When did you tell people you’re pregnant??

[Starlight84]

Hi everyone. Just wondering when you told people about your pregnancy? I’m about 5 weeks and told a couple of friends I can trust. I’ve not told my employer yet or any family! Im going to call the birthing centre this week xx

When I knew everything was going ok. So after the chromosome tests and 12 week scan.

After 12 week scan

Dc1 about6 weeks - had HG so sick from conception to delivery!

Dc 2 about 8weeks as work needed to know for risk assessment.

I told my sister and my best friend (and husband) when we first found out at three weeks. Everyone else after the dating scan at 13 weeks.

My family from 7 weeks. My manager from 8 weeks. My deputy manager from 10 weeks. Friends and extended family won’t know until after the dating scan (assuming things go well).

A few close friends and parents knew all the way through the ivf process. We really appreciated their support. OH also had to tell a couple work colleagues due to work circumstances.

We then told the rest of the family and anyone else we are close to and then we put it on Fb after our 12 week scan

Told our son at 8 weeks.

Told family at 8 weeks.

Told work at 9 weeks for risk assessment and told everyone else at 17 weeks.

Husband straightaway, his brother at 10 weeks because we were going on holiday together, both sets of parents after 12 week scan. Work and friends around 14 weeks.

Told my dp when I got the positive, test
Mum when I got the confirmation from Dr at 10 weeks (had a previous mc so wanted to wait for 2 missed af)
Mum told dad same day 😂
Told dps parents that weekend
Dad told family at 12 weeks (family party, news sharing time, he had full premission)
Told work at 13 weeks when I had my scan
Social media post a couple of days later.

18 weeks as unsure all was ok an needed extra consultants as have medical condition aswell

The only people who know at the min are OH, and my mum, dad and sister as we went on holiday with them and would never have been able to hide the no alcohol situation! Otherwise I would have waited until 12 weeks to tell family.
Everyone else will find out after 12 weeks which is end of June! Seems so far away lol!

I'm 18 weeks tomorrow and we haven't told anyone yet not even parents! Waiting for 20 week scan, only really started showing and feeling pregnant this week!

Family - 10 weeks because we'd had a couple of early scans and it was Christmas time! We could've waited until January but couldn't resist a lovely Christmas surprise for people!

Everyone else - 12 or 13 weeks I think

Congratulations on your pregnancy

I told my mum as a matter of course, when I knew for sure without waiting for the 12 week scan because I spoke to her regularly and knew she would be a support if things didn't work out but would share my joy (fertility issues).

DH tried to do similarly with his parents but was told he was wrong to do so because I might lose it. Nice. That excuse for not celebrating lasted throughout the pregnancy and the next 18 years! I'm beginning to think they may be a tad toxic

Told close family at 14 weeks and starting telling close friends after that. It would’ve been more common knowledge at around 18 weeks.

Thanks ladies. I have told a couple of close friends. I haven’t told my employer or family yet. I have no idea what I’ll tell my work if my booking appointment and first scan are during work hours 🙈 I’m dreading telling my mum and I’m scared what my children will say! Feeling anxious about it all if I am honest! Xx

I’m 7+5 . I’ve told my manager, because I’m entitled to time off for appts etc so might as well take advantage
DH told him Mam , just because she is having a health scare and it due a high risk operation soon
Ive got a scan booked for 10 weeks and if it looks ok from that I will tell my dad a few days later on his 60th bd
As for other ppl I’m not sure. It’s getting awkward trying to get out of nights out etc so I prob will tell close friends and work colleagues as if anything goes wrong at that point I will probably tell them anyway
Will not be putting it on fb or anything though and I’ll tell them to keep it on the low

Ah and I’ve literally just been asked to go on another night out. I’m using the excuse that it will have to be after payday this time .

Your booking appointment and first scan are in normal daytime hours so depending on what your work hours are it's likely you will need time off work. So far I've managed to do booking appointment at 9 weeks, 12 week scan, 15 week scan for cervical length and 16 week midwife appointment by "working from home", got another scan on Thursday at 18 weeks and then 20 week scan in 2 weeks to try and cover! I find casually dropping into conversation the day before "is it ok to work from home tomorrow" and not ever really giving a reason usually does the trick, I think if I gave loads of notice it would be obvious but who knows maybe my boss has figured me out!

Parents at 7 weeks, in laws a few days later along with my sister and 3 best friends.
Work, other relatives and one or 2 other close friends at 12 weeks and that's it.
Not bothered telling anyone else and am now 20 weeks. People will figure it out if I see them.

Partner told the day I found out about 6 weeks. Both sets of parents after 12 week scan, work at 18 weeks because I was hospitalised. Friends as and when I seen them after 16 weeks. Social media still doesn't know and won't find out until about 3 weeks after he is here as want family and friends to meet him before announcing to everyone else.

Husband straight away.

Parents not long after we found out say 5 weeks or so.

Pretty much everyone else (aside from a handful of very close friends who new from around 12 weeks) we told after she was born.

I am deputy manager in a preschool 5 days a week so I will definitely struggle. I’m partly not telling work due to knowing they could gossip. I think if I say you’re the only ones who know so if it gets out you have breached confidentiality as I’ll know where it’s come from? Xx

Yes that’s what I thought when telling my manager. If it got out he’d have more to worry about than just me being pissed off.

I told my mum the day i got it confirmed by fertility clinic, i did a home test a few days before so knew going in. My mum was with me for embryo transfer so she was waiting anxiously for my official test day lol.
Told my friend the same day as she also knew we were going through ivf.
Told my sis and brother in law a week later.
My OH told one of his brothers around a week after we found out. We're holding off on telling the rest of his family until I'm 10 weeks, my OH other brother is getting married in a few weeks so don't want to take away from his day plus my MIL would actually burst if we told her and she couldn't tell anyone!!
I'm going to tell work around 12 weeks, im only there 5 months so feel like telling them later just seems better.