do what you want to do.

Elllicam · 25/06/2019 20:20

I think you are probably about the ideal age, old enough to have some experience and young enough to have a good few fertile years. I was 30 when I fell pregnant with my first which was fine but I’ve had another 3 babies since then and I had to space them much more closely than I would have liked in order to have the family size I wanted before my fertility waned.

TeachesOfPeaches · 25/06/2019 20:21

Lilac3 · 25/06/2019 20:21

Early-late 20s having my 3.
It was perfect for us.

We have a great life now at 35 and 40, while many of our circle have babies and toddlers, or yet to start.

But then I guess they 'enjoyed' their 20s in ways that we couldn't

lovemylkids43 · 25/06/2019 20:22

17.20.23.27 and 41 !!!

Nofunkingworriesmate · 25/06/2019 20:23

37 44

Hayls17 · 25/06/2019 20:24

Pregnant with DD at 25, currently pregnant with DC2 at 28. Perfect age for us, we did the partying in our younger days and have both worked hard to establish a career so it doesn’t feel too early to settle down.

AnthonyCrowley · 25/06/2019 20:26

22yo.

I wouldn't change a thing. DD is now 18yo and I feel I have my whole life ahead of me still.....I mean I know I don't. Technically I guess I'm middle aged but I know people my age who are having babies or have small kids and I guess I'm glad I'm done with all of that.

LorelaiRoryEmily · 25/06/2019 20:28

Pregnant at 31, 32 when ds was born. 12 months trying for dc2 now. I wish I’d never gone back on the pill after having ds

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