What age did you get pregnant?

[ErrolFinn]

Hello everyone,

Whether you're pregnant or have been, I'm looking for a little wisdom here:

I know there's no 'right' age to have a child and that you can never really be fully prepared for what it entails - but what would you say is a good age to consider it? Obviously everyone is different but I'm just really interested to know what you would consider a "good" age to get pregnant and was that the age you had your DC?

I’m 36 now!

27
32(mc)
32(mc)
33
35(mc)
36
37

I'm 41 and done now!

1st I was 16 shes now nearly 10 😊
2nd 24 nearly 2 now
Currently pregnant with 3rd at 26
For me personally 24/25 was the right age for me. 16 was hard going to young for me.

Started ivf at 25, pregnant at 26 due to give birth to my first just after my 27th birthday

I was 30, 33 and 39 . I had travelled , had fun and ready for the selflessly that children need. It was the perfect time

34 now with our first - will be 35 just after the little one arrives.

Of our group of friends in the city we now live in, we were still the first to get pregnant. Most of them have decided to be child-free so we'll likely be the only ones with kids. We've made other parent friends through NCT and will hopefully find more when DC arrives and we can get out and about.

Leaving it this late was the best choice for us - got married three years ago and have been together nearly 10 years, but we knew we wanted to travel first!

Didn’t feel remotely ready for settling down until 35. Pregnant at 37.

Dc1 born when i was 20
Dc2 born when i was 22
Now 24 and pregnant with Dc3

I do wish i waited longer before having Dc1.. i was young and naive. And now have a very stressful life and envy all my childless friends who go out partying/travelling and have no care in the world.. but of course i love my children and they are my life now :) ...(but i wish i waited until i was 25)

Don't listen to your friends in this case. Just because they're not ready for a baby, doesn't mean you're not. Your circumstances sound great and you're at a perfect biological age to begin a family. If you feel ready then go for it and don't wait around for your friends to catch up.

There is only a small chance of getting pregnant each month (something like 20-30% I think) and while you could conceive straight away, you could also be unlucky and need years of trying and potential fertility treatments first. Besides, the older you get, the more chance of miscarriage and chromosomal problems. They're unlikely for a while yet but it's something to think about.

Good luck whatever you decide!

Dc1 pg at 24 had him day before I turned 25.
Dc2 pg at 25 had her at 26.
Dc3 at 28 (by far the easiest)
And currently pg with dc4 and 37 next week - this time is waaaaaaaaaaaaaay harder! Like I literally cannot explain how much more difficult it is and extra strain on my body and fatigue/exhaustion etc etc! And have been ‘relatively’ fit for all 4!
I was married at 24 (still together and happily married now), had finished uni at 21, and had a good job when I fell pregnant first time! Personally from my experience I would recommend kids before you hit 30s as I found it easier then, but everyone is different! I had been told I had infertility issues and was having investigations so we weren’t being careful!

Got pregnant for the first time at 31 and gave birth at 32.

MC1 at 34
MC2 at 34

I’m now 32 weeks pregnant with DC2. I’ll be 35 when he’s born (just!).

Dc 1 was pregnant at 23 had him at 24 ds2 pregnant and had him at 25 im now 27 and they are crazy but perfect it was the perfect time for me with my dp nearly 10 years i think it really comes down to where you are in life.

Miscarriage at 28.

DS1 at 30.
DS2 at 32.
DD at 34.

Had been in the Army,then lived in Italy,before children,was a SAHM until the youngest was 11.Perfect for me.

I'd say late 20s very early 30s ideal time for many people.

I married age 28, got pregnant at 34 and 39.

OP I would say, if your gut is telling you you’re ready then that’s as good a time as any. I turned 27 and it was like a light switch after years of feeling meh about having kids I suddenly needed a baby. I fell pregnant immediately but miscarried. Had a second miscarriage also at 27.
At 28 I fell pregnant for a third time and had my daughter at 28.
30 now and pregnant again, will be just 31 when baby is born.
You sound sensible and in a stable, loving place with your DH. Don’t worry about what others think, it’s yours and your DH’s choice, not theirs :)

DC1 21
DC2 23
DC3 24
DC4 33

I’m 33 now (pregnant with dc4) I enjoyed being a younger mum, wouldn’t change it- as for your friends...someone’s got to be first!!

Been with dp since 16- now 23. Pregnant with ds at 18 had him at 19, pregnant with dd at 21 and had her at 22.

31 (unplanned but great age I think)
33 (planned)

I know someone who adopted a baby at age 55. Not ideal in my opinion for either of them.

Met DH, married him and fell pregnant at 29, gave birth at 30. At 29 I also made a pretty drastic career change and got cut off by my sister who had been my lifelong best friend, so 29 was an age to remember for me

23, 25, 29 and 33. I don't think any ages were right or wrong although my body found it easier to carry baby at 23 and 25 and I was less tired, my mind was also less anxious when I was younger. Financially nothing much has changed, sure if we'd have waited I'd have been ft at work for longer and we'd be better off maybe but we'd not have had 4 kids if we started in our 30s I don't think. I'm not a planner though and it's worked for us so I think go with what you want at the time, there's only so much control you can have over stability of your finances, health and relationship too. X

First pregnant at 17, had him at 18.
Subsequent babies 19, 22, 25, 27.
Two marriages, never on benefits even as a teenager, before anyone says I was too young to support them.
Now a grandmother, late 40's and I'm knackered by the time I give the little GC back.
I take my hat off to ladies who mother in their 40's. I don't have the stamina now.
Going to retrain in a new career next year. My mothering days are long behind me.

26, 30, 31.

I wanted kids by the time I was 25. I was pregnant at 29.

With hindsight that was a good thing. At 22 I was in a relationship with a lovely guy (still friends) but it was never gonna last. And after that I had a (2 year!) rebound boyfriend. So I'm glad I didn't get pregnant then as it would have been complicated now!

Also returned to uni and did my teacher training at 24 so wouldn't have been able to do that (or would have been harder!)

I got married at 27.

29 was a good age for me but my one regret is it meant I only had 3 kids when I would have liked 4 but I knew I didn't want them past 35 if possible and I waited to have my 3rd anyway due to raging pnd!!

Nothing wrong with being an older mum but it's not for me.

Pregnant at 26, had DS at 27. We'd been married a year when I fell pregnant, had a mortgage and stable jobs so it was a good time for us. If we have a second it will hopefully be when I'm about 30/31.

We're the first of our friends to have a baby but it was the right time for us, and I think our friends will be following suit soon!

Pregnant now with my first. I'll be 40 a month or so before she is born.